i have some questions for sisters and brothers can join 2
there have been lots of topics relating to this but in some way this is deferent
when it comes to getting married every man wants a good looking wife and a the girl wants a good looking husband and afcourse a good muslim please answer but with truth so my question is when getting married what do you look for in a husband please allah made every human in deferent way some good looking and some not good looking but allah gave them defferent gifts or talents the good looking guy would be asking allah if he had that or the none good looking would be asking allah why he made me like this i have seen alot around when some 1 is geting married there parents say i will find a good person tall good looking blah blah blah lol so what about the none good looking guys some are shy some are ugly some loners but they could be the good husband then the good looking one so why still most want to get married to good looking guys out there and the not so good looking remains ohh and in some cultures u cant do anything its the parents who will find a husband for u or a wife the husband can be a not good looking and the wife could be good looking but in 21 century things are a bit defferent so please put some light into this post and comment as much as info as u can .
may allah bring togheter those who are ment to be ameen
good looking in everyones books are different so Allah knows. Some people may think a man without a beard is good looking, others a man with a beard is good looking. some like a woman fully made up others prefer natural.
^True sis. Also tastes change too. So what we might've found appealing before might not be anymore. So what we find good-looking is more than what our eyes can see. It's a preference that's based on a lot of things inside you, i.e. thoughts, emotions and visualisations etc
Handsome men can make "sincere loyal husbands who will place Allaah(swt) first and be grateful for finding you" too, y'know...
Anyway, like they say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder...
That is true:
Handsome men can make "sincere loyal husbands who will place Allaah(swt) first and be grateful for finding you" too, y'know...
It is possible for physically good looking people to also have lasting inner beauty. But our bodies are just a shell that houses our inner self and it is the inner self that needs to be seen. Some times it can be difficult to see past the outer shell if a person has physical beauty. While in a plain looking person it often is what we see without being distracted by the outer shell.
this has always been a weird subject for me and something that can't get my head around.. i always believed hansom men to be hansom but thats about it they had nothing to show on the inside.. they were a bit cold hearted and not much practising there deen and things like this so that was a turn off then those men who did not look like bollywood actors they were really beautiful on the inside and that attracts the believing women obviously but then did you notice sisters you start to see another side to them then? when they get you hooked on them, they get an ego and start playing all sorts of games...
so i guess the conclusion is after all weather your good looking or not.. it don't really matter. its the getting to know the person is whats important. my 21years on earth, this is what i learn't anyway that you fall in love with somebodies heart at the end of it all. don't judge somebody by its cover! so no i would totally not care for looks. every type of looks to me is deceiving
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I'm not sure what it is but there was a man who asked someone I knew if I was married and I remember thinking of him as being sort of ugly-attractive at the same time. If that makes sense?
get outta here!.......would you like a cup of hot and cold tea and with that perhaps small and big chocolate donut?
...i think women tend to be more flexible when it boils down to handsomeness,however the male is more of casanova...he wants the best in town but not all men are like this......those who indulge in chick-chase will never be satisfied those who do opposite will
to prioritise ''looks'' and neglect piousness will cause a broken heart......nobody wants that and certainly not me
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There is no point discussing here fighting over the issues of appearances . It is up to individual to decide. There is no solve here. There is no happy ending here.
Let's close this useless thread please, moderators?
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battle of good looking and none good looking (OP)
so why still most want to get married to good looking guys out there and the not so good looking remains ohh and in some cultures u cant do anything its the parents who will find a husband for u or a wife the husband can be a not good looking and the wife could be good looking but in 21 century things are a bit defferent so please put some light into this post and comment as much as info as u can .
? I mean, it's not exactly his fault he was born handsome 
they were really beautiful on the inside and that attracts the believing women obviously but then did you notice sisters you start to see another side to them then? when they get you hooked on them, they get an ego and start playing all sorts of games...
. It is up to individual to decide. There is no solve here. There is no happy ending here. 
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