إذا بلغت الجارية تسع سنين ف هي امرأة
“When a girl [jaariyah] reaches [balaghat]9 years old [tis'a sineen], then she is [fa hiyya] a woman [imra'ah] ”
(Recorded in Sunan al “Tirmidhi”, Kitab al Nikah [Book on Marriage] 1027).
Imam Al-Nawawi said:
Aisha said;
(تَزَوَّجَنِيرَسُولُاللهِ-صَلَّىاللهُعَلَيهِوَسَلَّمَ- لِسِتِّسِنِينَ،وَبَنَىبِيوَأَنَابِنْتُتِسْعِسِنِينَ وقالمالكوالشَّافعيُّوأبوحنيفة: حدُّذلكأنتطيقالجماع قالالدَّاوديُّ: وكانتعائشةقدشبَّتشباباًحسناً- رَضِيَاللهُعَنْهَا‘ Aishah said: “The Messenger of Allah (Muhammad) married me when I was six years old and was with me (i.e. began to live together) when I was 9 years old.”
Malik (Ibn Anas), Imam Abu Hanifa and Ash-Shafi’ie (ALL respected scholars of Islam) have said: A Restriction Limit [arabic: hadd] (should be placed between marriage partners until maturity) that is able for (tuTeeq = able to handle) Sexual intercourse. (al jamaa')
“Al-Dawudi said: “And Aishah’s body had been matured. [i.e. reached ‘good Youthfulness’ (Shabaaban husna)] – may Allah be pleased with her“
(“Sharh al-Nawawi” 9/207 [Explanation of Sahih Muslim]).
LiveScience.com says:
There is a range, and this has been part of the problem of establishing the “normal” age of puberty. Girls might enter full-blown puberty anytime between ages 9 and 15. (LiveScience.com, The Truth Behind Early Puberty | LiveScience)
Young women will differ in Balaaghah (physical maturity) depending on a range of factors, especially depending on Where they Live and their Biological makeup;
Any marriage by a people is based on the cultural norms of the time. The marriage should be based on social norms. The Prophet Muhammad married according to the social norms of his society (marriage of younger women to older men was the norms), and we marry according to the social norms that we live in. Social norms are not a problem, so long as they do not contradict firmly set ethics, and it has been proven above that this marriage did not cause any harm to Aisha whatsoever, but caused a great deal of good. Every other marriage should be judged individually based on its own circumstances.
Conclusion
The word ‘Paedophilia’ is a subjective term. Some countries legalise marriage at the age of 16, others legalise it earlier and and others later. So in one country you’re a paedophile and in another you’re not? Who decides?
There needs to be One firm ethical rule; If there will be harm in a marriage and intimate relations, such a person should not have intimate relations. If there will be no harm – then it is perfectly suitable for such a young adult to get married of their choice.
If you question how one can figurethis out?, it is clear from seeing signs of their physical growth, aswell as seeing how this young adult is mentally and emotionally. If they are suited for it – then it is their right to go ahead with such a marriage relationship.
Allah made everyone different thats what makes them special,so no matter what ppl say just remember you're SPECIAL!! "You are with the one you love"
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Personally I think the problem mainly lies in how people observe a culture outside of their own using their own "standards". They read that Aisha (radiallahu anhu) was young and so they look at the young ones in their culture and conclude that that was what she must have been like. They overlook the fact that the young ones in their culture have an entirely different atmosphere/influence altogether. Especially 1400 years ago, there were no ridiculous media to "influence" the youth. If you were to look at our youth of today, even those in their 20s. In my opinion they are very immature in their way of thinking, I believe younger folks from the past were definitely more mature than them.
And He gives you of all that you ask Him; and if you count Allah's favors, you will not be able to number them; most surely man is very unjust, very ungrateful.
Only the ignorant do not understand Allah's wisdom behind that marriage. People require 3D glasses to see the special effects of a movie, so too they require a brain that works to understand the wisdom of that marriage.
Ya Allah, I want Khilafa back.
Unite those who yearn to be ruled by your laws and who seek none other than your guidance and pleasure.
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