Hii i justt want to know the best age for marriage in islam because marriage stop from haram things like love,zina etc plzz tell mee what can we do?
can we ask our parents to do our marriage before 18 ?????????
Somebody else might answer your question better than me.
To marriage in general. Know your intention. Fulfillment of desires is one of the many aspects in a marriage but not the main one. This I have seen with many people that the soul reason is they marry for the fulfillment of their desires and down the road of their marriage they are rather unhappy. Marriage in Islam should be the completion of the deen. With that comes success as the intention of the marriage is build on top of deen. This way one will prevent himself/herself do injustice to one's spouse. More blessings will also in'sha'Allah come out of it.
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم،
Assalam alaikoum dear brother or sister,
Fist of all, I personally don't believe there is a particular age for marriage. It depends on the time, the context and the person involved. A person has to be ready in every way of the word: physically, mentally, emotionaly, financaly... There should at least be a base/ a fundament. Hormones shouldn't be the main reason (as was said above). Marriage comes with responsibilities and should be taken as a serious matter. Especially in this day and age, where a lot of people get divorced (The statistics are shocking).
Secondly, I think people should learn to deal with these hormonal feelings in a good and healthy way. There's nothing wrong with practicing some discipline and self controll. In fact it's a beautiful art, once it's mastered.
And lastly, I like to advise you and anyone else to work on yourself as a person, before thinking of marriage. So when the time is right, you'll have something to offer and bring into this marriage. Don't think lightly of it...
I'm not saying you aren't ready. But I do believe marriage takes more than to physically be ready. May Allah (swt) guide you every step of the way.
Best age is when you are ready mentally, physically and financially. Mentally meaning you are mature enough to understand marriage is serious business of giving each other their islamic rights, managing relationships and making compromises to make it work. If all you want is a partner to sleep with then you are not ready. If your parents are willing to financially support you two till you get on your feet then that is fine, however, are you mature enough to take on the responsibility of a husband? If you think you are ready then talk to your parents.
It is about maturity. If you cannot control the love and lust thing, then you are not mature enough yet for sure. Marriage is no walk in the park, it is serious business and not disposable.
That being said, my grandparents and great grandparents got married very young. The women were 15-18 and men 17-21. Their maturity levels were quite advanced compare to today's teenager though. Probably because no vidya gaemz, retarded music and excessive TV on top of having adult chores to do from a young age which made them very responsible.
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