How did you potty train your kids

i dont have kids but played a part in potty training 3 nephews and a niece so here goes. With the last nephew i can remember he would always wee in his pants or tell last minute. First we had him getting used to going to the toilet when he wanted to do other stuff (with training pant) -so got him used to actually going to the toilet and then for weeing, well that was trouble! but in the end he decided HE wanted to go because he was a 'big boy' and so after putting on normal pants we had to ask him like every hour so that he didnt forget and to get him used to it. He still makes mistakes but after a couple of weeks he himself got into the habit of saying 'i want to wee'
oh and a potty didnt work for any of them-they hated it, just a normal toilet seat

format_quote Originally Posted by Daffodil

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My son is nearly 2 and a half

He didnt even tell me that he had weed.

I'm sorry that I have nothing constructive to add to this thread, but I just had to say this...
I tend to scan a post before actually reading it.. And went I was scanning yours, the only words I seemed to see were "my son is 2" and "he didn't tell me he had weed".

I spent a whole minute wondering why on earth a 2 year old boy would have weed (marijuana), and wondering what the world had come to...

Anyway, good luck with your son inshallah!

Im concerned about his age though. How old were your kids when they stopped the nappy?

Ajnabee has given some great advice!

I am trying to think how old my children were, when they were potty trained.
I think my daughter got the idea pretty quickly, but my son took longer. He was a winter baby, and I remember him spending much time with a bare bottom in the summer months ... so he must have been around 2-and-a-half then too. (It actually took him a long time to be reliably dry - especially at night)

I seem to remember reading somewhere that boys for some (probably anatomical) reasons tend to take longer with toilet training.

I would advise you not to worry about it, and to stay relaxed about the whole thing.
Like Ajnabee said, it will be easier in the summer. (Less clothes to wash, easier to dry, etc)

Also bear in mind that having a new baby in the house may add some stress for your little man, and that he may not always feel like being a 'big boy'.

Perhaps just give the whole thing a rest, and give it another try in a couple of months. He will learn it when he is ready. Fear not!

Here is a BBC website I found. Perhapw it is helpful.

Salaam

format_quote Originally Posted by Daffodil

Im concerned about his age though. How old were your kids when they stopped the nappy?

2 and a half is a good age, its not at all young.

format_quote Originally Posted by amani

2 and a half is a good age, its not at all young.

My worry is that hes too old, and that he should already be potty trained by now.

Theres alot of pressure I feel from other people because they seem to make you feel like a crap parent if your aint potty trained at a certain age.

The thing is my son absolutly loves water and any chance hell get hell play with it either by emptying his cup out or getting my glass or something and gets his clothes wet ALL THE TIME. So I think if he wets himself its not going to feel any different for him because hes used to being wet as daft as that sounds.

Also because hes a boy its difficult to get him to understand that hes got to point his boy bit downwards as Islamically boys/men arent allowed to pee standing up. I think Ill give it a go in a couple of months. My poor little lad. Its not going to be easy for any of us.

I believe we spend too much effort with the idea of potty training. We as parents do not potty train kids. they train us as to what the signs are, that they need to go. Once we learn the specific signs, we get them to the potty on time and surprise of surprises, the child is potty trained, but in reality it is the parent that was trained by the child.

Believe it or not kids of any age do not enjoy walking around in messy nappies, they spend considerable time in trying to communicate to us that they need to go. It is by careful observation we learn the body language of the child.

format_quote Originally Posted by Woodrow

I believe we spend too much effort with the idea of potty training. We as parents do not potty train kids. they train us as to what the signs are, that they need to go. Once we learn the specific signs, we get them to the potty on time and surprise of surprises, the child is potty trained, but in reality it is the parent that was trained by the child.

Believe it or not kids of any age do not enjoy walking around in messy nappies, they spend considerable time in trying to communicate to us that they need to go. It is by careful observation we learn the body language of the child.

I have to disagree its not like that at all! My boy doesnt give any signs whatsoever that hes doing a wee! And how would he know that he doesnt like being in a messy nappy because he doesnt know other wise?

He sometimes tells us hes done a poo and walks around funny but he just refuses to sit on the potty or on the loo.

format_quote Originally Posted by Daffodil

I have to disagree its not like that at all! My boy doesnt give any signs whatsoever that hes doing a wee! And how would he know that he doesnt like being in a messy nappy because he doesnt know other wise?

He sometimes tells us hes done a poo and walks around funny but he just refuses to sit on the potty or on the loo.

Well first of all do not think you are doing anything wrong as a parent. There is no specific age a child will learn to use the potty. We put too much social emphasis on it as a rite of passage and want to set a specific age at which a child should do some things.

Potty training is one of these areas. In spite of what we do or fail to do each child will become potty changed at the age appropriate for them.

As parents all we can do is keep an eye open for tell-tale signs. It is true some children will not give any signs. In that case the best thing is to set 4 to 6 specific times each day to place the child on the potty. It is important to keep those specific times daily. Before long you should be able to notice a pattern (not an exact pattern, but an estimate) as to what is the most probable time the child will use the potty. Use that as a guide to be certain the child is on the potty at that time. Eventually the child will make the association between the potty and what it is for.

Yes, it is frustrating, but do not blame yourself and do not try to compare to other children. Potty training does not mean good or bad parenting. Each child is unique.

I should mention that often extremely intelligent children do not become potty trained until an older age. It seems they are too involved with discovering the world then to worry about such issues.

format_quote Originally Posted by Daffodil

My worry is that hes too old, and that he should already be potty trained by now.

Theres alot of pressure I feel from other people because they seem to make you feel like a crap parent if your aint potty trained at a certain age.

The thing is my son absolutly loves water and any chance hell get hell play with it either by emptying his cup out or getting my glass or something and gets his clothes wet ALL THE TIME. So I think if he wets himself its not going to feel any different for him because hes used to being wet as daft as that sounds.

Also because hes a boy its difficult to get him to understand that hes got to point his boy bit downwards as Islamically boys/men arent allowed to pee standing up. I think Ill give it a go in a couple of months. My poor little lad. Its not going to be easy for any of us.

nah hes not to old, my last nephew refused to learn till he was 3 and then it was HIM that said he wanted to be a 'big boy'
and yes the pointing but down is still a problem.

Do you notice him wanting to do a poo before he does it? if so, before he actually does get him on the toilet. or get him in the habit of sitting on the toilet every morning as he wakes up even if he doesnt do anything.
Itll be hard chasing him around especially with another kid to worry about too, but as long as hes in routine it should be fine inshaAllah

He does know what a potty is and he knows what a toilet is he just doesnt sit on it for that long and I dont think he understands the concept. When Im changing my little girl I do tell my son, look, she did a poo, shes naughty, your a big boy, your not naughty, your a good boy, you should do it in your potty, he agrees but bless him, hes not quite there yet.

Hes really quick at learning and is so good at memorising. Hes very aware of things. I know its my fault for giving up after two hours, I should keep going with it. Its just daunting when youve got to go out and your son is likely to wee in his buggy. My husband bought loads of pants for him so Ill try and give it another go. Ill try next month inshallah. Jizakallah kheir for your advice.

format_quote Originally Posted by ajnabee

sis the important thing to remember is to make potty training a POSITIVE experience for him insha'allah.


wishin u success.

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