Be Easy with The Lovers!

whoah...im sure the imaam never saw that coming



subhanAllaah what a test love is....

^ I believe it's the latter.

subhanallah *shows us to be more cautious when giving advice

Jazakallah khayr...

i should remind myself...next time if i meet any teenagers or youth who is falling in love... i should be easy on them

format_quote Originally Posted by yasin ibn Ahmad

I think "love" in the story is love of Allah not ones loving a human being

It's definitely about a young man who really loved a girl. The last line says:

My salām to the one who prevented me from attaining her.

We have heard and we have obeyed; now we have died so tell everyone

Who are the 'we'? Did he commit suicide or die of grief?

True...be easy with the lover.

When teenagers say there in love ppl make fun of them and think that there just playing around.
Seriously think before u hurt them or even better just leave the alone.

yasin ibn Ahmad - OK, jazakAllah kheyr.

format_quote Originally Posted by Al-Zaara

Did he commit suicide or die of grief?

Personally, I think he died of grief because of the second to last line, but I don't think it would have mattered either way...

when it says be easy with them....surely it doesnt mean leave them alone, because unless they are married or to be married, shaytaan is taking advantage of their weak state, so you should admonish them, but nicely i guess.

but how shhould parents go about calmly admonishing their love struck teens? , its usually a forced marriage or an honour killing if its a girl.

life is not as simple as the title of this thread

wow

JazakAllah for sharing

format_quote Originally Posted by Sahabiyaat

when it says be easy with them....surely it doesnt mean leave them alone, because unless they are married or to be married, shaytaan is taking advantage of their weak state, so you should admonish them, but nicely i guess.

Yeah..it's just being able to understand them and their feelings and give advise accordingly. When a person is in love, their mental state is very different, I can't even explain it in words. A person shouldn't turn around all shocked and be condescending, unfeeling or extremely rational.

but how shhould parents go about calmly admonishing their love struck teens? , its usually a forced marriage or an honour killing if its a girl.

life is not as simple as the title of this thread

That's the reason most teenagers don't tell their parents about how they feel..and would rather tell their friends. If they have good friends then the situation will move towards the better...but, as is the case a lot of the time, if they have bad friends then there's a lot of harm that can come about.

You're right, it isn't easy to get teens to talk to their parents..especially when the kids are raised here and their parents were raised back home and there is great discrepancy between both of them in terms of understanding, perspectives, and outlook. It's rare that the parents raise their kids in a way where the kid can talk to their parents about anything even being in love..it's a long process to be able to build a relationship with your kids like that and the foundation for it needs to be put right from when the kids are still very young. Unfortunately, most parents that were raised back home will try to raise their kids the way they were raised without taking into account the environment or the times and this obviously backfires when the child ends up flying in the wrong direction..

very true akhee,good summary of my thoughts.

so i guess life is a bunch of lemony snickets, a series of unfortunate events lol. and Allah is testing us, so you just have to put up with what you dont have, for example, parents who are your good friends.

Well, couldn't he just have said " Make it Halal and thank Allah for this" ?

I mean, he made it look like it was something very,very wrong :s No wonder the guy killed himself.