salam brothers and sisters.
i've been wondering for a long time, why do some muslims marry their cousin on purpose?
our prophet (pbuh) said that most close person (in blood) that you can marry with is your cousin. but that's just a borderline, it doesn't mean it's a muslimish way to marry a cousin. actually it's not good for the children you may have if there's a blood connection between the parents.
Originally Posted by Malaikah
It is perfectly halal to marry your first cousin. The Prophets daughter, Fatima, married Ali, who was the Prophets first cousin
Clearly shows the boundary of family marriages to avoid incest.
People seem to forget that cousin marriages still happen amongst people here...and it was something that "happened" here. Now they just want to pick on Muslims...ultimately its up to Allah swt how a child is born. I know people as well who have many healthy children MashaAllah as compared ot those who are not related in any sense and have children with so many problems.
Personally I prefer to marry outside, as I wana break the culture barrier but I have no problem with it if it came to it.
Last edited by Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн; 05-09-2009 at 03:09 PM.
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Some cultures its must a to marry in the family.......or else.
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societal constructions could be a factor innit? I live here and so to me, marrying cousins is just not an option, i would never dream of it. But in other countries and cultures it is completly normal..
Last edited by Mysterious Uk; 05-09-2009 at 03:24 PM.
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The believer has four characteristics: if he is afflicted by any misfortune, he remains patient and steadfast. If he is given anything, he is grateful. If he speaks , he speaks the truth. If he passes judgment on any issue,he is just .
Well not always sis. I live here in the USA and the idea of cousin marriages is a strange concept to people but I still wouldn't mind
So ultimately its an individual thought and choice. Societal thoughts don't shape everyones mind.
I live in the heart of the Appalachian mountains where incest of a linear and lateral nature of a problem and multigenerational. The region I live has a high rate of children born with physical and mental problems as a result. I would not marry a cousin because all of mine are like my brothers and sisters.
Good question
Well, personally i'm against it.. Cause when people who have the same blood marry, and have kids.. The kids usually have mental problems...
And seriously.. i mean imagine you know that "your daughter is married to the son of your sister"... Doesn't that sound weird???
That doesnt mean your totally against it,you just don't support it,exactly what I said on my first post on this thread,marrying a person who you played with during your young ages...
That doesnt mean your totally against it,you just don't support it,exactly what I said on my first post on this thread,marrying a person who you played with during your young ages...
I was raised by my aunt and uncle and had 3 older cousins who were just like my siblings. I have about 70 1st cousins on my moms side alone as she is the baby of 13 children, but I just could not do it nor would I permit my son to do it. Its just too weird for me.
Marriages between first cousins are allowed in Islam.
In surat an-Nisa' (4:22-24), Allah mentioned the women who are forbidden for marriage and then He said, "… Lawful to you are all beyond those mentioned, so that you may seek them with your wealth in honest wedlock…" In surat al-Ahzab (33:50), Allah Taala mentioned to the Prophet that he may marry the daughters of his uncles and aunts from the father's side or the mother's side. It is the consensus of the jurists that this permission was not only for the Prophet, but it is also a permission for other believers. Muslims have practiced marriages between first cousins in all countries since the time of the Prophet.
There is nothing wrong in this marriage. However, it is a good practice to have a blood test before marriage. If one suspects some hereditary disease or any other problem then he/she should seek the advice of a medical expert in this field. The chances of health risk in this marriage are very rare. Most of the marriages have been good and children quite healthy.
it may be preferable to marry people who are non-relations, for example if one aspires to form new social ties or bonds, and regards the existence of a marriage relationship with a different family as constructive in widening the circle of social bonds.
I think from the day I was born or from when I was quite young my mum had already decided which cousin I was going marry, from backhome. lol I was err.. well ticked off when I recently found out but aint happenin InshAllah muahahaha
I live in the heart of the Appalachian mountains where incest of a linear and lateral nature of a problem and multigenerational. The region I live has a high rate of children born with physical and mental problems as a result. I would not marry a cousin because all of mine are like my brothers and sisters.
Im not really sure what that had to do with my post? Sorry im actually unsure...
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Good question
Well, personally i'm against it.. Cause when people who have the same blood marry, and have kids.. The kids usually have mental problems...
And seriously.. i mean imagine you know that "your daughter is married to the son of your sister"... Doesn't that sound weird???
Usually is a HUGE exaggeration! I know so many children whose parents are cousin and none of them has any genetic abnormality!
As someone mentioned earlier the problems occur with extensive cousin marriage. For example: your parents are cousins, your grandparents are cousins, your great grandparents are cousins.
That's why we should maintain "purdah" or segregation from our cousins. They are marriageable to us!
well we all are brothers and sisters bec our parents are Eve and Adam, innt? so thats dont matter who we are married to? Am i right? If im mistake, someone correct me please
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Well not always sis. I live here in the USA and the idea of cousin marriages is a strange concept to people but I still wouldn't mind
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