If someone insults your wife

[rozeena]

dats easi bro jus grab him n beat him up reali bad. so he knws neva 2 insult anuva women again lol.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

those who insult are arrogant and deserve to be ignored, but if someone sends a criticism... if it seems constructive then talk to your wife about it.

i see insults as such minor things, they are simply people giving away good deeds...

 

[jimbo123]

those who insult are arrogant and deserve to be ignored, but if someone sends a criticism... if it seems constructive then talk to your wife about it.

i see insults as such minor things, they are simply people giving away good deeds...

I don't share this view. I think that once you let someone seriously insult you... in any situation, not just with your wife they carry on doing it with other people.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

I don't share this view. I think that once you let someone seriously insult you... in any situation, not just with your wife they carry on doing it with other people.

the prophet sallallahi alaihi wasallaam ignored much insult towards himself, his beloved sahabi and his beloved family, he even ignored physical abuse such as the event when they left entrails on his back whilst he performed sajaadah and the event where the kaafir tried to strangle him and abu bakr saved him. All he did was give them Allahs curse, why cant we do the same? we can just say "Allah is not pleased with this action, may he guide you or curse you", if that doesnt put fear in them then leave them.

I see what your saying though, sometimes its destructive to ignore, we gotta do it wisely

 

[jimbo123]

the whole chivalrous thing is all wonderful, and fairy tale like.. but I think most women agree, they'd rather have a live doting husband than take their chance on one that answers the call of every dog that barks and possibly come home with a racoon face every so often..

Besides that, I don't think it is wise to take your lady to an area that doesn't suit you both demographically..
men being flirtatious of harassing usually happens in poor neighborhoods, Italy, and the baltimore grayhound station .. I'd say go shopping uptown instead of downtown, avoid Italy unless on tour, and take the train instead of the bus and you won't find yourself wondering what to do in such a hypothetical situation, since you simply won't be faced with them

Yeah you can avoid trouble this way but it's never fool proof.

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

the prophet sallallahi alaihi wasallaam ignored much insult towards himself, his beloved sahabi and his beloved family, he even ignored physical abuse such as the event when they left entrails on his back whilst he performed sajaadah and the event where the kaafir tried to strangle him and abu bakr saved him. All he did was give them Allahs curse, why cant we do the same? we can just say "Allah is not pleased with this action, may he guide you or curse you", if that doesnt put fear in them then leave them.

I see what your saying though, sometimes its destructive to ignore, we gotta do it wisely

good point brother. but its your wife/someone else thats being insulted. if it was yourself, that yeah, fair enough, do what you want.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

good point brother. but its your wife/someone else thats being insulted. if it was yourself, that yeah, fair enough, do what you want.

like i sed before sis, if ignoring makes it worse then dont ignore it, if it makes it better then ignore it.

we gotta use our wise judgement in this case

 

[MaiCarInMtl]

As a woman, I'd like to think my husband would defend me (I wouldn't think twice of defending my husband if anyone said anything bad about him in front of me). Of course, I am not married so perhaps I am wrong here.

I say beat the man with your shoe! (Sorry, I just find it quite funny that some people find this beyond insulting - I once saw it on a soccer clip - Bwahahahaha!!!).

 

[tomtomsmom]

I am married and have had this situation come up a few times. In every case my husband, being the manly man that he is, wanted to bash the persons face in. I stopped him because I didn't feel like it was worth it. I have a very hot temper myself but others words are nothing to me. I know who I am and what I care about. No one can take that away from me no matter how nasty their words are.

 

[islamirama]

Well i would say it depends.

If you there's more than one guy or the guy is big and confronting him would put you and her in danger then i would suggest ignoring them and move on.

if it's some chump you can clobber or its in open public then you can tell them off and even try to get public on your side in cursing him out if you play your cards right.

Lastly, you should defend the honor of your wife and loved ones. That too is jihaad.

and now an amusing but true story...

there were two couples walking in the park (in britian) and some guy started picking on them and making fun of the hijab of the wife. The guy took his wife home and came back out (with a bat i think) and beat the crap out of the guy in the park. I think he needed an ambulance, and no one was there to clearly identify who did it and the big mouth learned his lesson

 

[jimbo123]

Well i would say it depends.

If you there's more than one guy or the guy is big and confronting him would put you and her in danger then i would suggest ignoring them and move on.

if it's some chump you can clobber or its in open public then you can tell them off and even try to get public on your side in cursing him out if you play your cards right.

Lastly, you should defend the honor of your wife and loved ones. That too is jihaad.

and now an amusing but true story...

there were two couples walking in the park (in britian) and some guy started picking on them and making fun of the hijab of the wife. The guy took his wife home and came back out (with a bat i think) and beat the crap out of the guy in the park. I think he needed an ambulance, and no one was there to clearly identify who did it and the big mouth learned his lesson

I wouldn't say that was an amusing story!

 

[ISLAMASWEENEY]

You shoudnt be nasty to a woman weather you are angry with her or not.

 

[Kittygyal]

Salamualikum.

^ Well your nasty to an Revert Muslim American dudette.

 

[Abu Musab]

I am trying to prepare myself for marriage.

If someone verbally insults your spouse what is the correct and best way to react?

Islam teaches us to be kind to those that are evil to us but I'm not sure if that teaching should be applied to that situation

The most correct way to act would be to make sure the person can't insult your wife again, you decide what that means :|

 

[papa_smurf]

Depends on the gender? Ladies insulting each other is purely jealousy.

But Bro! if a man insults your wife, kick the hell out of him, full stop!
I'm sure your missus is a wonderful muslimah, why let some prick interfere in your affairs it's totally ludicrous.

 

[jimbo123]

Depends on the gender? Ladies insulting each other is purely jealousy.

But Bro! if a man insults your wife, kick the hell out of him, full stop!
I'm sure your missus is a wonderful muslimah, why let some prick interfere in your affairs it's totally ludicrous.

lol I'm not married it's just a hypothetical question.

I wouldn't mind a wife that knows how to argue (with another lady) because sometimes that's what you gotta do. Just so long as she doesn't use bad language or get into a fight.

 

[Qingu]

Responding to insults with violence and threats.... because that always works out wonderfully for you Muslims?

"Sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me."

 

[jimbo123]

Responding to insults with violence and threats.... because that always works out wonderfully for you Muslims?

If you're talking about the cartoon thing.. that's a time that debating and protesting would have been better. It depends on the level of the insult and what's required of the situation - sometimes you can ignore, sometimes a dirty look will suffice, sometimes you can pull him towards you with both arms and give a dirty look.

"Sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me."

Names can hurt a lot. Like I said before if someone insults you and you ignore them they might do it to someone else. After a while they might do something worse such as touching her... and then it could lead to something even more worse...

 

[Abu Musab]

Responding to insults with violence and threats.... because that always works out wonderfully for you Muslims?

"Sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me."

Maybe it's because it's the only language them kaafirs understand?

I prefer to crush the problem while it's still a weed, instead of waiting for it to become a tree and then only going to do something about it.

 

[Qingu]

Maybe it's because it's the only language them kaafirs understand?

I prefer to crush the problem while it's still a weed, instead of waiting for it to become a tree and then only going to do something about it.

This sounds like Bush's foreign policy! (Replace "kaafirs" with "Muslims," of course.) I mean, why wait for Saddam to get nuclear weapons when we think he might have them?