Have you ever lost someone you love? Was it willingly or unwillingly? How did you (and they) react to it? How did u get over it? And how long did that take?
Any extra details would be really good too plz, like how old u were etc.
Jazakum Allahu khayrun in advance. Look forward to your responses.
Throughout our lives we are faced with hardships some big and others small. It might be the loss of a loved one or financial difficulties or genuine grief and sorrow. It is human nature to ask the simple question, Why? Why are we tested? Why is it only me that is going through this difficulty whilst the people around me seem to be smiling and happy. As Muslims we realise the reason behind hardships in life and that Allah never means to destroy us thereby rather it is a test to see who amongst us are thankful and who amongst us are ungrateful.
Our noble Prophet said:
The most in their suffering among the people are the prophets, then the best, then the (next) best. One is afflicted in accordance with his faith. If his faith is firm, his affliction is hard, and if his faith is weak, his affliction is light. Indeed, one would be so much subjected to adversity until he walks among the people without any sins
[Reported by Imaam Ahmad in his Musnad and Imaam Tirmidhee in his Sunan]
And in his Sharh [explanation] Shaykh Aboo Qutaybah Nathar Muhammad al-Faaryaabee brings to light a very subtle point whilst commenting on the Hadith of Ibn ‘Abbas in the forty hadiths compiled by Imaam Nawawi rahimahulAllah:
And his [i.e the Prophets] statement:
…Verily with difficulty there is [much] ease…
And in another hadith the Prophet said:
Difficulty will never surpass ease
This is because [in the hadith] difficulty has been mentioned twice and ease has been mentioned twice but [what is well known] amongst arabs is that if a word is in a definite form [i.e it has al before it] then it will always be just one even if repeated [i.e since the word difficulty 'usr is mentioned as al-'usr in its definite form then it is only refering to one difficulty] But if the word is undefined [known in arabic as nakirah] and it is repeated it shows a multitude [and in the hadith the word yusr, arabic for ease is undefined so it shows that alot of ease comes after just one hardship. This is the same for the Qur'aan where this is mentioned in surah alam nashrah]
How painful it is if you lose some one you love very much and it is not death which snatched him/her from you...
I understand the lose of somebody through death is very painful but the lose I am refering is realy mare than the death. Allah has kept a peace in someone's death since you know, he/she is no more in the world but if you feel his/her presence somewhere around and still he/she is not for you any more ...................................
My grampy, he was my dad, (my dad never lived with me and i fell out with him over a year ago) he died very suddenly of bronchial pneumonia, was fine in the morning, died in the night. COMPLETELY unexpected.
How did i get over it?? same as woodrow, NEVER, I never have and i never will, i think of him everyday, and always have wonderful memories of him. losing him was like losing the leg to my table, he was so wise, always advised me, always spoilt my children, was so proud to be a great bampy (my kids used to call him bampy!) and i was so proud to have him, and i always will be, he was a strong person and i would give my right arm to be like him!
How painful it is if you lose some one you love very much and it is not death which snatched him/her from you...
I understand the lose of somebody through death is very painful but the lose I am refering is realy mare than the death. Allah has kept a peace in someone's death since you know, he/she is no more in the world but if you feel his/her presence somewhere around and still he/she is not for you any more ...................................
That is a lose that can only be healed by time and the finding of one you will love more than the one who you lost. Keep in mind that a great loss is often replaced by something better, even though today we believe we already had and lost the best.
I can remember a wonderful young lady I loved deeply and lost to another. That was many years ago. Yet, if as wonderful as she was if that love had been fulfilled, I might never have ventured onto the life path that brought me to Islam. My great loss was an early step to my great gain.
Through Death I have lost nearly everyone I ever loved. I am now the oldest surviving male In my Family Tree.
I do have 2 surviving Aunts that are only a few years older than me. But both of them are very close to death.
Now how did the loses affect me?
My Father was the first I lost I was 7 years old. For many years I stayed in denial and until I was about 16 I kept expecting to see him come walking in the door every evening. Even then I still cried for him for a long time.
Then when I was 14 I lost both Grandfathers in the same year. I felt like I lost my best friend when My Grand Father on my mother's side died. He was my substitute father and taught me many things from how to shoe horses, milk cows, catch fish, shoot a rifle and handguns, pick up venomous snakes, how to swim and he gave me a love of languages.
From then on the loses became blurs, it seemed like I lost at least one loved one every month. The last hardest loss I had was my mother. Now, it seems like loss is normal and it is simply a part of life.
Now how did I get over the loses. I didn't, I do not have to. I reached the age of seeing death as being no more then graduation or flunking out from this life. May Allaah(swt) allow me to become one of the graduates.
Loss through other than death can be as painful as loss through death.
Recently, I lost a close friend...someone who promised to be my "sister" and though I dont blame her for everything that happened, I am still sorry for the way we let it end.
Losing anyone close to you can hurl you to the darkest place you've ever been. It leads to despair, hopelessness and the worst obviously.... is missing the person/re-living the past.
But alhumdullilah, Islam can get you through anything. Pain...tears and sorrow - they all fade with time. *a little sad*
Somewhere over the rainbow, way up high, there's a land that I heard of once in a lullaby.
Somewhere over the rainbow, skies are blue... and the dreams that you dare to dream really do come true.
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