What is the ideal Muslim husband?

MashaAllaah great thread. . . .

Geeky one at that too dont mind me im just passing by

He said: "The best among you is the one who is best to his wife" (Related by Ibn Hibban) in another version it is the one who is most kind to his wife. The Prophet himself was very gentle and kind in dealing with women.

The Prophet saws also said: "If any man shows patience with his wife's bad temper, Allah will give him a reward similar to the reward of Ayyub (Job) for his patience, and if any woman shows patience with her husband's bad temper, Allah will give her a reward similar to the reward of Asiyah daughter of Muzahim, the wife of Pharoah (Cf. Qur'an 66:11)."

It is reported that a man came to 'Umar ibn Al-Khattab raa to complain about his wife's ill-temper. While he was waiting for 'Umar to come out of his house, he heard 'Umar's wife scolding him and 'Umar quietly listening to her, and not answering her back. The man turned around and started walking away, muttering to himself: "If that is the case with 'Umar, the leader of the believers, who is famous for his uprighteness and toughness, then what about poor me?!" At that moment, 'Umar came out of his house and saw the man walking away. He called him and said, "What is it you want of me, O man?" The man replied: "O leader of the believers, I came to complain to you about my wife's bad-temper and how she nags me. Then I heard your wife doing the same to you, so I turned around, muttering to myself, 'If that is the situation of the leader of the believers, then what about me?'" 'Umar replied, "O my brother, I bear with her because of her rights over me. She cooks my food, bakes my bread, washes my clothes, breast-feeds my child...and yet none of these are her duty;* and then she is a comfort to my heart and keeps me away from forbidden deeds. Consequently, I bear with her." The man said, "It is the same with me, O leader of the believers." 'Umar said: "Then, O my brother, be patient with her, indeed this life is short. (Adh-Dhahabi, Al-Kabâ'ir 194)

i should also add this as well. unfortunately it is in Arabic only. really good read though.

ideal muslim husband: 1.fulfills Allah's rights 2. fulfills family rights

As-Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

Surah An Nisa' 4:34


Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allâh has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allâh and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allâh orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill*conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allâh is Ever Most High, Most Great. (Dr. Muhammad Muhsin Khan translation)

format_quote Originally Posted by Sister Unknown

Sorry to kill it for you. We'll seee how long that lasts (smile). Life is a test. We are always tested as to how we will react.

What's wrong with you?

One of the most inane posts you've ever made. People like you, the way you behave currently, harm the faith of other believers yet probably walk about thinking they are such great muslims!

Evaluate yourself!

format_quote Originally Posted by Muslimeen

I hope you tell him that, many times we just hide things from the person who needs to hear it most.

Oh I do!! every day. Alhamdulillah I pray that other sisters can be a blessed as I have been with Such a patient and understandin husband inshAllah

format_quote Originally Posted by ~SilverOrchid~

sorry to break it to all you sisters out there but I have the best husband ever good luck finding second best lol

Haha!
We can all stop looking then, eh??!

My husband and I have been together for 24 years, and over the years our love for each other has changed in quality and our marriage has grown stronger.
He is away for a week at the moment, at it feels very strange! We are so seldom apart ...

format_quote Originally Posted by Alpha Dude

What's wrong with you?

One of the most inane posts you've ever made. People like you, the way you behave currently, harm the faith of other believers yet probably walk about thinking they are such great muslims!

Evaluate yourself!

Akhi, I hope you are doing well (smile). I will not take anything personally you say, or have said, and your kind have said. Neither do I give a ripp. Let me make it clearer: Focus on yourself. As for your information, I do think and love my brothers and sisters, unlilke Sunni forum who love to backbite in the same manner of what you just accused me of. In fact, brother, I love the kawarijj, the Sufis, the Salafis, an dall other Muslims around the world. If you want to suspect negativelly about your sister, which is a sin, go ahead. I am satisfied with anybody who believes in Allah and His messanger, saw.

What a strange party... You're so quick to accuse me of something not even understanding the post........

format_quote Originally Posted by Alpha Dude

Most of what you say here is irrelevant.

I DO understand what you meant. However, there is always a context for such 'advice' to be given and the manner in which you departed your 'wisdom' was in extremely poor taste. Hardly beneficial. If you can't say a good word, just be quiet.

You're one of our former members. You've had trouble in the past with saying foolish things. I'm hardly surprised by your posts. Please, just pull yourself together and learn some sense. THINK a million times before you say something.

What is it brother, eh? Are you trying to teach me ahlaq? Lol. You accuse me of saying foolish things and you are being foolosh yourself! Maybe you, before issuing fatwas to people next time, seriously, busy yourself learning your obligations. No offense, I willn ot mention the things I have told you about in the past. Now, since you are my brother in faith, I do apologize since my manners are bad. But to inform you, I do not feel superior to anybody. You do not know the reason I act the way I do, perhaps it is for Islamic reasons??????Maybe?????

I need to not justify a thing to you, or anybody else. However, I do not feel superior since I do believe that actions are apart of the faih ass well as hey, I may be in a worse situation than you and all the mankind when I stand before Allah on the judgement day.

Now, my last post to you. And, do not address me ever again, I warn you, you know I care less what others thing and if I get banned or not.


May Allah forvive us all.

format_quote Originally Posted by MysticRiver

Sister unknown, anyone who posts in this forum has a huge responsibility built on respect for the other members. Your attitude is far from being so. What's the use of ruining the good 'mood' of a thread with your sardonic comments?

I did not begin. Sorry. Show respect to recieve it in return. Same goes for you. No offense intended. Since you do not want to continue ruining the thread, maybe stop making comments. I know I sound rigid, I hope he learned his lesson.

Original topic starter, I apologize he went off topic. Alpha Dude, use the PM next time. Please don't. It will be ignored. Focus on yourself. I am not trying to forbid evil, or whatever. Thamk you for your carring approach. And I do not blabbel when I write, remember this! The only reason I joined here is because I feel more confident asking some questions that are considered "unnecessary" elsewhere.

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Husband that assist with children and household...

He appreciate the work done by his wife...