What is the ideal Muslim husband?

As Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

Akhi ardianto:

The guidance you provided is often neglected.

The practice of misogyny is a learnt behaviour.

Women are effected by it so much that they actually enable and support it.

Very strange.

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What is the ideal Muslim husband?

One who does what he is told! <_<

Marriage is give and take. You'd better give it to her or she will take it anyway.

Asalamualaykum,
A very interesting topic and mashallah i liked the sources and as well as witnessing the love of brothers and sisters appreciating their wives and husbands mashallah.. I do pray that I be taht wife who can keep her husband and satisfied so that he makes dua for me just like bro Muslimeen does for his wife mashallah.. I would definitely want a husband who fears Allah and does everything for the sake of Allah (Subhaana wa taala).. Who hears and obeys the laws of Allah. That when he finds out something in the Qur'an and Sunnah he strives to apply it in his life, Someone who despite what society says, only does what Allah has ordered. Who is kind as well as strongheaded, Who loves Allah more than me but loves me for His sake. Who listens to me and discusses things with me. Who teaches me as well as encourages me. Who would feel for the Ummah as much as i feel for them. Someone who would push me to learn more and spread more about Islam.

Allah only knows what's best for me more than me.. I do pray that i do find the ideal husband Allah has chosen for me soon. Ameen

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One who does what he is told! <_<

I agree! . . . . . . .

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Allah only knows what's best for me more than me.. I do pray that i do find the ideal husband Allah has chosen for me soon. Ameen

As Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

Uhkti Souljette:

Jazakumullahu Khair for your contribution to this positive thread. Our observation leads us to realize if a sister or brother spends
the majority of their time not engaging with their local Muslim community their opportunity and chances to secure a spouse with
Islamic values verses cultural and traditional ethnic habits decreases.

No one is perfect and everyone requires constant refinement. Many of us have pondered the thought of the what ifs when
following different online personalities. But the reality is that the majority of online personalities differ from real life.

We perform du'a that Allah blesses you with a husband that has Iman, Taqwa, Ihsan, and implements the Sunna absent of the
tribal and non Islamic influences. Insha Allah.

As Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

Tolerance :

Al-Hujurat (The Dwellings)

يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ إِنَّا خَلَقْنَاكُم مِّن ذَكَرٍ وَأُنثَى وَجَعَلْنَاكُمْ شُعُوبًا وَقَبَائِلَ لِتَعَارَفُوا إِنَّ أَكْرَمَكُمْ عِندَ اللَّهِ أَتْقَاكُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِيرٌ (49:13)
Ya ayyuha alnnasu inna khalaqnakum min thakarin waontha wajaAAalnakum shuAAooban waqabaila litaAAarafoo
inna akramakum AAinda Allahi atqakum inna Allaha AAaleemun khabeerun


49:13 (Y. Ali) O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female,
and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other).
Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you.
And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things).

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Religious level does not automatically makes a husband becomes good husband.
There were some cases which the husbands were so busy with their ibadah and Islamic activities, but never
gave attention to their wives, and treat their wives like strangers. Even I found a case which the husband too
focus to ibadah and forgot to make money.

These cases considered as 'light cases'. The 'heavy cases' were happen in certain areas where misogyny is still strong.
Maybe you have heard some cases which the husbands cut their wives' noses. Sadly, those husbands actually are religious Muslims.

As Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

Akhi ardianto:

the reality of a Muslims neglecting his family (Zawj-wife) is neglecting part of his din. (Way of life)

An-Nisa (The Women)

الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاء بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ
وَبِمَا أَنفَقُواْ مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ حَافِظَاتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللّهُ
وَاللاَّتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ
وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلاَ تَبْغُواْ عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلاً إِنَّ اللّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيرًا (4:34)
Alrrijalu qawwamoona AAala alnnisai bima faddala Allahu baAAdahum AAala baAAdin wabima
anfaqoo min amwalihim faalssalihatu qanitatun hafithatun lilghaybi bima hafitha Allahu
waallatee takhafoona nushoozahunna faAAithoohunna waohjuroohunna fee almadajiAAi
waidriboohunna fain ataAAnakum fala tabghoo AAalayhinna sabeelan inna Allaha kana
AAaliyyan kabeeran


4:34 (Y. Ali) Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the
one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means.
Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence
what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct,
admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly);
but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance):
For Allah is Most High, great (above you all).

There is no definite idea of the ideal Muslim husband; everyone will have his/ her match whom Allah made for him/her and people are not the same so, the Idea of the ideal Muslim husband or wife will be different from one to another; according to everyone's personality, traditions and customs, way of thinking, needs and others...

and at the end you will get what is written for ya only so, be pleased with whatever you get and thank Allah...

Asalamu Alaikum,
An ideal husband is one who helps your iman increase, Prays and reads alongside with you
A man who apologizes Although hes right, doesnt get mad often And when he does he remains calm despite the situation , cleans without being asked to, Brings you Food knowing how much he enjoys having it brought to him, attempt to ensure your happy..
Loves, Cares, and Adores you Whether your 20, or 70 yrs old.