Seeing that there are quite a few marriage threads around, i'll add one...
What questions would you ask a potential partner?
This question has been on my mind for a while, and i know that it will depend on the persons but, on the whole which are questions that will help you get a better understanding of the person and his/her likes or dislikes?
Musaafir:
Definitely not! I too find out everything possible about a guy before i'd see him. As for smoking, i would ask him straight out, buut most likely my father would have found that out already.
format_quote Originally Posted by Najm
AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
I think girls expect too much, which drives the guys out!!!
Sabeeha aint sure hence, the question marks for approval, its ok uhkti, its really ok, dw
Most girls are not annoying UhtkE, they are just misunderstood like you!!
AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.
Uhh while i admit to having misunderstandings, this is not one of them.
The question marks were put more so as not to sound offensive.
I've never met an annoying lad before, but them again no lad out their can beat my annoyingness, (is that a word?)
WaAlikum As Salaam WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu
Oh oK akhE, But then why are boys so stoopid?
AsSalamOAlikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu
FiAmaaniAllah
AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
Annoying is my word, your taking my words too?
Boys just are, hence why we have mums and sisters! You should be happy your mum and sisters looks after you!!
AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.
format_quote Originally Posted by Sabeeha
Musaafir:
Definitely not! I too find out everything possible about a guy before i'd see him. As for smoking, i would ask him straight out, buut most likely my father would have found that out already.
Uhh while i admit to having misunderstandings, this is not one of them.
The question marks were put more so as not to sound offensive.
AsSalamOAlikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu
Im glad you admit it! :X I know what you did with the question marks, so I said "its ok"
Anyways, before a potential partner comes around your house make sure you have checked the basic background stuff i.e all the important things you want!!......deen, education, life story etc
Thing is, how on earth do you manage to ask the questions? (face to face that is)
I've worked with male colleagues and whatnot, but I was never the one to start a converstation. At my placement it took me at least 3 months to even say hi to some dudes and that was only in response.
I don't think I could ask all the burning questions face to face.
Would it be weird if I wrote 'em down instead? Parents'll probably think I'm mad though, not to say they don't already.
Thing is, how on earth do you manage to ask the questions? (face to face that is)
I've worked with male colleagues and whatnot, but I was never the one to start a converstation. At my placement it took me at least 3 months to even say hi to some dudes and that was only in response.
I don't think I could ask all the burning questions face to face.
Would it be weird if I wrote 'em down instead? Parents'll probably think I'm mad though, not to say they don't already.
Thats something i wonder about myself. I have the mouth to say i will but i can only know when it happens, lol.
I know my friend wrote down what she wanted to ask and read and re-read the q's so that she almost knew it by heart and the list wasnt very long, say between 5-10 q's
Mos q's parents can see to and clarify, i guess.
i'll let my parents do the asking and finding out lol
Assalamu Alaikum
format_quote Originally Posted by Fighting4Iman
huh?
i dont want my wife to work, at the same time i wont stop her if she insists on working for say a school (primary not secondary or islamic) or something which requires no mixing with opp gender but i would insist when complications arise (helping family/pregnancy etc)
what does that tell you about my attitude towards women? seriously i wanna know
Assalamu ALaikum
format_quote Originally Posted by Fighting4Iman
subhanAllah you demean the position of wife and mother so much where our prophet sallallahi alaihi wasallaam raised their position so high by saying "he who is best to his wife is best of men" and "below the mothers feet lies jannah"...
"men are expected to work their asses off, nothing more" (bring home money n take care o stuff etc)
1) What makes you smile?
2) What is something small that makes you extremely happy?
3) Who do you think you are?
4) Complete: "I am...."
5) Why are you considering me for marriage?
“Do not argue with your Lord on behalf of your soul, rather argue with your soul on behalf of your Lord.” - Dhul-Nun
"It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness." - Victor Frankl
Would it be appropriate to ask about the person's past, for example Have u had a gf/bf before? have you ever tried drugs, or been clubbing, etc? This would apply only if the person was born muslim.
1) What makes you smile?
2) What is something small that makes you extremely happy?
3) Who do you think you are?
4) Complete: "I am...."
5) Why are you considering me for marriage?
First one is cute masha'Allah, 3rd sounds like it should have this emo after it >> and number 4....If it was me I'd laugh my head off.
format_quote Originally Posted by Alpha Dude
^ I don't get 3 and 4.
Sounds threatening.
Isn't this too ambiguous? She could say anything. "I am... sitting here right now" lol
I thought the same
format_quote Originally Posted by Proudly_Muslim
Would it be appropriate to ask about the person's past, for example Have u had a gf/bf before? have you ever tried drugs, or been clubbing, etc? This would apply only if the person was born muslim.
Why would you wanna ask that?? If Allah (swt) has concealed his/her sins then who are you to ask. If its in the past then its in the past, name one person who hasnt done something wrong or something they have repented for. If they tell you then they will, if not I think you should leave em. You can ask the ppl who know him/her a little about the character and from there deduce if they're the kinda person who would do any of the above. Wallahu A'lam.
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Girls can be so annoying, I feel sorry for the lads, they gotta marry one.
Oh oK akhE, But then why are boys so stoopid?
and number 4....If it was me I'd laugh my head off.
I thought the same
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