What would you ask a potential partner?

format_quote Originally Posted by J.U.N.I.O.R

a question i would ask is how big are her eyelids???

I was going to type the same thing ' lol (inside joke)

Have a look at this:

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=SrnjYYuDfXs

It's funny, and has a point.

^ http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=1F8vVJMklHU

Haha, great two videos!
In the second video, I love that idea of him filming their first meeting, so cool.

for me personally one of the things i would bring up are things about both our personalities that i feel would have a negative effect on our (potential) marriage... thats probably one of the things id get outta the way first.

but id just relax and ask general questions just to keep the atmosphere relaxed and not tense, like favorite reciter and stuff like that...then get to the serious business, such as anger management, how he treats kids... etc or something along those lines....

and generally speaking, i don't think either party should agree to marrying until/unless they have felt comfortable and "touched base" with everything they consider important for maintaining a healthy marriage...

format_quote Originally Posted by Umm Hurairah

Asalaamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarkatu,

How often do you pray nafl prayers and how much of the Quran have you read/memorized? <--- This can tell a lot about a person's deen Insha Allah.

i disagree with that...the quran is so easy to memorize, but the practice is the most important...so many people have strong knowledge, yet they still lack alot of manners...i mean huffath is good, but i dont see exactly how it necessarily relates to his deen...

and yet so many people lack knowledge/aren't fluent in the quran,etc, and yet their manners are sky high

format_quote Originally Posted by amani

Plus all those questions about if a man would hit a woman, which brother would seriously tell a woman theyd hit her? :blind:

Well, if they said yes, it would tell a lot about their intelligence... or honesty... or not. hmmm.

format_quote Originally Posted by amani

Plus all those questions about if a man would hit a woman, which brother would seriously tell a woman theyd hit her? :blind:

thats why you gotta ask these questions subtly...you know, be smart and clever about it

format_quote Originally Posted by amani

whats the white socks thing
(and some of ur questions are yes very askable)

format_quote Originally Posted by Fighting4Iman

wahayy someone agrees wiv me!


WHAT? WHAT DOES IT MEAN oh: ??? the suspense!!!




oh:

Okeyyy.."if he wears non=white socks: It means that he wants to hide the not so clean colours in dark socks, but if he wears white it means he's confident about his hygiene n is a clean person. lol:X

format_quote Originally Posted by J.U.N.I.O.R

Its one of the many inside jokes the sister are sharing in the designated private rooms

I don't post in the sisters area...ha...so no! not an inside joke!:sunny:..

peaaaaaace. Eid Mubarak!

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format_quote Originally Posted by Ramlah

i disagree with that...the quran is so easy to memorize, but the practice is the most important...so many people have strong knowledge, yet they still lack alot of manners...i mean huffath is good, but i dont see exactly how it necessarily relates to his deen...

and yet so many people lack knowledge/aren't fluent in the quran,etc, and yet their manners are sky high

Waalaikumusalaam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatu,

If a person can take the time out from his daily routine to read/memorize the Quran or read nafl prayers, that does tell a lot. For me, if he is considered a potential partner, then my parents have already done research on him. Those are the questions I would ask him personally while I'm sure my father already has a prepared list.

Also, my answer won't depend on that but the istikhara so in the end, it's all up to Allah.

But I do agree with some points you made. There is a hadith (may Allah forgive my mistaks) that says that one of the groups of people in Hell will be the scholars of the world who didn't practice what they preached.

The Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace) said: “The feet of a servant will not move on the Day of Judgment until he has been questioned about four things): his life - how he spent it, his knowledge - how he acted upon it, his wealth - where he earned it and how he spent it, and his body - how he used it.” (Tirmidhi, Kitab sifat al Qiyamah wal Raqa’iq)

May Allah forgive our mistakes and give us the power to put our knowledge into actions. Ameen Thuma Ameen.

format_quote Originally Posted by islamirama

Some of these questions are not serious at all, would make me think if the sister is even serious about marriage or may be she not mature enough yet?

Bro, sometimes light-hearted questions are best for working out the personality of a potential spouse. Other times, in order to avoid straight out questions you can dodge around it by asking a less obvious one

ahem, Been away for two days...

format_quote Originally Posted by XxFaithxX

^Mind yu...they'd probably have prepared an essay of Questions for us to:X

Actually those i know off do- My friend said her hubby wrote some stuff on his cell phone and read them off to asked her.

format_quote Originally Posted by Yanoorah

Does anybody actually ask questions..its weird. lol

Do u smoke?
Can u breakDance?
ur view on ice-skating?
Do u watch a lot of t.v?
Wat do u do more, sitting or standing?
If u got a call from a friend at 2 am...wud u get up n help them?
In the morning, Do u brush ur teeth be4 or after eating, better be be4!
Do u shower everyday?
Wen u make wudu for fajr, do u also brush ur teeth?
Lets see ur socks pls!
Do u wear white socks? If he doesn't that means ahem ahem!
Do u eat too much?
Athletic?
Wen home is 30 mins "walk" away, do u rather take the bus or walk?
Are u LoyaL?
If ur friend was deep in it..n rang ur bell "the cops are chasing me let me in maan"..wud u: think twice n say /no no wen it comes to the law, i dont want trouble sorry n close dooor...or..: let him in cause he's ur friend u will hide him in ur home.
Are u obsessive?
do u have a addictive personality?
Have u ever raised ur voice to ur parents?
Have u ever raised a hand to anybody? n Why?
Woman slaps man, ur view? Shud the man slap her back?
If u are hungry n u just bought food, n u see a hungry person diggin the rubbish bin, wud u give some of ur food to him/her..or wud u worry about ur own hunger?
Hitting kids, is it ever ok?
When ur wife gives birth, wud u cook/clean?

owkey why did I even start writting?

Would you really ask all these questins?

format_quote Originally Posted by islamirama

Some of these questions are not serious at all, would make me think if the sister is even serious about marriage or may be she not mature enough yet?

Agreed.

format_quote Originally Posted by Umm Hurairah

Waalaikumusalaam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatu,

If a person can take the time out from his daily routine to read/memorize the Quran or read nafl prayers, that does tell a lot. For me, if he is considered a potential partner, then my parents have already done research on him. Those are the questions I would ask him personally while I'm sure my father already has a prepared list.

Also, my answer won't depend on that but the istikhara so in the end, it's all up to Allah.

I agree with you sister.
For him to come and see me he'd haev to pass my father too. lol.

format_quote Originally Posted by RoseGold

Bro, sometimes light-hearted questions are best for working out the personality of a potential spouse. Other times, in order to avoid straight out questions you can dodge around it by asking a less obvious one

I agree sis, but um, some questions are kinda way off i think. Thats a personal opinion maybe because i'm rather too serious.

format_quote Originally Posted by islamirama

Are you virgin?

Would you do a physical test before marriage?

Um... how can you physically test a young lady's virginity before marriage, without somehow crossing a boundary?

Unless that was a joke.

format_quote Originally Posted by islamirama

You don't test, this is not Christianity where the daddy goes with a handkerchief to verify. You just ask if they ever dated or got involved.

Phew.

And you ask for a physical before marriage to make sure they got clean health bill.

Jazakallah for clearing that up. Seriously.