you don't have your Islam right if you think that due to a personal opinion a woman can "legally" divorce her husband if he remarries. and for you to be posting on these forums where others can read it and learn wrong things, is a serious crime. i will say it again, not for you , but for others reading this - there is no room in Islam for a woman to rule over her husband and tell him what to do and act in an unislamic way and say i have a CHOICE to leave you if you marry again. we have loosened up too much with all this choice stuff, oh i have the choice to do it so i will. what sort of a woman can do that? i have zero respect for women like that who have no patience, and really, have no shame as a woman, because your husband is supposed to be your everything, he is a means of you gaining jannah, so to throw away such an important person due to an obviously unislamic reason, it is WRONG. Allah has made it halal, end of discussion, no room for personal opinions left. this is biddah that you are promoting and are ok with, saying that oh people can CHOOSE not to be with someone who re-marries, says who, you? Allah said otherwise. Prophet's wives did not ask for divorces when he got married again. so are we better than the Mothers of the Believers who were undoubtedly the best of all women? just stop. learn what a real muslim woman is and learn she has to make sacrifices and YES it's tough to see someone you love with someone else, i KNOW how it feels, jealousy is in the nature of a woman, but there is no fairness for a woman to divorce on the grounds that her husband re-married. unless her "opinions" she values more than Allah and the Prophet. maybe this is why the Prophet stated that women are lacking in their religion, they will let stupid worldly things get in the way due to hormones. especially women nowadays, i just don't understand. what happened to good quality women, seriously? women used to have babies in villages by themselves, no one to help them, they would rear them and raise them to be amazing muslims, and women would be patient and love their husbands even if they married 4 times, and now look at all these princesses influenced by trash in the world saying oh i can't POSSIBLY BEAR THE BRUNT of seeing someone i marry being with someone else. men have desires! maybe Allah will reward you much more if you are patient and let him gain a halal way of getting rid of these desires. women like these marry for themselves ONLY and not for the sake of Allah, because if they did it for the sake of Allah, they would be completely ok with their husband coming to them and saying i wish to marry someone else, because they would say Allah has sent this trial i will be patient and will seek my reward with Allah. in fact i would be happy if my husband was THAT honest with me, and told me that instead of going behind my back or even worse committing zina. women like these throw their husbands into sin and they resort to zina. being torn apart and devastated in your heart, i understand, projecting that to the extent of saying i will divorce you if you re-marry, that is wrong. that husband could also have said, i will divorce you and go marry someone else, but if he is just saying i want to get married again, that is halal, staying with him, it is a way of protecting your children and yourself financially, emotionally and legally. gain some sense. if he wants to go marry someone else, BE SMART, stay as his wife, even Allah rewards you, your kids will be grateful when they grow up that their mother is not divorced which has serious repercussions in society, you also have financial security and you can still also be with the person who you love, at least some of the time. Allah has protected us SO much in Islam and then you see girls like this who say oh i know better, and then you're divorced and sitting around with kids who resent you and no finances, men luring at you because you have no mahram, and you look stupid because if you had had some patience, it would all be different, and you only have your own stupid self to blame. it's frustrating to see such women, no deen, no dunya, no aakhirah.
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