even i am not married yet but i want married members here to share their experience honestly, which things in ur spouse u like and what are things u dislike.
actually i wana learn and i think it would be beneficial for others members also bcz they will learn which things would make life happy and which things make ur partner unhappy. so one can leave if he/she have such behavior.
what i experience i got from my mom and dad, i think there relation was purely cultural, mean i see in our culture, in the start both boy and girl were happy. i am sure its bcz both were young and both are source of happiness for each other physically. so in that time i see many girls even tolerate if hubby have a annoying behavior. but with the passage of time when they dont need each other physically but spiritually indeed. i see they dont have spiritual understanding and issues btw them start arising and life bcm disturbed. one main reason of this maybe, girl bcm bold bcz she know after children the husband will always avoid divorce bcz of suffering of children in case of divorce. so i learn ur spiritual understanding with partner is more important than physical one. so in long run u will have a good and understanding relation.
plz share ur experiences....
Salaam brothers and sisters
I have posted on here before, but would like to add a little more.
Having been married for over 10years, I would like to share my personal feelings.
Compromise. - Hard that it can be at times.
Don't dwell on either ones errors. - we All make mistakes, learn from them.
Don't get caught up with 'keeping up' with the latest fads and materialistic possession, you will just burden yourselves.
I have seen many marriages crumble because of this.
Spend time together, even better if you can pray together.
1. Men and women are so different that it's debatable whether they belong to the same species at all. Any man who thinks that he understands his wife is fooling himself. Of course, his wife already had him fooled all this time. That's why he thinks he understands his wife.
2. Your wife is someone else's daughter. Had been for all her formative years before you married her. So don't think that you are going to make any headway in changing the way she thinks and behaves. You already have your hands trying to keep ahead of your own children.
3. The best thing I like about my wife is that I can make babies with her. Really. I can cook by myself. I can wash my clothes by myself. I can fall asleep on the keyboard by myself. But I can't make babies by myself. So I am glad that she is willing to help me do that.
Hope this is useful. Insha Allah. By the way, did I mention I can speak English, Malay, Chinese, Thai and Rubbish fluently? Especially the last item.
Any man who thinks that he understands his wife is fooling himself. Of course, his wife already had him fooled all this time. That's why he thinks he understands his wife.
wow great reply bro and i like this one the most. they are master in making ppl fool.........lol.
sisters dont mind but allah swt had also said this in quran. i mean whether u have many other good abilities, we cant deny that u are also genius in this game....making ppl fool.
I remember reading that Saidina Ali (ra) said walking behind a woman is more dangerous than walking behind a lion. That's something to think about, isn't it? One other thing, you can never out-talk a woman. lol
I think what Saidina Ali (ra) meant was that when walking behind a woman we will be tempted by Shaytan and that is even more dangerous than walking behind a lion. Perhaps some more knowledgeable brothers or sisters can shed more light on this.
wow....... do u read the OP, i have asked both good as well as bad things....but our married bro and sis dont want to disclose it.....what a love. and what a shyness.
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i think if we want the bad parts it may be better if we point out what we realise are our own weaknesses rather than spouses. otherwise generally speaking itd be something like
they are always wrong (and you are always right)
Our Lord! Verily, we have heard the call of one calling to Faith: 'Believe in your Lord,' and we have believed.
Our Lord! Forgive us our sins and expiate from us our evil deeds, and make us die (in the state of righteousness) along with Al-Abrar
I don't want to encourage these threads because there is no benefit in them. I'm sure the single brothers and sisters have researched a million times over the kind of fairy tale relationship they would like to be in but unfortunately life doesn't work out that way.
Relationships, likes and dislikes and what you see in your partner is subjective. To cut a long story short, brothers and sisters, there is far more to life than marriage. If your ultimate goal in life is to get married then you're not living for much. How will this help you in aakhira? How will this help you in the grave?
For God sake people, enough marriage threads!
And verily for everything that a slave loses there is a substitute, but the one who loses Allah will never find anything to replace Him.” [Related by Ibn al-Qayyim in ad-Dâ' wad-Dawâ Fasl 49]
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