What is the ideal Muslim husband?

sabr* · 07-22-2010

سم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Bismillā hir Rahmā nir Rahīm
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

As-Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

Is the ideal Muslim husband a medical doctor, an engineer, multi-millionaire.

Is the ideal Muslim husband humble, gentle, kind, considerate, caring, loving, open to good advice, willing to cooperate with others in the family rather than dictate rules, helpful in the house, involved in raising the children, and never abusive either physically or mentally.

Use the Quran and Sunnah to show what you think is the ideal Muslim Husband. Insha Allah

This thread was created with the best intentions. Any positive feedback would be appreciated and encouraged.

Jazakumullahu Khair

**marwen** · 07-29-2010

^ lol why don't we use the PM instead of the forum lol : You wanna post a thread, you pm it to all the members
Just Kidding guys don't hate me

**aadil77** · 07-29-2010

Originally Posted by Alpha Dude

lol, you could have sent us that naseeha in a PM..

.........doh!

**Muslimeen** · 07-29-2010

Originally Posted by Ummu Sufyaan

^so? thats not what was being addressed.

So what is being addressed?? I am a little confused :confused:

**Ğħαrєєвαħ** · 07-29-2010

Aslaamu`Alaaykum
Okay back on topic

An Ideal Husband should be geeky

(j/k)

They should be happy and smile and be calm no matter what and not argue with his wife that would be an awesome characteristic. According to some the wife always wins anyway

They should be able to try and be like the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) in some way by following the Sunnah of Rasoolallah. However, nobody is as perfect as the Prophet

They should be able to help the wife out in all situations and ofcourse Vice versa! Fearing Allaah and practising and if a harship or calamity enters their life they should deal with it patiently, and not swear get angry n esp Aggressive (like the Prophet Sallahu alaayhi wa salam) and other geeky stuff ofcourse the bad geeky as theirs a good geeky also

for those geeky brothers and sistahs who were not aware of this

If they commit a sin they should able to know what to do which is asking Allaah for forgiveness and do all they can do please Allaah to the best of their Ability and we are all Humans as some are guided by Allaah and for some its unfortunate

Anyways i was just saying what i think just my geekified geeky nerdy view , you dont have to agree and please dont become angry with me if so il delete this post inshaAllaah anyways im sure many other great characteristics have been mentioned so i dont need to say no more indeed

*walks off*

Wa`Alaaykum Salaam

**Asiyah3** · 07-29-2010

Originally Posted by squiggle

I've seen quite a few posts saying a good husband is the one who shows his appreciation to his wife, how do women like to be shown appreciation? lol is it simply telling them "I appreciate what you do" or does it involve buying them something to show your appreciation?

I've noticed this in women some of the time, they say men don't appreciate them, so how should a man show his appreciation to them?

buy them some chocolates?

Don't complain, don't be ungrateful. Appreciate her & don't take what she does for granted. A gift would be lovely now and then.

**~Raindrop~** · 07-29-2010

An ideal husband would be one who understands his wife's need to eat chocolate at the time of any crisis...before thinking of a solution.

**glo** · 07-29-2010

Originally Posted by Aisha

An ideal husband would be one who understands his wife's need to eat chocolate at the time of any crisis...before thinking of a solution.

That should definitely be in every wedding contract!

**Rhubarb Tart** · 07-29-2010

There was me trying to get back on topic and I nearly get my head chopped off! lol!

When I mean assist the housework, I mean clean after himself like put his boxers in washing basket, clean the table after he eats etc. Not always expecting a cup of tea made by the wife, but tries and makes his tea now and then. Also assist her more when she is pregnant or the child is still young and handful. I know this may seem common sense to people but to others it may not be especially if their mother were doing everything for them.

Of course this goes both gender but since this topic is on the husband, i keep talking about the husband.

**Asiyah3** · 07-29-2010

Originally Posted by sweet106

When I mean assist the housework, I mean clean after himself like put his boxers in washing basket, clean the table after he eats etc. Not always expecting a cup of tea made by the wife, but tries and makes his tea now and then. Also assist her more when she is pregnant or the child is still young and handful. I know this may seem common sense to people but to others it may not be especially if their mother were doing everything for them.

You're right sister. I agree with your description. A man should be to a certain level independent and not some mommy's boy.

**Cabdullahi** · 07-29-2010

Originally Posted by sweet106

There was me trying to get back on topic and I nearly get my head chopped off! lol!

When I mean assist the housework, I mean clean after himself like put his boxers in washing basket, clean the table after he eats etc. Not always expecting a cup of tea made by the wife, but tries and makes his tea now and then. Also assist her more when she is pregnant or the child is still young and handful. I know this may seem common sense to people but to others it may not be especially if their mother were doing everything for them.

Of course this goes both gender but since this topic is on the husband, i keep talking about the husband.

what kind of man would not do the above things....those are the basics shizzle!

**Rhubarb Tart** · 07-29-2010

Originally Posted by Abdullahii

what kind of man would not do the above things....those are the basics shizzle!

Yeah of course, there are but the ideal husband would do the basic things right...

Why not include it.

**Rhubarb Tart** · 07-29-2010

Originally Posted by sabr*

As-Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

Surah An Nisa' 4:34

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allâh has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allâh and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allâh orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill*conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allâh is Ever Most High, Most Great. (Dr. Muhammad Muhsin Khan translation)

Salam

That part can also be translated into "went away"?

sabr* · 07-30-2010

As-Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

sweet106:

You bolded that part of the ayat.

Sahih Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, Number 68:

Narrated 'Abdullah bin Zam'a:

The Prophet forbade laughing at a person who passes wind, and said, "How does anyone of you beat his wife as he beats the stallion camel and then he may embrace (sleep with) her?" And Hisham said, "As he beats his slave"

**Ummu Sufyaan** · 07-30-2010

Originally Posted by Aisha

An ideal husband would be one who understands his wife's need to eat chocolate at the time of any crisis...before thinking of a solution.

either that, or the need to bite his head off before thinking of a solution

**Cabdullahi** · 07-30-2010

Originally Posted by Ummu Sufyaan

either that, or the need to bite his head off before thinking of a solution

Inalillahi wa ina ilayhi raji3oon

absolutely shocking :'(

**Muslimeen** · 07-30-2010

Originally Posted by Abdullahii

Inalillahi wa ina ilayhi raji3oon

absolutely shocking :'(

Sabr brother, Sabr, allah loves those who are patient and they ask, why do men get Hur al een in jannah?? Ok, it's time hide

**Ummu Sufyaan** · 07-30-2010

edit.........

sabr* · 08-03-2010

As-Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

Sahih Bukhari Volume 4, Book 55, Number 548:

Narrated Abu Huraira:

Allah 's Apostle said, "Treat women nicely, for a women are created from a rib, and the most curved portion of the rib is its upper portion, so, if you should try to straighten it, it will break, but if you leave it as it is, it will remain crooked. So treat women nicely."

**Ğħαrєєвαħ** · 08-03-2010

^Masha`Allaah indeed!

sabr* · 08-09-2010

Surah Baqarah 2:228

228. And divorced women shall wait (as regards their marriage) for three menstrual periods, and it is not lawful for them to conceal what Allâh has created in their wombs, if they believe in Allâh and the Last Day. And their husbands have the better right to take them back in that period, if they wish for reconciliation. And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses, etc.) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect, etc.) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And Allâh is All-Mighty, All-Wise.