How many females would ever marry someone who already has a wife...

**shock_proof** · 06-14-2009

or several. Personally I could never do that. I know in Islam men are allowed to have up to four wives but can someone explain to me the reason for why that is. Also do any muslimas husbands also have other wives? How do you feel about that?

**ragdollcat1982** · 06-14-2009

I would not marry another man who was already married. In US it is illegal and called bigamy. I can understand the logic behind Islamic polygamy if one follows the example of Muhammed (PBUH) who married primarily war widows. In those sitautions maybe I could accept the concept, but not under any other.

**~Taalibah~** · 06-14-2009

Originally Posted by shock_proof

or several. Personally I could never do that. I know in Islam men are allowed to have up to four wives but can someone explain to me the reason for why that is.

I dont understand ur question. You are saying that in Islam men are allowed to marry four wives. You want to know the reason?

Because it is allowed? Allah Ta'aala has made it a lawful option.

Personally at this point in time, no i wont marry someone who is already married.

**Banu_Hashim** · 06-14-2009

It is allowed. However, there is a condition. He must treat and provide for his wives all equally in every single way otherwise he's not allowed if he is not able to do so.

As, to why it is allowed... As said, Allah has made it permissible so that's the end of that.

**Intisar** · 06-14-2009

Nope, mostly cause I'm already married, and also because I'm not emotionally stable enough. Maybe down the line I wouldn't have a problem with my husband marrying again.

**ragdollcat1982** · 06-14-2009

Originally Posted by Ameena*

Nope, mostly cause I'm already married, and also because I'm not emotionally stable enough. Maybe down the line I wouldn't have a problem with my husband marrying again.

You would be a very selfless woman if you could do that. I think I am just too selfish. The thought of my husband touching another woman ....

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**shock_proof** · 06-14-2009

Originally Posted by ragdollcat1982

You would be a very selfless woman if you could do that. I think I am just too selfish. The thought of my husband touching another woman ....

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I dont think its selfish. I'd be angry and annoyed if my partner even touched another girl, it would hurt me like hell, that's why I don't understand why other people accept it even though it is allowed.

**nebula** · 06-14-2009

we shouldnt really say anything about this topic because Allah has clearly allowed men to marry more then 1 wife, it is Halal for a reason and a person who rejects this is rejecting the Quran.

**salafy_masry** · 06-14-2009

Originally Posted by Banu_Hashim

It is allowed. However, there is a condition. He must treat and provide for his wives all equally in every single way otherwise he's not allowed if he is not able to do so.

As, to why it is allowed... As said, Allah has made it permissible so that's the end of that.

But a man can love one of the four more than the others .. so they wont be equal in emotions.

And I totally agree with you .... that Allah has made it permissible .. so no much of a need to ask why it is allowed

**glo** · 06-14-2009

Nebula and salafi_masry, since you two are brothers, can I ask you if you would marry further wives, if your first wife desired to be your only wife?

**salafy_masry** · 06-14-2009

Originally Posted by glo

Nebula and salafi_masry, since you two are brothers, can I ask you if you would marry further wives, if your first wife desired to be your only wife?

Why would she do so ?

**glo** · 06-14-2009

Because women have feelings.

If you have read this thread you will find that some muslimahs would not wish to share their husbands with other wives ... what would you do if you had a wife and that was her opinion, and she asked you not to marry any further wives?

**nebula** · 06-14-2009

well im not sure if i can answer that question right now because im not Married, BUT my wife shouldnt really have a problem with it inshallah, if i did because Allah has allowed it but there are certain requirements that men have to forfill for the wifes so its not easy ofcourse.

**Banu_Hashim** · 06-14-2009

^^ I agree, in this day and age, I don't think it's a sensible choice to have more than one wife. For family stability and contentment reasons.. But I can't tell give any sound insight, as I'm not married either...

**salafy_masry** · 06-14-2009

Originally Posted by glo

Because women have feelings.

If you have read this thread you will find that some muslimahs would not wish to share their husbands with other wives ... what would you do if you had a wife and that was her opinion, and she asked you not to marry any further wives?

Well apart from anything else like traditions .. its totally islamic way of life .. and I'm not married yet .. but Insha allah my wife will be a salafy .. I don't think she would mind that at all.

I know a lot of muslim women don't like it .. but still if its about feelings .. it has been done by the mothers of believers .. and been done before that and after that also. So it should be easly accepted since its been done by great women

**-Elle-** · 06-14-2009

^^^

what you say is true; but then again, its easier said then done.

It's permissible in Islam and has specific requirements, but anyway, I doubt many men would be able to provide for more than one family.

The brothers who marry more than one woman are imposing double the load/responsibilty on themselves; and truthfully said, in these times, I don't think many have the capacities to maintain and equally provide for each of their wives' household.

I believe it is the intention behind your husband desiring to marry another woman which cuts the deepest. Lets say he had the ability and money to provide for many women,and he chose to marry a woman(a second one) who..I don't know, lost her husband in the war, as someone had mentioned. Then,maybe you could understand. But if it was simply because he desired many wives, then I think that will hurt the initial wife; no matter what.

Please remember that we are only human beings; women have emotions ; which is NOT something you can control.You can understand something and agree with it;but if it pains your heart well then you can't deny it,your only human.

**Nájlá** · 06-14-2009

I think a poll should be put up.

But to answer the question. Nope i wouldn't...

**sats** · 06-14-2009

Never, the idea of my husband being with another woman, and then me, makes me sick. Isn't the fact, that woman are allowed to say no to this, evidence that they don't need to like it?

**Beardo** · 06-14-2009

It's not a matter of why or why not it's allowed. I don't mean to be rude or blunt about it, but it is the questioning that has caused previous nations to be destroyed.

I hope my point got across without any offense. lol, I don't know any other way to put it!