1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce
2. Give sincere salaams
3. Treat her gently - like a fragile vessel
4. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere
5. Be generous with her
6. Warm the seat for her, you will warm her heart
7. Avoid anger, keep wudu at all times
8. Look good and smell great for your wife
9. Don’t be rigid or harsh-hearted or you will be broken
10. Be a good listener
11. Yes for flattery, No for arguing
12. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, names she loves to hear
13. Utilize pleasant surprises
14. Preserve and guard the tongue
15. Expect, accept, and overlook her shortcomings
16. Give sincere compliments
17. Encourage her to keep good relations with her family
18. Speak about topics that interest her
19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is
20. Give each other gifts
21. Get rid of routine, surprise her
22. Have a good opinion of each other
23. Have good manners, overlook small things, don’t nitpick
24. Add a drop of patience, increase drops during pregnancy, menses
25. Expect and respect her jealously
26. Be humble
27. Sacrifice your happiness for hers
28. Help at home and with housework
29. Help her love your relatives, but don’t try to force her
30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you
31. Remember your wife in dua
32. Leave the past for Allah subhanahu wa ta ala, don’t dwell on, dig into, or bring it up.
33. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the Provider, the
husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family
34. Take shaytaan as your enemy, not your wife
35. Put food in your wife’s mouth
36. Treat your wife like she is the most precious pearl that you want to protect
37. Show her your smile
38. Don’t ignore the small things, deal with them before they become big
39. Avoid being harsh-hearted
40. Respect and show that you appreciate her thinking
41. Help her to find and build her inner strengths and skills
42. Respect that she might not be in mood for intimacy, stay within halal boundaries
43. Help her take care of the children
44. Give her gifts with your tongue, be an artist with your compliments
45. Sit down and eat meals together
46. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give her sufficient notice
47. Don’t leave home in anger
48. Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home
49. Encourage each other in ibaadat
50. Respect and fulfill her rights upon you
51. Live with her in kindness, goodness, fairness in good and bad times
52. Kiss your wife, foreplay, “Don’t jump on her like a bull”
53. Keep disputes between the two of you, don’t take it outside
54. Show care for her health and well-being
55. Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself
Our Lord! Verily, we have heard the call of one calling to Faith: 'Believe in your Lord,' and we have believed.
Our Lord! Forgive us our sins and expiate from us our evil deeds, and make us die (in the state of righteousness) along with Al-Abrar
^ yes that's what the prophet peace be upon him used to do, whenever ayesha would walk into the room he would get up and say "take my chair" and also when she would drink out of a cup, he would put his mouth on the exact same spot she put her mouth and drink from the same spot.
You can also add to the list "never critize her cooking, even if you think it's the worst food ever made, just say
"I've never tasted food that tastes this good before"
it's like a trick that works on all women LOL I've tried and tested it and their faces light up
Last edited by Salahudeen; 09-15-2009 at 02:28 PM.
warm the sofa for her as in sitting with legs as wide a part as possible whilst playing pes getting a complementary three course meal at 4 intervals of the day
threatening someone is something which no sane human should do
1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce
instead of falling for the trap of threatening her you could up her game whenever there's a drop in concentration and complacency is creeping in by saying sara,hasna and batoota will join us as of tomorrow that will make you a strong unit of 4 ,consider them your helpers and you can be the forewoman if you want but i might change because sara is pretty steadfast in everything ''
this works gentleman use it for motivational purposes and expect improvements in all departments
threatening someone is something which no sane human should do
1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce
instead of falling for the trap of threatening her you could up her game whenever there's a drop in concentration and complacency is creeping in by saying sara,hasna and batoota will join us as of tomorrow that will make you a strong unit of 4 ,consider them your helpers and you can be the forewoman if you want but i might change because sara is pretty steadfast in everything ''
this works gentleman use it for motivational purposes and expect improvements in all departments
so instead of the divorce threat another woman threat is that what youre saying? hahaha try that and tell us how it works
Our Lord! Verily, we have heard the call of one calling to Faith: 'Believe in your Lord,' and we have believed.
Our Lord! Forgive us our sins and expiate from us our evil deeds, and make us die (in the state of righteousness) along with Al-Abrar
threatening someone is something which no sane human should do
1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce
instead of falling for the trap of threatening her you could up her game whenever there's a drop in concentration and complacency is creeping in by saying sara,hasna and batoota will join us as of tomorrow that will make you a strong unit of 4 ,consider them your helpers and you can be the forewoman if you want but i might change because sara is pretty steadfast in everything ''
this works gentleman use it for motivational purposes and expect improvements in all departments
i don't believe anymore a human can satisfy a spouse with all of these things. if it was to be the case then marriage would be easy and no one would be having problems. they would have to be a angel i mean....ahh well it makes you strive harder for jannah
^ I think you could, maybe implement each thing a day at a time, like on the first day you could make sure that you make her feel secure and sakinah and don’t threaten her with divorce and you could make that the target of the day and then the next day you could focus on Giving sincere salaams because you spent a whole day ensuring that these things take place they'll stay with you through out your married life and by the end you'll be implementing all of the list
that's my theory, I'll try it when I'm married and let you know if it works lol
who will be good enough to act upon these 60 ways?
they sound impractical to me! O_o one cant dedicate ones life to the happiness of ones spouse. there are other things in life too!
who will be good enough to act upon these 60 ways?
they sound impractical to me! O_o one cant dedicate ones life to the happiness of ones spouse. there are other things in life too!
AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu
I will!! inshaAllah, i will try my best to do all 60 infact i would do everything i can to make the wife happy. Also i need a more in-depth explaination for some of them....
^lol thats impressive! lucky JJ!!...
may Allah make this 'mission impossible' possible for you. Ameen.
you tell which one you didnt get and the marriage gurus on the forum will explain them to you inshaAllah.
Good luck with your marriage~
. Also i need a more in-depth explaination for some of them....
Just make dua for me!
FiAmaaniAllah
which ones
Our Lord! Verily, we have heard the call of one calling to Faith: 'Believe in your Lord,' and we have believed.
Our Lord! Forgive us our sins and expiate from us our evil deeds, and make us die (in the state of righteousness) along with Al-Abrar
explanation needed for :
59. Accept her as is, she is a package deal
28. Help at home and with housework
18. Speak about topics that interest her
10. Be a good listener
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60 Ways to Keep the Love of your Wife
if it was to be the case then marriage would be easy and no one would be having problems. they would have to be a angel i mean....ahh well it makes you strive harder for jannah
she'll be telling all her friends how good I am or how bad I am
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