Does your 13-14 year old daughter have a facebook account?
Does she have lots of males on her friends list?
Do they make innappropriate comments when she posts her provocative pictures without hijab and wearing tight clothing and make up.
Does she like it when they do?
Do they give her gifts?
I recently came across my daughters facebook account which she had forgotten to sign out of and I decided to look at what she gets up to. I didnt really find anything incriminating on her part but one of the friends she has on there is my older cousins daughter aged 13. These cousins of mine are very strict religious long beard do hajj umra and all their daughters wear hijab etc. This particular girl also wears hijab but I was shocked to find that her father would have to answer YES to all my questions above and this made me very sad and if he knew I dont what he would do.
Obviously I cant say anything to them but I am posting this to make everyone aware that they should keep a close eye on their childrens facebook activities and regularly check their accounts for this type of behaviour. No matter how pious they come across there is nothing wrong with keeping a check. The internet is full of shaytan.
May Allah make all our children good and pious.
JazakAllah khair.
at 13 they shouldnt really have facebook anyway. I understand what you mean tho, most of my "so called friends" pious on the outside, but get them on FB and there different people. Its easy to get led astray on these type of social networking things, from what ive seen the asian guys use it to perv on girls, often making inappropraite cringing comments and the girls seem to love it ? thrive on it even ?
by the way, has your daugher got restricted privacy settings ?? so only her friends can view her profile ? otherwise shes gona get all sorts of dodgy loons looking at her profile.
Do they check your forum posts too here? They must have missed your posts in the mods room.
I think they stopped that, since it's harder to track my forum posts. :P
Fortunately, they only have access to my posts outside of the staff rooms. x]
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my mother has dificulty getting to grips with double clicking so im safe :
You're in luck. >_> But enjoy while you can. They catch on quite fast.
Really though, if you use it wisely, facebook can prove beneficial as well. Especially nowadays, schools actually REQUIRE it, mainly because they assume you're already on it.
Though, intentions do change. My initial intention of opening my FB was for advertising the Jannah Network. Boy, has that changed or what...
I feel it's important to have a social life. In addition to my drivers' license, it's helped me build back a social life and come out of that hermit's shell. At a halal level, I hope.
I don't understand why you couldn't say anything to them.
If someone had seen or heard my daughter doing inappropriate things, I would want that person to come and tell me so that I could discuss things with my daughter about improper and proper behavior, and to hopefully prevent even worse behaviors.
Couldn't it be done in an innocent way? Such as going to them and saying casually, "Oh, I saw your daughter has a facebook account. Have you seen it?" Then allow them to see it on their own, without you accusing their daughter of anything or without you seeming to be passing any judgment on their daughter.
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From Him comes my salvation.
I don't understand why you couldn't say anything to them.
If someone had seen or heard my daughter doing inappropriate things, I would want that person to come and tell me so that I could discuss things with my daughter about improper and proper behavior, and to hopefully prevent even worse behaviors.
Couldn't it be done in an innocent way? Such as going to them and saying casually, "Oh, I saw your daughter has a facebook account. Have you seen it?" Then allow them to see it on their own, without you accusing their daughter of anything or without you seeming to be passing any judgment on their daughter.
innocent thats not innocent !!....they might whip her....do you think the parents reaction would be like...'' dear daughter i saw your facebook account and I've seen all the pictures...i feel saddened and shocked , so as a punishment we decided to give you time out...5 minutes in your room GO!.''
i think the best way to go about this is to speak to the girl and explain why the things she does are wrong in a nice,polite manner.....in that way she'll avoid the whippings and the beatings
Last edited by Cabdullahi; 10-13-2010 at 08:28 PM.
i think the best way to go about this is to speak to the girl and explain why the things she does are wrong in a nice,polite manner.....in that way she'll avoid the whippings and the beatings
Is it even permissible to spank your kids in Islam??
I remember reading a hadith that said a good muslim or (true believer) is one that who's hand and tongue are safe from other muslims.
I think you should say something (to the girl or her parents).... because it may get worse than what it is.
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one thing I hate about facebook is when your friends think its okay to post your pictures and make countless albums without even asking permission!!
well to be honest once someone else has taken your photo, you dont know WHO will see it...its best not to let people take photos. Just two days ago i saw a friends wedding photos, it wasnt strictly women but at the time from what i saw only women around but there were women with their niqabs pulled up on head ready to be pulled down if men came in the hall...too bad the pics are all over a few facebook accounts.
im not 13/14 but have many family members on my facebook, not parents but uncle/aunt lol..though my husband doesnt approve you can never be too careful. but then i dont accept random people either
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innocent thats not innocent !!....they might whip her....do you think the parents reaction would be like...'' dear daughter i saw your facebook account and I've seen all the pictures...i feel saddened and shocked , so as a punishment we decided to give you time out...5 minutes in your room GO!.''
i think the best way to go about this is to speak to the girl and explain why the things she does are wrong in a nice,polite manner.....in that way she'll avoid the whippings and the beatings
To be honest, the thought of the parents whipping and beating the child never even crossed my mind when I asked that. That type of behavior from parents is not common where I come from, nor acceptable, and is rare-- so it is not something my mind generally goes to.
If I knew the parents were abusing their child, then no, I would not speak directly to the parent about their daughter's behavior. I would speak to the child about her own behavior, and I would also caution her about how she knows her parents will react if they discover it. If I knew a child was being whipped and beaten, to be honest, I'd call the authorities on the parents. You can criticize or hate me for that, but a child should never be abused. (Nor should an adult. I would just as quickly call the authorities on an adult if I knew they were abusing another adult.)
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From Him comes my salvation.
To be honest, the thought of the parents whipping and beating the child never even crossed my mind when I asked that. That type of behavior from parents is not common where I come from, nor acceptable, and is rare-- so it is not something my mind generally goes to.
If I knew the parents were abusing their child, then no, I would not speak directly to the parent about their daughter's behavior. I would speak to the child about her own behavior, and I would also caution her about how she knows her parents will react if they discover it. If I knew a child was being whipped and beaten, to be honest, I'd call the authorities on the parents. You can criticize or hate me for that, but a child should never be abused. (Nor should an adult. I would just as quickly call the authorities on an adult if I knew they were abusing another adult.)
i guess i would recommend everyone not to use facebook, i dont know personally i never had islamic friends there, and facebook is all about socializing unislamic way, it is filled with stupidity
i closed my facebook account recently but still ur personal data is stored on thier server, for people who say its just to stay in touch i think email fills that purpose quite good.
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Oh lord make my best day the last day (aakhirah)
JazakAllah khair dear sister in Islam for posting and informing on such a very delicate subject. Firsty Bara Allahu Feek on giving advice on being aware of what young children are doing or saying on the social network facebook. Secndy about your older cousins daughther I sincerely think you should confront the girl herself and wisely advice her and tell.
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im not on facebook, but sometimes when i Google search i will click on something that is linked to facebook and see all these comments from women without a hijab...its really saddening
Last edited by Ummu Sufyaan; 10-14-2010 at 03:16 AM.
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I too have a facebook account but I don't have unknown friends and never talk to anyone except my friends who are not in my country.The privacy settings are really good there.There are many Islamic groups which post hadiths, I like them.I don't do facebook much as I am on this forums.Te person who has a facebook account should be careful about friend list.
May Allah almighty guide every sould towards the righteous path and fill all Muslim hearts with nour and righteousness and keep them away from evil or wrong and make them do say act think in a manner that pleases only You sweet almighty Allah
Is it even permissible to spank your kids in Islam??
I remember reading a hadith that said a good muslim or (true believer) is one that who's hand and tongue are safe from other muslims.
I think you should say something (to the girl or her parents).... because it may get worse than what it is.
Islam does not say anything about that. Ofcourse whipping any human is bad. Thats more a humanistic nature, rather than Islamic view. Islam is more related to spirituality and how to overcome sins.
If I remember, Umar (ra) lashed his son for drinking alcohol till his son died. What does that tell you
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I wouldn't know. I am not from there. I have never lived there either.
I did once know a family who lived there, and we visited them, but no, they did not whip their kids. Of course, they were not originally from there either. We had been neighbors with them in another state years earlier.
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Her oldest sister is not a lot younger than me. I might approach her if i can get round there inshaAllah. They live about an hour away and I dont have a car so I dont know when I'll be able to.
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you can never be too careful. but then i dont accept random people either
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