I've been debating this with my friends and family for a while and now it's time to expend the debate to online members. I need to know if it's hallal or haram to go to muslim matrimonial sites and get to know someone for the sole purpose of marriage. Some of my friends say it's harram others say it's okay so i really want to know from others and if there is some hadith or advice froms scholars out there in this matter.
I would never do it. There is zero accountability on those things and you never know if the other person is lying or not. Much too dangerous and it is much too easy to fall into free-mixing that way.
I feel that those sites are like a catch 22. You really cannot tell if the person is being honest or not. I would not necessarily say it is haraam. What of those Muslims who live in desolate areas where there are no Muslims? In my opinion I believe that they are okay, but I would exhaust all means before I use something like that. I would definitely get shura and pray istikhara on that one, insh'Allaah.
I will not say if it's haram or not since I am not scholar
But, Can we really guarantee that the other person will be telling the truth about him/her self?
Can we guarantee that both of them are not just playing?
Can we guarantee that such sites will not lead to free mixing since everyone will be chatting with each other?
For me, Internet as a whole is not a safe place for such thing
I've been debating this with my friends and family for a while and now it's time to expend the debate to online members. I need to know if it's hallal or haram to go to muslim matrimonial sites and get to know someone for the sole purpose of marriage. Some of my friends say it's harram others say it's okay so i really want to know from others and if there is some hadith or advice froms scholars out there in this matter.
jazakomo allah khayran
salamo 3alakom
no i would not do this because the person might not be who they claim to be and it would be very horrible if you found out after marrying this person. they mabe even already married. you just cannot know somebody online sister. you really have to see and meet someone in the flesh with a mahram to really see and witness that persons religious commitment and personality. you just automatically know if someone is good when you meet them. there face and character says it all!
private contact between two people and no mahrem involved?
Sounds like haram to me.
naam...I do believe it to be more correct to have a Mahram do it for the female. However, the prospects are allowed to see one another so what if the sister wants to post a photo? To see if there is an attraction? It is a grey area for me, so I try to stay away from that.
Well i am getting more confused here, I know in Islam, man and woman should not be alone if they are not married so .... do you think a waliy should be involved in this case?
Well i am getting more confused here, I know in Islam, man and woman should not be alone if they are not married so .... do you think a waliy should be involved in this case?
wa alaikum as salaam,
I THINK that a wali should be involved. The Muslim male and female should not chat alone together. Insh'Allaah, I will seek a fatwah.
I will never do it. You dont know how people are behind the pc.
What about if u marry a person who shows u to be in this way n after marrying you get to know how is he really? Internet doesnt guarantee you anything.
Do you mean by nikah online? i'm sure you can not get married online...erm...i'm so sure of it because you need witness and you have to do the handshake... erm...
but here on some advice from islamonline
Name of Questioner
Rachida - Morocco
Title
Marriage through the Internet: Is it Permissible?
Question
I would like to thank you a lot for the efforts you exert in conveying the message. My question goes as thus: Is it permissible to make marriage announcement on the Internet because we see many people marry via the Internet whether by chat or marriage announcement by sending photos and exchanging ideas? Thanks a lot in advance!
Date
07/Oct/2003
Name of Counsellor
Group of Muftis
Topic
Marriage
Answer
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Dear sister in Islam, we would like to thank you for showing keenness on knowing the teachings of Islam, and we appreciate the great confidence you repose in us. We hope our efforts meet your expectations.
With regard to your question, Sheikh Hamed Al-Ali, instructor of Islamic Heritage at the Faculty of Education, Kuwait and Imam of Dahiat As-Sabahiyya Mosque, answers:
“This may cause troubles and lead to evil. It is not allowed to put the pictures of Muslim ladies on the Internet for marriage seekers, and it’s also unfathomable to publish the pictures of Muslim ladies and expose their PRIVATE e-mails for everyone to see. Though it’s allowed for the suitor to look at the lady he’s proposing to, this can’t be taken as a proof to legitimize the case at hand, because publishing the pictures online will make the picture sighting general, for the suitor and others. Even the suitor is not allowed to look in this way, as the permissibility of looking at the woman one wants to propose to is based on ghalabat az-Zann or when the acceptance of the lady’s parents has been proved to be near certainty and there is the least amount of doubt concerning it.
This matter needs to be arranged under the supervision of a trustworthy committee, with some pious and honest monitors and they should conduct this matter in top secret. Information about the man and woman should be dealt with as confidential, and picture should be excluded. Then the committee is supposed to tell the man/woman about the suitable person in his/her country or location – without giving the e-mail address or the picture. Then the man should go to propose to the lady and seek permission to look at her or, if he gets some information that the parents are willing and welcoming the idea, can look at her.
Thus, the committee is supposed to do only the first step of helping the man and woman get to know each other. But to allow the man to look at the lady’s picture on the Internet and then start building relationship and leaving the door open to grave consequences to happen is tantamount to spreading evil and corruption among Muslims under the pretext of helping people to get married.”
Shedding more light on the issue, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and an Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, says:
“There is nothing wrong, as far as Islam is concerned, in helping people get married through the Internet or any other means. However, I have some reservations regarding using the Internet for that purpose. I know that there are some people who got to know each other through the Internet and this ended in marriage. I myself know some people in our community who got successful marriage through the Internet. However, I have reservation against the way it is carried out.
I would say it is allowed to make marriage announcements on the Internet and provide some information about the man and the lady. But to publish a picture of the lady, even with hijab, is highly undesirable. Though it is permitted for the suitor to look at the woman he is proposing to seek her hand in marriage, publishing her picture on the Internet would expose her to everybody and make it available for people of loose character to use the picture for satisfying their desires. Some people might even use the picture for evil purposes and that would harm the lady in the end. So, caution has to be exercised. We can help people get to know each other, and then they should ask about each other in different ways.
To illustrate, it is not enough for a man to decide to marry a lady through online chatting or some information published on the Internet. That would pose a kind of risk. Marriage is a solemn contract that has to be decided wisely. In choosing one’s partner one has to follow the rules and teachings of Islam in order to have a successful marriage and a prosperous life.”
25:36 And the true servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk the earth with humility and when the ignorant address them, they respond with words of peace.
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