I ThInK I FoUnD My SoULmAte

tru say bro

find the one marry the one no long thing coz haram situations just dont help


o wait take that bak, u gotta get a car/house/job and please every single fish of their side first actually oh: so yeh its a long thing

format_quote Originally Posted by IbnAbdulHakim

o wait take that bak, u gotta get a car/house/job and please every single fish of their side first actually oh: so yeh its a long thing

i know :blind: lets just all give up

for one moment i thought you found chachi jee

i believe these financial stuff is just all hoo dee haa daa haaa

like imagine you like 20 you still in education, found someone marriage able, marry them, who said you need a massive weddin, and im sure they can just move in with you if they wan lol, and then when your able you can buy a bigger house or summin, and cars and all that can also come

like hadhrat Ali (ra) he didnt have anythin to give Hadhrat Fatima (Ra) for a weddin gift, so he sold his shield to Hadhrat Uthman (ra) who in return gave it back tooo him as a weddin prezzy subhanallah! so the moral is, marriage isnt like all this money, its eheazeee people complicate it

but then also lol im gona refute my previous post

like you cant put the girl in a awkward situation, like she should have her own space and that you cant expect her to be kool, livin in a crowded house full of your ugly relatives

One of the ways for increasing your Rizq which is very commonly overlooked is actually to get married. I mean, you need to be somewhat stable, but you shouldn't wait till you're making 6 figures to get married..

^ its not overlooked

it just cant be overcome

format_quote Originally Posted by Abu Sayyad

One of the ways for increasing your Rizq which is very commonly overlooked is actually to get married.

thank youuuu lol someone agrees lol

like all this stuff will come, car, house, diamond rings

jus get married 1st lol!

but the girl should have some sort of security feelin first aswell

Girls dont actually mind moving into a crowded house! As long as everyone treats her nice.
what they are apprehensive about is everybody dumping ALL their responsibilities on her and her having to rush around and wait on everybody hand and foot, until at the end of the day she is exhausted and really does want to move out!
apart from that its nice to have a big family

format_quote Originally Posted by IbnAbdulHakim

^ its not overlooked

it just cant be overcome

Soo true!

jus get married 1st lol!

Ameen!

Wow SubhanAllah oh:

format_quote Originally Posted by Sahabiyaat

Girls dont actually mind moving into a crowded house! As long as everyone treats her nice.
what they are apprehensive about is everybody dumping ALL their responsibilities on her and her having to rush around and wait on everybody hand and foot, until at the end of the day she is exhausted and really does want to move out!
apart from that its nice to have a big family

subhanallah mashallah @ yaa agreed big families are better,

also many girls often forget one massive factor, they expect the guy to buy them a massive house or some luxurious flat with one bedroom lol

erm erm what happens to the guys parents? he has to fulfill their rights aswell so any good son, and any good wife will want her in laws their and with her!

this fits in this thread lol

http://www.islamicboard.com/islamic-...dilemmass.html

format_quote Originally Posted by Abu Sayyad

One of the ways for increasing your Rizq which is very commonly overlooked is actually to get married. I mean, you need to be somewhat stable, but you shouldn't wait till you're making 6 figures to get married..

Hmm ok I didnt read the posts properly before

Its true that you dont need the 6 figures but sometimes the dude wants to 'feel' financially stable enough to provide for his bride (Insha'Allah)....And I guess....well personally I know of people who are in the same situation...

But in reference to the 'lines'.....its sad when stuff like that happens, people get to 'know' one another, get caught up in emotional hoohaa and then figure that they aint made for one another. Pffft!

format_quote Originally Posted by JσℓιєFℓєυя

But in reference to the 'lines'.....its sad when stuff like that happens, people get to 'know' one another, get caught up in emotional hoohaa and then figure that they aint made for one another. Pffft!

i would like an explenation of what is meant by "Pffft!" right here.

I am certain it bares great significance to explaining what you are attempting to say


so please expand

many people know from the start, but for some reason they still decide to carry on you know

and lol yes please expand pfft

Hmmm.....

Its not important....But what chachi said is also true, some people know from the start but then the other person convinces you that you're the one....which is almost like the line in the poem about fun not love....Its just time pass and blaaarrrffff

Nice lines btw

format_quote Originally Posted by JσℓιєFℓєυя

Hmm ok I didnt read the posts properly before

Its true that you dont need the 6 figures but sometimes the dude wants to 'feel' financially stable enough to provide for his bride (Insha'Allah)....And I guess....well personally I know of people who are in the same situation...

Yes. That's exactly what happens..the brothers for a variety of reasons very much fear proposing to a sister. You have no idea. Top of the list of fears are a) scared of being rejected and 2) fearing that they won't be able to provide for her. The fact is, brothers are intimidated by sisters for a variety of reasons.

So what happens on the sisters side? They're not being proposed to, and so they say: 'why should I do nothing and wait, I'll complete my education' and this takes another couple of years. The reason for this being that 'what if the marriage doesn't work out..I'm going to need a back up plan'.

The brother who waited until he was financially stable still doesn't propose to the sister. Why? Because now he's intimidated by her level of education and he's like: 'How can I marry someone far more educated than me?'.

So he waits further even after he thinks he is financially stable, and she waits to get her Master's degree or PHd and by the time this happens, both are in their late twenties or even mid thirties and unmarried. Neither had their priorities in the right order.

There are a variety of reasons these scenarios form, and on the top of the list is: Not having Tawakkul upon Allaah. Not being confident. Having a negative mindset from the start 'What if the marriage ends in divorce?'. When two individuals get married, they need to make sure that on their lists of back up plans, divorce is non-existent. Marriage is what the couple makes it, and if they have an 'ill divorce and run off' mindset, then that is what is going to happen.

Shaykh Yaser Birjas has presented an awesome lecture on this very topic which is called: 'Crisis of Marriage in America':

http://ilmcast.com/crisis-of-marriage-in-america-22.htm

You should also check out:
http://iwannagetmarried.com/

Oh Btww.....Pfft....I is just lost for words is all. Its very rare people decide they wanna marry and involve parents from the word go...bigupz to them brothers and fishters but to the rest....Hmm....I'd say it was doomed but others will disagree huh

format_quote Originally Posted by Abu Sayyad

Yes. That's exactly what happens..the brothers for a variety of reasons very much fear proposing to a sister. You have no idea. Top of the list of fears are a) scared of being rejected and 2) fearing that they won't be able to provide for her. The fact is, brothers are intimidated by sisters for a variety of reasons.

So what happens on the sisters side? They're not being proposed to, and so they say: 'why should I do nothing and wait, I'll complete my education' and this takes another couple of years. The reason for this being that 'what if the marriage doesn't work out..I'm going to need a back up plan'.

The brother who waited until he was financially stable still doesn't propose to the sister. Why? Because now he's intimidated by her level of education and he's like: 'How can I marry someone far more educated than me?'.

So he waits further even after he thinks he is financially stable, and she waits to get her Master's degree or PHd and by the time this happens, both are in their late twenties or even mid thirties and unmarried. Neither had their priorities in the right order.

There are a variety of reasons these scenarios form, and on the top of the list is: Not having Tawakkul upon Allaah. Not being confident. Having a negative mindset from the start 'What if the marriage ends in divorce?'. When two individuals get married, they need to make sure that on their lists of back up plans, divorce is non-existent. Marriage is what the couple makes it, and if they have an 'ill divorce and run off' mindset, then that is what is going to happen.

Shaykh Yaser Birjas has presented an awesome lecture on this very topic which is called: 'Crisis of Marriage in America':

http://ilmcast.com/crisis-of-marriage-in-america-22.htm

You should also check out:
http://iwannagetmarried.com/

You missed out one part: The brother 'unofficially' proposes to the sister without getting parents involved and whilst all this waiting to become stable and waiting for the degree to be completed; they get caught up in emotional rubbish and attachment and then even if they later decided that maybe this girl is far too educated or that the guy would still not be able to provide - they wouldnt be able to coz of the past interaction that totally messed things up.