Love before marriage can be complicated to say the least. Most of us will have someone we like for marriage. We often notice that person and the little things they do, and we say to ourselves” Hey, I’d like to marry that person”. The problem is that we’ve been too influenced by our society. TV., movies cause us to feel a void in our lives. So we create this imaginary “Romeo and Juliet” –type scenario to fill it. One will find themselves in a flux between reality and fiction. Surprisingly, even we macho brothers do it sometimes (Though we’ll never dare tell anyone). Often times one will think that they’re in love with someone, but in reality, they’re just in love with the idea of loving someone. TV. and movies are all make-believe. The scenarios they portray about love can’t be plugged into real-life situations. So as Muslims we should remain pragmatic and not let our emotions get the best of us. I’m not saying that it’s wrong to like or even love someone before marriage; Marriages don’t have to be 100% arranged. It’s good to like a person before you marry them, granted you don’t transcend the limits set by Allah (SWT). The Prophet (SAW) acknowledged that two people who aren’t married can fall in love. He (SAW) once said: “The best thing to do for two people who are in love, is to get married.”
Just don’t get too attached to the idea of a particular person because a lot of times it doesn’t work out, and could lead to heartache. And it’s usually for naught, considering that you wouldn’t really know that person unless you were married to them; and, also considering that marriage is predestined anyway. Remember, the goal is marriage, not the person. If you find that you’re constantly thinking about someone- and just absolutely have to marry them- you‘re probably in the area of extreme love.
Since haraam types of love can be out of our control, they won’t necessarily earn us a sin; we earn a sin if we act on those feelings. But the matter can get more serious than just earning a sin. Loving haraam things can eventually lead to us negating our emaan.
wow .. very interesting and beneficial..Jazakee Allahu Khair sis.
btw..the "love" that you're talking abt is tooo harmful coz the person dreams and dreams and finally he'll be shocked..because this love didn't end with marriage or because of discovering that this love was ONE-SIDED love..
so..filling your leisure time with good things will keep u away of this..
O Allah..Cure my mum's illness and grant her a speedy recovery..Ameeeeeeeen
love..................before marriage :enough!::enough!::enough!::enough!::enough!:
what have i done to bring this day upon myself, somebody get me a paracetomol, this will be the end of me, is this what i raised you up to be!!!!!:enough!::enough!::enough!::enough!::enough !::enough!::enough!:i didnt even see your father until 6 months AFTER the marriage!!!!! , what will become of this generation, wheres my paracetomol!!!!!:enough!:
i wonder what the prophet would make of this outburst?
My heart, so precious,
I won't trade for a hundred thousand souls.
Your one smile takes it for free.Rumi
nice post realy and yes i agree difficulties does make you stronger indeed
And as for the onewho fears standing in front of His Lord and restrainsthe soul from impure evil desires and lusts, verily, Paradise will be his abode [79:40-41]
love..................before marriage :enough!::enough!::enough!::enough!::enough!:
what have i done to bring this day upon myself, somebody get me a paracetomol, this will be the end of me, is this what i raised you up to be!!!!!:enough!::enough!::enough!::enough!::enough !::enough!::enough!:i didnt even see your father until 6 months AFTER the marriage!!!!! , what will become of this generation, wheres my paracetomol!!!!!:enough!:
i wonder what the prophet would make of this outburst?
he'd obviously get her that paracetamol ! sallallahi alaihi wasallaam, what a gentle soul
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My tears testify that i have a heart
yet i feel me and shaytan never part
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how are we supposed to get married if we dont go out with someone??
I am now married for the third time. All 3 marriagaes were very good. I never dated either of my wives. I did not even see my present wife until after we had signed the Nikkah.
Over the years you will discover that dating is not a prelude to love. It is the pathway to lust and can destroy love before it even blossoms.
I am now married for the third time. All 3 marriagaes were very good. I never dated either of my wives. I did not even see my present wife until after we had signed the Nikkah.
Over the years you will discover that dating is not a prelude to love. It is the pathway to lust and can destroy love before it even blossoms.
wow..MashALLAH
Verily, His Command, when He intends a thing, is only that He says to it, Be! and it is.
Nice thread. Really put things in perspective (for me). Very true that love before marriage in most cases leads to unfulfilled desires and awakens a raw heartache inside. If we don't control this before it gets too far we get depressed. And then we take anti-depressants. Which in reality actually make you more depressed (in the long-term).
Sorry for the outburst. *grin*
Somewhere over the rainbow, way up high, there's a land that I heard of once in a lullaby.
Somewhere over the rainbow, skies are blue... and the dreams that you dare to dream really do come true.
Umm Al-Shaheeeed! Lo0o0oL why bump if you dunno what its about, I forgot wat its about too....But time has taught me that love before marriage is rarely handled in the correct way. Wallahu A'lam
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..........before marriage :enough!::enough!::enough!::enough!::enough!:
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