How NOT to be TOO emotional

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I've come across posts that have smileys, multiple question marks, all caps and multiple exclamation marks. This clearly shows that some of us really put our emotions in our posts.

While others can be so stoic and not show their true emotions by smileys, they show it with sarcasm and words that subconsciously scratch fellow members' hearts to bits. [like someone I KNOW. :happy:

If you have any tips (I mean tips, not psychobabble like Allah is watching you, the hadeeth says this and that) please post them here. Those are information. We know that already, if you have to post the Quran/hadeeth, please try your best to also write how to apply them.

Honestly, I've seen some seasoned members' posts that did not escape outburts of emotions.

Thanks.
 
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Well, let me be the first one.

I try to make a sense of humor out of it. Well, sometimes members write some really straight forward posts, for example words like STOP WHINING.

This, if you look at it in real life, you can either say it in a soft melodic way or stern fatherlike-figure way. Since, it appears on your computer screen, YOU have to choose how it's said.

Peace.
 
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Nothing is wrong with being emotional. After all we are not made of stones. Keep in mind also that there are few young teenagers on this board.
 
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Perfect! Let see the example above.^

The post was written without any smileys (that's good, because assuming that she's responding to me, and I'm a guy, we don't want to be smiling to each other in real life, now, would we?).

Read the post and tell me, how many ways can you read it?

(1) I can take it as a diss to this thread.
(2) I can take it as an opinion, which she has all the rights to voice.

If I take it as (1), I'd probably say:

"If you don't have any tips, just get out!!!!!!! I know we're not made of stone, but having emotional diarrhea and not thinking while posting usually leads to unnecessary squabble!!!"

If I take it as (2), I'd say:

"Thank you.Your opinion is duly noted."

I'm actually responding to her opinion not the POSSIBILITY of how she wrote it. That, we gotta leave it to Allah and her intentions.

oh ya, Thank you.
 
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If you have any tips (I mean tips, not psychobabble like Allah is watching you, the hadeeth says this and that) please post them here. Those are information. We know that already,
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And why not? What is wrong with that? Isnt this an Islamic Forum? I am far away from knowing it all, I am here to learn aswell (as long as its based upon solid evidence)
 
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Khaldun said:
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And why not? What is wrong with that? Isnt this an Islamic Forum? I am far away from knowing it all, I am here to learn aswell (as long as its based upon solid evidence)
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Perfect! Thanks.

There's nothing wrong with it. Just give us the Quranic verses and you can, tell/show us how to practise it. :happy:
 
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I use these smileys so people know I'm joking. The one or two times I've told a 'joke' here without a smiley, people get all offended and start calling me kafir and stuff. Hence: :p

You're right though, Brother Takumi, it is often difficult to gauge the emotion of a member just by reading the words of their post. In that respect, smileys and exclamation marks help to communicate the spirit in which the message is being given.

That said, there are some really silly smileys. Take the 'Offended' one for example.

:offended:

I mean, what the heck is that? It looks like a burnt tomato.
 
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i personally thought that emoticon looked like a bomb thing..:?
so does that mean i'm not allowed to look confuzzled? :confused:
:w:
 
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Next tip.

Do you have text to speech program in your computer?

If you do, close your eyes and let the computer read the post for you. Computers don't put emotions in their reading. It'll simply read the post as monotonous as ever. So, your judgment won't be cloudy.
 
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Hijabi_19 said:
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i personally thought that emoticon looked like a bomb thing..:?
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So, when you're offended, you look like a bomb? You're Muslim too? That's racial profiling! :p

so does that mean i'm not allowed to look confuzzled? :confused:
:w:
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I think that one looks more like the Scarecrow from the Wizard of Oz, but then, I'm strange.
 
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;D burnt tomato...ah i dnt use smileys much but have strated to..n yeah see the point....just am lazy....
 
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Takumi said:
Next tip.

Do you have text to speech program in your computer?

If you do, close your eyes and let the computer read the post for you. Computers don't put emotions in their reading. It'll simply read the post as monotonous as ever. So, your judgment won't be cloudy.
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Microsoft Sam is the computer's default voice, as well as my homey.
 
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When some1 says something 2 u wich is true, u just gotta accept it, like Bro Takumi said

"stop whining" (which he actually said to me)

I just took the bullet and said to him

"true"

But some people wud have called him all sorts of names, cos they're too sensitive!

Stop being so emotional, if u go 2 any forum, u will have to be prepared to get oppsed and being said stuff straight, So if u cant take this then please leave, u will have a lot of trobles being here
 
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Muezzin's post is a perfect example of a post that is emotionally balanced.

All the question marks are appropriately placed, [multiple question mark, can be deduced as; "what the ***"] and comas to reflect on his pauses when he's talking and there's no exclamation marks at all. That showed that he's cool and very lighthearted.

Multiple exclamation marks show high intensity emotions.

Observe:

(1) Who do you think you are?
(2) Who do you think you are???????
(3) Who do you think you are?!!!!!!!!
(4) WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE???????
(5) WHO THE HECK DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?????????????

Which of those sentences will make you feel more offended? [the sentence is already minimally demeaning].
 
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Muezzin said:
So, when you're offended, you look like a bomb? You're Muslim too? That's racial profiling! :p

i'm shocked at ur unfound accusation :o...(actually i'm not..letz pretend i am..)
I think that one looks more like the Scarecrow from the Wizard of Oz, but then, I'm strange.
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and again..thanx for the insult..rub salt in the wound :?
though i must say..i neva hav a question mark flying by my face :confused:
 
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Takumi said:
Muezzin's post is a perfect example of a post that is emotionally balanced.

All the question marks are appropriately placed, [multiple question mark, can be deduced as; "what the ***"] and comas to reflect on his pauses when he's talking and there's no exclamation marks at all. That showed that he's cool and very lighthearted.

Multiple exclamation marks show high intensity emotions.

Observe:

(1) Who do you think you are?
(2) Who do you think you are???????
(3) Who do you think you are?!!!!!!!!
(4) WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE???????
(5) WHO THE HECK DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?????????????

Which of those sentences will make you feel more offended? [the sentence is already minimally demeaning].
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err..why do u feel the need to repeat urself? :giggling:
 
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Takumi said:
Muezzin's post is a perfect example of a post that is emotionally balanced.
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You are so getting reps for that when the system lets me.

And let that be a lesson to all of you. Be nice and get reps. You scratch my back, I scratch yours with reputation points or something.
 

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