would a brother mind a sister who is studying...i mean say he proposed and she was in the middle of a degree...would most brothers mind if she continued to finish her degree (whilst she is engaged/married) or would he prefer her to stop for marriage (even if she doesn't intend on working, etc after wards)..
i hope im making sense here...
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
and also i wud mind if a sister is studing further education i want a wife who is on the deen 100 percent
mashaAllah so those who study and serve the ummah wouldnt be on the deen 100% ? there is nothing wrong with having personal preferences but to imply that a woman who may be a doctor treating your wife, or a teacher teaching your kids can not do that and been on the deen 100% is ignorant.
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I'm sure muslim women know what's right and wrong. They're not ignorant beings who don't know what they must cover and in front of whom.
Even as a woman, I encourage the women to keep studying. Simply because if the women are not 'educated' and the husbands are, IMO, they look down on you. Perhaps not in the first few years of marriage when things are more physical, but later on, when the relationship gets a little sour.
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mashaAllah so those who study and serve the ummah wouldnt be on the deen 100% ? there is nothing wrong with having personal preferences but to imply that a woman who may be a doctor treating your wife, or a teacher teaching your kids can not do that and been on the deen 100% is ignorant.
sorry sister but i regard my sister in islam higher then what you may have been infulenced by the west the muslima her house is her work and allah made it high for the woman and i qoute allah says (and stay in your homes) and dont get me wrong there is nothing wrong for a sister to educate herself mashallah
Erm... To those who believe a woman at being at college is fitnah, and that she can't handle herself in the presence of her male class mates, you should find out what type of girl she is before you get married anyway. Whether she goes to university or not, fitnah of the opposite gender can arise, unless you decide to lock her up in the house.
Brother Yusuf, pursueing an education is not being "influenced" by the West. If so, that is really sad. Islam encouraged education for boys and girls before the West did, but I'm aware that in today's time the West has surpassed in achievements, but that doesn't take away from the fact. It's kinda hard for a Muslimah to be a doctor/nurse/midwife and stay in her home. There were women even in the Sahabah's time who were midwives, and would go out of their homes to help women...that doesn't mean they were any less of Muslimahs, clearly since they were Sahabiyaat!
"...You are my Walî in this world and in the Hereafter. Cause me to die as a Muslim, and join me with the righteous." [Surah Yusuf 101]
Maybe I'm behind but... can someone please remind me exactly what is wrong with women who study ?
^but how about a boy interacts with her while you are married to her,that would be sin for her so rather wait then get bad deeds,right ? You have to think...
What do you mean? Interact in what way? Aren't you interacting with females here :><
Nope, I wouldn't have any problem. I'd encourage it, if that's what she wanted to do.
My mum wasn't able to complete her degree because of having kids (me and my sister) straight after marriage. So, now that my youngest sister is old enough, in September she's going start her degree in Intercultural Communication and Linguistics, after almost 20 years of marriage!
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‘Say: If the ocean were ink wherewith to write out the words of my Lord, sooner would the ocean be exhausted, even if We added another ocean like it.’~Al Qu'raan (18:109)
^You sure ? Think of the bad points not to discourage people but alert them:
• Interacting
•Fitnah
•Girls might backbite
All this = Bad deeds and your relationship is already to a bad start with Allah.
Codswallop. To be honest, if the sister is serious about studying then she'll be educated enough to know those things are haram for her, and will be uncomfortable in those situations anyway. Yes, it's possible, but I think we're talking about higher education before/after marriage rather than high school... where those things are more likely to occur.
‘Say: If the ocean were ink wherewith to write out the words of my Lord, sooner would the ocean be exhausted, even if We added another ocean like it.’~Al Qu'raan (18:109)
sorry sister but i regard my sister in islam higher then what you may have been infulenced by the west the muslima her house is her work and allah made it high for the woman and i qoute allah says (and stay in your homes) and dont get me wrong there is nothing wrong for a sister to educate herself mashallah
OK, but do we really want generations of Muslim women staying at home, uneducated ? What was the first verse of the Qur'an revealed ? It's a religious obligation on Muslims (male or female!) to acquire knowledge.
‘Say: If the ocean were ink wherewith to write out the words of my Lord, sooner would the ocean be exhausted, even if We added another ocean like it.’~Al Qu'raan (18:109)
sorry sister but i regard my sister in islam higher then what you may have been infulenced by the west the muslima her house is her work and allah made it high for the woman and i qoute allah says (and stay in your homes) and dont get me wrong there is nothing wrong for a sister to educate herself mashallah
you dont know anything about me so dont assume of what i have been influenced by and how would u educate if u want let your wife leave her house? will you teach her?
you dont know anything about me so dont assume of what i have been influenced by and how would u educate if u want let your wife leave her house? will you teach her?
OK, but do we really want generations of Muslim women staying at home, uneducated ? What was the first verse of the Qur'an revealed ? It's a religious obligation on Muslims (male or female!) to acquire knowledge.
AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu
An obligation which everyone must strive to do!!! SubhaanAllah!
Just a bit of info...further studies could also include Islamic studies. Are you going to stop her from that too? If a guy were to stop me from that then he can take a hike.
*Without Allah, without Islam, life would be meaningless. If I've ever learned patience, it's because of this. Alhamdulillah...*
What he means is, some women are capable of doing both. What you want is what YOU want.
And ultimately the husband and wife can work it out between each other.
*Without Allah, without Islam, life would be meaningless. If I've ever learned patience, it's because of this. Alhamdulillah...*
What he means is, some women are capable of doing both. What you want is what YOU want.
And ultimately the husband and wife can work it out between each other.
subanallah they dont need to work it out if they are upon the quran and sunnah becouse the roles have already been dished out so what is their to discuss further dont you testify that profhet muhammad is the messenger of allah ? do you not believe
take note please (it is not allowed for a believer man or women to have any choice when Allah and His Messenger decide a matter.”
Being upon the Qur'aan and Sunnah doesnt mean bounding the wife with chains. She can be a good wife/mother and still educate herself. As I stated, other types education also would include Islamic studies not just studies like a degree in Chemical Engineering or something...and if a person can put both fields of knowledge together it makes it more effective. There were women scholars back in the day and we need more of them.
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*Without Allah, without Islam, life would be meaningless. If I've ever learned patience, it's because of this. Alhamdulillah...*
Being upon the Qur'aan and Sunnah doesnt mean bounding the wife with chains. She can be a good wife/mother and still educate herself. As I stated, other types education also would include Islamic studies not just studies like a degree in Chemical Engineering or something...
we all know sister that sisters knowdays are following the west subanallah allah says (stay in your homes)
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