A man asked Allah's Messenger about al-Hamu [1] (the husbands brothers, or his nephews, etc)? the Prophet replied: "The in-laws of the wife are death itself."[2]
(Reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim)
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1 It is mainly the brothers of the husband or the in-Laws of the wife who are meant here are only those who could have married that women is she had not been married.
2. The stay of a relative of a woman by marriage in seclusion with her may cause great disadvantages and lead to Zinaa that would ruin the family. Therefore, the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) compared the brother in law of a wife to death if he stays in seclusion with her. The husband friends are also included in the above warning.
The basic principle in this matter should be the hadeeth of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): "Beware of entering upon women." A man of the Ansaar asked, "O Messenger of Allaah, what do you think about the brother-in-law?" He said, "The brother-in-law is death." (Reported by al-Bukhaari, Fath al-Baari, 9/330)
Al-Nawawi, may Allaah have mercy on him, said: This hadeeth refers to all the relatives of the husband apart from his father and sons, who are mahrams for the wife and she is allowed to be alone with them; they are not described as "death." It refers to the brother, nephew, uncle, cousin and other relatives of the husband whom she would be permitted to marry if she were not already married. Because people customarily treat this matter so lightly, and a man may sit alone with his brother's wife, the brother-in-law is likened to death, and he is the foremost among non-mahram men who should be prevented from doing so.
The expression "the brother-in-law is death" may have a number of meanings, such as the following:
That being alone with a brother-in-law may lead to religious doom if it results in sin. That it may lead to actual death if an immoral deed is committed that dictates the punishment of stoning. That it may spell disaster for the woman if her husband's jealousy leads to divorce. That you should fear being alone with a non-mahram woman as much as you fear death. That being alone with a non-mahram woman is as terrible as death.
jazaki allah khair sister for such a reminder.
Unfortunately many people are dealing lightly with such issue
you can see the in laws behaving like friends in the family, riding cars together, and may be see the wife dont wear her hijab properly in the house in the presence of her in laws
jazaki allah khair sister for such a reminder.
Unfortunately many people are dealing lightly with such issue
you can see the in laws behaving like friends in the family, riding cars together, and may be see the wife dont wear her hijab properly in the house in the presence of her in laws
wa iyyakumaa
yh and @ what your're saying, ugh! it makes ya wanna
and u feel like whackin the hubbi for not having gheerah
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
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