To be happy with a woman is to understand her first

**syilla** · 01-13-2010

It has come to my attention that most of the men and boys here have a bit problems when comes to dealing women. Most of the problems that some of you shared are because of a woman :X

I’m not an expert on women but I hope what I share here will InshaAllah make you understand woman more and hopefully make your life happier.

These are mostly from my own observation and being a woman myself.

1. When a woman talks a lot and you had enough of it and you want to make her stop , so how do you do it?

First thing you have to remember that as a woman they ‘need’ to communicate to feel ‘connected’.

So don’t ignore her or watch tv or fall to sleep while she is talking. This will only make her talk more… lol :X

And don’t ask her to shut up after listening to her talk for a few seconds without really understand what she is saying. That can lead to a more serious scenario

The best is to let her talk for a few seconds, answer her a few times then after a few seconds just tell her nicely, darling I need to have my rest, to watch tv or etc.

2. When they complaint
Man always seems to think that when a woman complaints it is as if the world is going to end. “So what I’m going to do??? I can’t fix that!!!!”

The truth is they don’t want you to fix things. The woman wants a someone close to her to listen for all the bad things that has been happening. So be sympathetic and a good listener and InshaAllah she don’t feel she needs to complaint any longer.

3. They just being emotional.

So don’t blame her. Is just her body has more estrogen than you. Let her be emotional, is the way she has been created.

4. When she is being disobedient.

Just be strict and stick to your principle. This is to let her know that you’re the leader of the family and she has to respect and listen to you. But never ever be too harsh on her. If she is sulking let her be, for deep in heart she knows you’re right and InshaAllah she’ll try her best not to do the same thing again.

I think this is an important point since I’ve met a few couples who let his woman have her own way in so many things. At the end of the day the man can’t controlled her. Everytime they argue the woman surely will wins. So control the situation from the beginning and not regretting after that.

5. Shows your emotion.

For example show your affection towards the children, be sympathethic to the ones in need. Showing and sharing emotions will InshaAllah strengthen your relationship with your wife. The woman loves to know you’re the caring person and need a shoulder to cry on too.

6. They need support

Most of the woman they don’t really understand the competitiveness of this world. So be there for her and support her. Most of the time they felt they are struggling in this world alone. With your support the woman will feel more comfortable.

Finally and most importantly, being kind, understanding, show respect and be nice to each other are the keys to have a healthier relationship. InshaAllah with lots of dua and prayers Allah swt will unite you and you’re wife again in Jannah

**Italianguy** · 01-15-2010

Originally Posted by bewildred

When said with such a mature way, it sounds like a huge victory.

okay i will say it more maturely..........Welcome to the team dear sister, I and the rest of the men on the planet would like to extend you a warm welcome and invite you to participate in all manly functions, such as....ummmmm???

Oh yeah, working reall hard all day, eating....watching tv, eating..... watching a little more tv, eating....watching a good game....on tv.....eating, being on LI....eating, sleeping,....eaing a little more and then......here comes the big one....eating then taking a nap to wake up for the big game, and then go to sleep

Mannnnnn, I am exhausted just saying all that

And women say we men don't do anything

Do women understand how hard it is to get up from the couch and get new batteries for the remote!? I mean why do they have to put batteries in that impossible to open package

UGGGGggg

Women are our queens and men are the kings

Well......the only throne I rule my kingdom from.......flushes

**Alpha Dude** · 01-15-2010

Originally Posted by Ali_008

Is this really true? Ladies, please tell me? I thought if you don't agree to the woman's point of view then you can either forget about the food or you gotta sleep on the couch.

Pfft. No man should let her tell him to sleep on the couch. She can go herself.

Equal rights, I'm sure they're more than capable. No need to be chivalrous.

**Italianguy** · 01-15-2010

Originally Posted by Muraad

I believe the following image accurately depicts the differences between men and women. Please observe:

wwwislamicboardcom - To be happy with a woman is to understand her first

wwwislamicboardcom - To be happy with a woman is to understand her first

Thats it! You are crowned king!

That is awesome!

**Italianguy** · 01-15-2010

Originally Posted by zakirs

Thank you for ur post,

Sis how do you feel about hijab or how does one man approach a woman ( say his sister or a relative ) on the issue of hijab.

Men only need three things in their life , Food , TV/PC , bed/sofa . They are SIMPLE

Ameen to that brother! .....Amen to that!

**bewildred** · 01-15-2010

Wow, glory time for you dudes. We're outnumbered, I must retreat.......lol

**Cabdullahi** · 01-15-2010

Originally Posted by Alpha Dude

Pfft. No man should let her tell him to sleep on the couch. She can go herself.

Equal rights, I'm sure they're more than capable. No need to be chivalrous.

Just when im ordered to sleep on the couch i shall use this :

Originally Posted by glo

Tell your wife that you love her - often!

that should melt the heart which will enable me to sleep on the bed in no time!

**bewildred** · 01-15-2010

I bet you're not yet married sir joke a lot. There's nothing deeper than a woman's memory. Forget the "I love you stuff". A piece of jewelry will do a great job.

**Cabdullahi** · 01-15-2010

Originally Posted by bewildred

I bet you're not yet married sir joke a lot. There's nothing deeper than a woman's memory. Forget the "I love you stuff". A piece of jewelry will do a great job.

You're saying that as if your mocking me...that i am somewhat deficient which is true but just remember its a matter of days until it will come to pass

**Uncle Jee** · 01-15-2010

I talk from experience.

1. When a woman talks a lot and you had enough of it and you want to make her stop , so how do you do it?

Give here some chocolate

2. When they complaint

Laugh out loudly and point at the same time, eventually they will button it

3. They just being emotional.

That time of the month, ignore and stay away

4. When she is being disobedient.

Threaten to beat her brother or father

5. Shows your emotion.

Again, point and laugh

6. They need support

Buy them a pillow

**bewildred** · 01-15-2010

Noooo not at all. Just deducing in here. I'm wishing you all the happiness. It's a golden cage.......but a cage anyway......Boooooo....You'll have nightmares......Joking,lol.

**Italianguy** · 01-16-2010

Originally Posted by Uncle Jee

I talk from experience.

1. When a woman talks a lot and you had enough of it and you want to make her stop , so how do you do it?

Give here some chocolate

2. When they complaint

Laugh out loudly and point at the same time, eventually they will button it

3. They just being emotional.

That time of the month, ignore and stay away

4. When she is being disobedient.

Threaten to beat her brother or father

5. Shows your emotion.

Again, point and laugh

6. They need support

Buy them a pillow

I pray your wife doesn't see this

**latiffa** · 01-16-2010

Originally Posted by Italianguy

I pray your wife doesn't see this

Me too...

**Ummu Sufyaan** · 01-16-2010

Originally Posted by zakirs

Men only need three things in their life , Food , TV/PC , bed/sofa . They are SIMPLE

and to accompany that they need someone to buy the groceries, cook the food, serve it on to the plate and call them for dinner, call someone to get the remote if it isnt near them already, make sure that its nicew and quite when they are watching tv, someone to make the bed, and tidy the sofa.

men are simple? im sorry, this post seemed to have strayed from the puzzles and humor section.

I talk from experience.

1. When a woman talks a lot and you had enough of it and you want to make her stop , so how do you do it?

Give here some chocolate

2. When they complaint

Laugh out loudly and point at the same time, eventually they will button it

3. They just being emotional.

That time of the month, ignore and stay away

4. When she is being disobedient.

Threaten to beat her brother or father

5. Shows your emotion.

Again, point and laugh

6. They need support

thanks for the tips, now i know what to do.

4. When she is being disobedient.

Threaten to beat her brother or father

are you for real

**CosmicPathos** · 01-16-2010

Originally Posted by Umm ul-Shaheed

and to accompany that they need someone to buy the groceries, cook the food, serve it on to the plate and call them for dinner, call someone to get the remote if it isnt near them already, make sure that its nicew and quite when they are watching tv, someone to make the bed, and tidy the sofa.

men are simple? im sorry, this post seemed to have strayed from the puzzles and humor section.

thanks for the tips, now i know what to do.

Yea I dont want my "wife" to do all that. To each his own. Some men take the luxury to depend on wives, they have their reasons. I have no reason to depend on a woman. Men should be self-sufficient. Make their own food and make sure that their children are getting food. Since their wives are adult, they can decide for themselves when to eat. But of course as a Muslim man I am obliged to support and protect them financially, and morally when needed.

**'Abd Al-Maajid** · 01-16-2010

I don't know what the think of themselves and the opposite gender. The just talk talk and talk and cannot think of any thing else when they are home like a broken cheap radio

**★ηαѕιнα★** · 01-16-2010

Originally Posted by Muraad

I believe the following image accurately depicts the differences between men and women. Please observe:

wwwislamicboardcom - To be happy with a woman is to understand her first

HAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHA that one was actually funny ROFL!!

Salaam

**★ηαѕιнα★** · 01-16-2010

Originally Posted by Wa7abiScientist

Yea I dont want my "wife" to do all that. To each his own. Some men take the luxury to depend on wives, they have their reasons. I have no reason to depend on a woman. Men should be self-sufficient. Make their own food and make sure that their children are getting food. Since their wives are adult, they can decide for themselves when to eat. But of course as a Muslim man I am obliged to support and protect them financially, and morally when needed.

Brother I do not agree with you. Woman need to feel needed cos they are considerate and need a situation where they can use this quality: like in taking care of a family. You could HELP your wife in fullfilling her tasks. Gets you loads of bonuspoints

. It shows that your on her side and want the best for her and want to make her life less hard for her.
Maybe a tip for other brothers: HELP your wives. And dont say your to busy, thats just an excuse, coz the Prohpet sws had multiple roles as a leader and he still found time to help his wives out in the kitchen and stuff. Used too sow his own clothes and stuff. and more importantly: didnt complain about food being BAD. That makes a woman sad seriously when you tell her the food she made is bad. Alhamdoellilah for my dad, tried to make him dried rice once. Turned out to be some porridge like mass haha totally the opposite! But did he complain ...NO. He hated it but he ate like half (with long teeth and taking loads of time too get his mind to work with him). Sad actually now i think of it...i tortured my dad..

Salaam

Ooh by the way: i thought the sleeping on the couch thing was just a myth?? Not doing that to my husband. He probably owns the bed so who am i to say he has to sleep on the couch?? Seriously do women actually do that?? Thought it was just something from the movies and stuff..
And whats a whistleblower??

**bewildred** · 01-16-2010

The couch has sooooo many uses. It's a purgatory sofa for some awkward hubbies. For some others, it's the opposite. It's one of a voluptuous use.......I mean.....ahem......it's the place where guys relish a good match.

**★ηαѕιнα★** · 01-16-2010

Originally Posted by Italianguy

okay i will say it more maturely..........Welcome to the team dear sister, I and the rest of the men on the planet would like to extend you a warm welcome and invite you to participate in all manly functions, such as....ummmmm???

Oh yeah, working reall hard all day, eating....watching tv, eating..... watching a little more tv, eating....watching a good game....on tv.....eating, being on LI....eating, sleeping,....eaing a little more and then......here comes the big one....eating then taking a nap to wake up for the big game, and then go to sleep

Mannnnnn, I am exhausted just saying all that

And women say we men don't do anything

Do women understand how hard it is to get up from the couch and get new batteries for the remote!? I mean why do they have to put batteries in that impossible to open package

UGGGGggg

Women are our queens and men are the kings

Well......the only throne I rule my kingdom from.......flushes

LOL your funny! ItalianDUDE thanks for the warm welcome. Seriously not gonna participate in the eating thing. Gonna make me FAT. Do you know how hard it is to loose weight?? And TV i dont like that much. Dont like sports!!
How stupid is that, a bunch of grown up men running after a ball. Sorry dudes but thats just stupid. Working hard tires me too much.

And uhhm napping i can do, that ones OK.
Seriously I think im a weird one i dunno, dont like shopping that much, dont like juwelry. Its the most boring present a girl could have i think. It doesnt do ANYTHING, you just look at it and it shines thats all. you bite on it to try and have some use for it and your tooth is falling out...I mean

One piece of juwelry is more than enough i think. ITs BORINGG..

Salaam

**zakirs** · 01-16-2010

Originally Posted by Nasiha21

LOL your funny! ItalianDUDE thanks for the warm welcome. Seriously not gonna participate in the eating thing. Gonna make me FAT. Do you know how hard it is to loose weight?? And TV i dont like that much. Dont like sports!!
How stupid is that, a bunch of grown up men running after a ball. Sorry dudes but thats just stupid. Working hard tires me too much.

And uhhm napping i can do, that ones OK.
Seriously I think im a weird one i dunno, dont like shopping that much, dont like juwelry. Its the most boring present a girl could have i think. It doesnt do ANYTHING, you just look at it and it shines thats all. you bite on it to try and have some use for it and your tooth is falling out...I mean

One piece of juwelry is more than enough i think. ITs BORINGG..

Salaam

*wipes his eyes to know if what he read is really true*