Okay I duno how to put this buh am jus gonna be straightforward.. As boys/men, would you go for someone that wears a ninja head to toe or someone who don't cover herself.. Now I know, I mean it's obvious that gurlz who don't cover themselves are more attractive buh on a serious note, who would you as a guy go for and why? Btw, this has NOTHING to do with Islam.. Am jus sayin generally.. I know some guys get put off if they see a gurl in a ninja cuz they feel she's too "Islamic" or too "extreme" or wahever.. Yet deep down that gurl could be an outgoing person.. Similarly, a gurl who don't cover herself properly, a guy could turn her down & yet deep down she could have the most amazing of characters.. So yeaaa, I was wonderin wah are your views on this? :><:
" Its sometimes better people don't get to know you..
Cuz the more they know you, the less they understand & accept you..
Alone is better, what say " - SRK
The 'ninja' thing wouldn't put me off (I imagine that practising brothers would feel the same). I would consider it commendable if she were to opt for it (again, most others would feel the same), yet wouldn't think any less of her if she chose not to.
I am glad you posed the question for Boys. A man is actually very much turned off by scantly dressed females. The thoughts of lust may be there, but the actual thoughts and feelings for such a girl are quite derogatory. I say girl because a grown woman attracts a man for marriage, through maturity, intelligence and piety not by her body
Pretty bodies might be nice for teenagers, but most people live very many years past their teens in a body reflective of their age, physical attraction is not a good guide for selecting a wife.
Overall full covering is much more attractive to a man as it gives him the opportunity to really see who she is. The lack of clothing is the real disguise that hides the true woman.
I would all ways go for the women who covers up, we don't tend to have a lot of respect for girls who just have it on display for everyone to see. You said girls who don't cover them self are more attractive this is not true, Islamic guys would find the girl who covers more attractive then the girl who doesn't. Guys see the girls who don't cover as only good for one thing they don't really respect them as individuals.
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Okay I duno how to put this buh am jus gonna be straightforward.. As boys/men, would you go for someone that wears a ninja head to toe or someone who don't cover herself.. Now I know, I mean it's obvious that gurlz who don't cover themselves are more attractive buh on a serious note, who would you as a guy go for and why? Btw, this has NOTHING to do with Islam.. Am jus sayin generally.. I know some guys get put off if they see a gurl in a ninja cuz they feel she's too "Islamic" or too "extreme" or wahever.. Yet deep down that gurl could be an outgoing person.. Similarly, a gurl who don't cover herself properly, a guy could turn her down & yet deep down she could have the most amazing of characters.. So yeaaa, I was wonderin wah are your views on this? :><:
You have no ideas how Muslim guys operate do you? Let me break it down for you, at least the way I see it and the way that the brothers I know see it.
A girl that doesn't cover up, that doesn't at the very least wear Hijaab, be she Muslim or not, yeah she might look attractive and catch a guys attention, but no brother would seriously consider her anything more than someone that looks pretty in the sense of approaching her for marriage or something meaningful. I live in a place where if you walk down the street, you'll see beautiful women from all around the world and past the lowering the gaze aspect, I'm not attracted to them in a way that would make me want to go after them because there's no way that I'm going to marry someone that dresses that way. She might be a great person, great personality, caring, but I, personally speaking, won't be able get past the way she dresses, if it's immodest.
On the other hand, a sister that dresses modestly, jilbaab/hijaab or even niqaab, she's way more attractive than those women that hardly dress. Why? Because they're the ones that brothers can consider as a future wife and therefore turn out to be more fitnah in that sense than a girl that's wearing a mini-skirt - because at the end of the day this girl that's dressing awesomely modest, she might just end up being potential wife material.
Lastly, I highly doubt I'll end up marrying a niqaabi, but I'll definitely say that niqaabis are awesome. As for how brothers see them, then I've seen three different views. One group doesn't mind and would actually prefer it, second believes its too conservative and don't think its necessary, a hijaab/jilbaab/modest clothing is sufficient, and a third group which are impartial, they leave it up to the sister, if she wears it, cool, if she doesn't thats cool too. I tend to think it's a bit conservative, but I don't mind it, hijaab/jilbaab is awesome, but at the end of the day, it's up to the sister.
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I wouldn't go for either. The former I have no clue what she looks like and regardless of personality, the Prophet pbuh advised that men should find their wives attractive. The latter I wouldnt touch either. Sure its real tempting to get with her. But she obviously has no self respect. Why should I carry that into a marriage?
I'll go for the regular hijabi or regular practicing non hijabi.
I think it depends on the kind of boys they are...lol. If we are surrounded with 'aalim' boys...i'm sure they would want the head to toe cover up. if we are surrounded with the normal kind of boys...they are sure would like normal girls lol... i've known someone who actually will take the chance to give comments in every clothing his wife is wearing. eventhough she is actually properly wearing islamic dress abayaas and long jilbab. but..he will tell her to wear something more loose and etc. and the wife actually love it because the husband seems really care about her awrah. Oh well..might be they are newly married...lol.
But to those who really observe about their awrah...and will not take the chance even the tiny exposure, they will really appreciate the ninja thing. because in islam...the women and ladies are been carefully taken care of like gems.
25:36 And the true servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk the earth with humility and when the ignorant address them, they respond with words of peace.
Now I know, I mean it's obvious that gurlz who don't cover themselves are more attractive buh on a serious note, who would you as a guy go for and why?
just rereading this, sis the niqaab is a part of Islam, no matter what some twit may tell you.
not wanting a niqaabi wife is something, but if a guy doesn't want a niqabi wife becuase he doesn't acknowledge it is from the sunnah, or it is too much of a shame to be seen with a wife who covers her face (pure idiot that guy is), or as you said he thinks its extreme, tell him to walk!
the thing is, it isn't about not wanting a niqaabi wife per se, but rather that he sees a legitimate part of the sunnah to be unacceptable/extreme. that's worrisome.
Overall full covering is much more attractive to a man as it gives him the opportunity to really see who she is. The lack of clothing is the real disguise that hides the true woman.
not to mention, it tends to stem from self esteem issues that anti Islamic (fails to think of a better word) twits should address rather then propagate that she ought to flirt, etc with men to make her feel independent.
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Personally I'd go for the ninja sister all the way. One who doesn't cover herself I wouldn't even look at. Obviously looks are important but a women of piety, taqwa and character are ahead of looks when I go hunting for a wife.
Also I'd consider a sister who wears jilbab but personally I admire sisters who don the niqaab. Amazing.
Majority of the brothers I know who are much older than me have wife's that are niqaabs. However I wouldn't force my wife to wear a niqaab. I'd be content if she wore the hijab/jilbab as long as she is modest.
I don't find sisters who don't cover themselves attractive. That's all I'll say on this matter.
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Abu Ayyub al-Ansari(ra) narrated, the Prophet(SAW) said, "Whoever fasted Ramadan with the then connect with the (fasting) six days in Shawwal, the (reward) as he was fasting for a year." (Muslim,Abu Dawood,al-Tirmidhi, al-Nisaai & Ibn Maajah).
I wouldn't go for either. The former I have no clue what she looks like and regardless of personality, the Prophet pbuh advised that men should find their wives attractive. The latter I wouldnt touch either. Sure its real tempting to get with her. But she obviously has no self respect. Why should I carry that into a marriage?
you do know its ok to show the face before marriage for the very reason you have mentioned dont you....so you WOULD know what she looks like...
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just rereading this, sis the niqaab is a part of Islam, no matter what some twit may tell you.
not wanting a niqaabi wife is something, but if a guy doesn't want a niqabi wife becuase he doesn't acknowledge it is from the sunnah, or it is too much of a shame to be seen with a wife who covers her face (pure idiot that guy is), or as you said he thinks its extreme, tell him to walk!
the thing is, it isn't about not wanting a niqaabi wife per se, but rather that he sees a legitimate part of the sunnah to be unacceptable/extreme. that's worrisome.
not to mention, it tends to stem from self esteem issues that anti Islamic (fails to think of a better word) twits should address rather then propagate that she ought to flirt, etc with men to make her feel independent.
a woman will be rewarded for wearing a niqaab, but a woman who does not will not be punished. Not wearing Niqaab is not a sin. It's sunnah that we would observe if we wish. No one can force a woman to wear a niqaab. Whole body covered, with only face and hands exposed is 100% acceptable by the sunnah and Qura'n.
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On a different note, it's nice to see all these brothers preferring a covered woman. Alhamdulillah, we interact with such pious brothers on this forum.
Alhamdlillah my husband too said he liked me because I was a hijaabi. There are also men who have married non-hijab wearing girls and got them to start wearing one after marriage.
But on the other side, I also know for a fact that in South Asian countries, there are Muslim men who prefer a wife who does not wear hijaab! It's such sad situation. I know of girls who don't cover fearing that they will not be able find a husband. I know of women who have abandoned their hijaabs for marriage! They are stupid, stupid, STUPID!
“Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; and argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious. " (16:125)
Rasulullah said, “Anyone who conceals (the defects of) a Muslim, Allah will conceal them (their defects) in this world and in the Hereafter.”
My brother said there is a beauty in the veil which you do not see in those women who do not wear it.
There is a grace and mystery about the woman in a veil, and a curiosity about who she is. There is a rare aura around her, which is not around other women, even though they may be modestly dressed. Her confidence, courage, strength of character and Identity cannot be compared. She is rare. You sense an invisible protection and barrier around her, and no man dare speak to her without permission - or dare mess with her. You are only left with admiration and inspiration.
That is why the western men are threatened by the veiled woman especially. Because she aims for the highest levels of obedience to Allaah, despite the practice of the society she lives in. She is a woman of substance. And a woman of substance produces children of substance - who leave behind legacies like Salah hud deen.
But on the other side, I also know for a fact that in South Asian countries, there are Muslim men who prefer a wife who does not wear hijaab! It's such sad situation. I know of girls who don't cover fearing that they will not be able find a husband. I know of women who have abandoned their hijaabs for marriage! They are stupid, stupid, STUPID!
Indeed indeed indeeeed!
As been mentioned earlier, women are gems, so the moment the man feels disrespectful of the wife, that's the same moment she is going to drop from his eyes.
I live in Asia and yes it's quite true that men go for non hijabiis and its super rare here to find a ninja(lol what a word to use for niqab!!!). Most are exposed, and that attracts most people here, some gaze because they are losers(excuse me for the word) and others look and then decide to go propose later ( bad decision according to me). As for me, I turn my eyes away and ask Allah to guide them if they are muslims but there is no chance I would even think of proposing to such women.
Self respect is a crucial aspect when it comes to marriage, pardon me for this but a woman who doesn't cover her precious parts is one who doesn't respect herself and thus gains no respect as a result.
And we wonder why the west is having no morals, respect has been and still is being demolished. Independence has proven to be their excuse for not being dressed and yet you find men marrying such women there.
I make a point of this, but please men, don't be offended, coz its a fact . A man who accepts to marry an exposed woman and is then happy with that and takes it as a normal thing, then that's no man. How could you accept your wife to be seen by everyone and not feel even a beat inside you, its really a shame.
A woman with hijab or niqab doesn't necessary have to be a good woman, and one without hijab can be good from inside but needs a guide to wear hijab( guide against herself and shaitan that is). However, till she finds that guide, she is still amongst the lost ones. So for me, well I already have someone am going to marry inshallah and she wears hijab and she wouldn't mind wearing niqab I think, but its fine with me if she stays with the hijab alone, and I don't mind if she wants to wear the niqab.
So yes I would say, a woman with hijab or niqab or ninja as you say is more attractive, more pure, more precious and deserve to be treated like a gem as that's what she is.
but they're ninjas and ninjas dont reveal their identities
for serious marriage prospects then yes it is done. it is a mans right to view a woman before marriage....
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no not hair and all but enough to see if he is attracted to her...
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I know some guys get put off if they see a gurl in a ninja cuz they feel she's too "Islamic" or too "extreme" or wahever.. Yet deep down that gurl could be an outgoing person.. Similarly, a gurl who don't cover herself properly, a guy could turn her down & yet deep down she could have the most amazing of characters.. So yeaaa, I was wonderin wah are your views on this? :><:
Let me break it down for you, at least the way I see it and the way that the brothers I know see it.
said, “Anyone who conceals (the defects of) a Muslim, Allah will conceal them (their defects) in this world and in the Hereafter.”
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