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“Among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, in order to have tranquility with them and He put love and mercy between your (hearts) : verily in that are signs for those who reflect.” [30:21]
I think the biggest mistake I made when I got married is assuming that life was now about having two of everything. Having two cars to get around the city, ordering two plates whenever we went out to eat, or buying two of everything to make sure both of us were happy.
At a Majlis one day I heard a beautiful story of an elderly Arab couple who were so in love that they could only eat when they were together and from the same plate. They said it brought them closer, the husband would cut pieces of meat just the way his wife liked it, and the wife knew just the right amount of yogurt her husband liked on his rice. They didn't have to ask or say anything, both of then knew exactly what the other wanted. It was beautiful.
Since hearing that story my wife and I always eat from the same plate and only order one drink to share. What this taught us is the value of sharing in a relationship and how sharing brings two people closer together. When you share you learn about the other person, what they like or what they don't like. When you share you always have to consider the other person just as much as you consider yourself, and that is what love is all about.
Love is about giving a part of yourself to the other person, love is about always thinking about your partner's feelings when you make a decision, love is about agreeing together on one thing that makes you both happy, and you will practice all those things when you share who you are, what you want, and even what you eat with the person
you want to spend the rest of your life with.
- Khalid Al Ameri
Your wife is the closest person to you in the whole world, yet many husbands show their best side to people outside the home. They make such an effort to impress and to make the right impression, yet they do not do this at home. Who is most deserving of your best side? Surely it is your spouse.
Allah sees everything that you do for your husband even when your husband fails to notice the little things. Nothing is being forgotten and nothing is being left off your record. An angel is recording every good intention you are thinking about, even if you can't follow through, and writing down every kind and loving action you do take action on, knowing that Allah will increase your reward.
For every moment you picked up his pants and socks off the ground for the one hundredth time as it lay inches from the laundry basket...
For every cup of tea you've made with just the right amount of sugar...
For each dinner you have prepared and served with love and patience...
For every trip to the store to replace worn out socks, lightbulbs, salt, shampoo, and milk...
For each time you stopped focusing on winning an argument...
For each egg you've scrambled, load of laundry you've sorted, and floor you've swept...
For each time you sprayed perfume, reapplied your eye liner and tried to smooth down your hair...
For all those moments where you were exhausted from tending to the kids, but you still smiled at him when he walked through the door...
For every hug, every flirtation, and every compliment you gave him...
For every time you told him to just trust in Allah and be firm in his faith...
Allah has a messenger recording and He will reward you for everything you do for your marriage and husband.
There are always going to be a million other women out there in the world, but your husband has chosen you for a reason. Remember that when you doubt being enough.
- Wives of Jannah
Tips, how to win your wife's heart: ❤️
- If your wife is still asleep when you have woken up, give her a gentle kiss on the forehead. - Watch your wife’s beauty secretly. - Whenever you have the opportunity, offer her a flower or a bouquet of flowers with a smile. - Rather than trying to satisfy her too much, feel and say that you are satisfied with her. Your own satisfaction will satisfy her. - On coming back home every time, give her a hug and a kiss on the forehead. - Tell her that she looked really nice when she was asleep last night. - Feel that you have never seen anybody like her and let her know it. - Don’t look for her body. That’s already yours. Rather look for her mind. She’s looking for opportunities to offer it to you. - Sometimes act like a child and let her teach you something. She can teach you some things that nobody else can. - Look her into the eyes and smile!
Last edited by strivingobserver98; 08-17-2016 at 08:41 PM.
Allah sees everything that you do for your husband even when your husband fails to notice the little things. Nothing is being forgotten and nothing is being left off your record. An angel is recording every good intention you are thinking about, even if you can't follow through, and writing down every kind and loving action you do take action on, knowing that Allah will increase your reward.
For every moment you picked up his pants and socks off the ground for the one hundredth time as it lay inches from the laundry basket...
For every cup of tea you've made with just the right amount of sugar...
For each dinner you have prepared and served with love and patience...
For every trip to the store to replace worn out socks, lightbulbs, salt, shampoo, and milk...
For each time you stopped focusing on winning an argument...
For each egg you've scrambled, load of laundry you've sorted, and floor you've swept...
For each time you sprayed perfume, reapplied your eye liner and tried to smooth down your hair...
For all those moments where you were exhausted from tending to the kids, but you still smiled at him when he walked through the door...
For every hug, every flirtation, and every compliment you gave him...
For every time you told him to just trust in Allah and be firm in his faith...
Allah has a messenger recording and He will reward you for everything you do for your marriage and husband.
- Wives of Jannah
This was so sweet. I think sometimes women can feel that the effort they put in is underestimated or not valued as much as it should be, or maybe their husbands don't show their appreciation in the way they want them to. But Allah swt sees everything, and the reward with Him will be worth everything inshaAllah.
إن الله ليعجب من مداعبة الرجل زوجته ويكتب لهما بذلك أجرا ويجعل لهما بذلك رزقا حلالا
"Allaah is pleased when a man plays with his wife, and He grants them reward as a result of it and He fixes for them Halaal Rizq (sustenance)." [Narrated by Imaam as-Suyooti in al-Jaami`-ul-Kabeer, and by Imaam ad-Daylami, and Imaam ibn `Adiyy.]
It comes in one Riwaayat (narration) that the Rahmah (Mercy) of Allaah Ta`aalaa descends upon a couple when the husband glances at his wife with love and pleasure, and she returns the glance with love and pleasure.
Another Riwaayat mentions that when a husband clasps the hand of his wife with love, their sins fall away from the gaps between their clasped fingers.
`Allaamah Sakhaawi رحمة الله عليه has mentioned that looking at the face of one's wife strengthens the eyesight.
Last edited by Huzaifah ibn Adam; 08-20-2016 at 10:54 AM.
|| Rules for a happy marriage || 1. Never be angry at the same time. 2. Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. 3. If one of you has to win an argument, let it be the other one. 4. If you have to criticise, do it lovingly. 5. Never bring up mistakes of the past. 6. Neglect the whole world rather than each other. 7. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. 8. At least once every day, try to say one kind or complimentary thing to your partner. 9. When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness. 10. It takes two to quarrel and the one in the wrong is usually the one who does the most talking.
[Pearls of Wisdom, Mufti Saiful-Islām, Page 175]
“May these vows and this marriage be blessed. May it be sweet milk, this marriage, like wine and halvah. May this marriage offer fruit and shade like the date palm. May this marriage be full of laughter, our every day a day in paradise. May this marriage be a sign of compassion, a seal of happiness here and hereafter. May this marriage have a fair face and a good name, an omen as welcome as the moon in a clear blue sky. I am out of words to describe how spirit mingles in this marriage.” Rumi
“Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.”
– Bruce Lee
I know I haven't been posting as much on here (I'll try to soon), but this is one of my favourite threads. Marriage is such a beautiful part of one's life, it does need lots of hardwork and commitment, but so rewarding in both this world and in the hereafter.
May Allah swt give everyone a righteous spouse and blessed marriage. Ameen.
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