Cultural Barrier?!

well

i know a pakistani who has married a jamaican brother!

i know a iranian who married a algerian!

and personally

so inshallah if we can stand in the mosques, eat and drink together, then we should be able to inter marry, but some people prefer to stick to their cultures, which is fine, as long as you marry someone for deen innaaay

Masha'Allah ^^

I made a thread much like this in the gender rooms.

Sometimes its the family that holds a person back. It may sound mean to say this but I think that by the time us lot are grandparents (and the older generation at present are no longer with us) things will have changed insha'Allah.

^

also before we marry we always think omg i wan my kids to speak panjabi or whatever, if i marry a white person, my kids wont learn the lingo or summin .... WHO CARES

and also we may fear what our family think and all that,

there is nothin wrong with marryin someone from your own community, but obviously if you find someone from a different crew or race, and their deen is better, marry them innay!

At the language point, it may sound trivial to some but its true isnt it bro.

I mean forget that, imagine marrying into a family where the inlaws want the D-I-L to learn their language...Fine I know many would do it out of love...I personally would take on a whole new language, but for it to be a requirement and a basis for rejection....Hmm

I aint discriminating, I would rather my kids speak my own language @ raONAR modness

format_quote Originally Posted by chacha_jalebi

and also we may fear what our family think and all that,

there is nothin wrong with marryin someone from your own community, but obviously if you find someone from a different crew or race, and their deen is better, marry them innay!

errr communication problems, culture problems, too much complication. I would rather marry into my own community[/COLOR]

format_quote Originally Posted by - Serene -

Nope

^Sad but true... *sigh* I wish we could just live in peace & harmony...

format_quote Originally Posted by - Serene -

I aint discriminating, I would rather my kids speak my own language @ raONAR modness



errr communication problems, culture problems, too much complication. I would rather marry into my own community[/COLOR]

I respect u wanting ur kids to speak ur own language, but what i dnt respect is u saying that u dnt want dem 'gora kids'. For the simple fact that we have white converts in this forum(and whats wrong with white kids?).... and secondly its foreign language and not everyone understands it. So i will not continue into this, Allahuma inu ana Saim!!

Thats a diffucult question but I wouldnt matter Who I Marry In my deen But Indeed It would Be difficult with Communications But Not with My culture I think

--- I meant I want my kids to at least understand their culture, and by that they have to learnt their language. By 'dem gora kids' I meant I don't want them to only speak english because then they will forget about their culture...

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SubhanAllah. Anti Saaim-ah

We all are actually.

May Allah (swt) guide us all. Ameen.

WassalamuAlaykum

format_quote Originally Posted by - Serene -

--- I meant I want my kids to at least understand their culture, and by that they have to learnt their language. By 'dem gora kids' I meant I don't want them to only speak english because then they will forget about their culture...

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now now, everyone smile like dissssh

if the culture is islamic, then thats fine but me personally speakin i think my culture bein a pakistanian is mashed up, its not islamic at all!

and i agree with you on the point of not forgettin roots and that, but for mee as long as the kids dont forget they muslims its all goood

and gora kid i was called that by them street uncles, until they didnt know i was one of them

I think I said b4, some people may be part of a rich heritage and culture and they may not want to overcome any barriers, may want to stay as they are.

Also, knowing who you are is important I guess.

format_quote Originally Posted by - Serene -

care to translate?

its what i said before to you lol

innee saa imun innee saa imun!

meanin im fastin, im fastin

format_quote Originally Posted by - Serene -

--- I meant I want my kids to at least understand their culture, and by that they have to learnt their language. By 'dem gora kids' I meant I don't want them to only speak english because then they will forget about their culture...

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Okok i will grow up

Am sorry, do remember am still a trainee mod (so bare with me)

format_quote Originally Posted by JσℓιєFℓєυя

I think I said b4, some people may be part of a rich heritage and culture and they may not want to overcome any barriers, may want to stay as they are.

Also, knowing who you are is important I guess.

Yep thats well said However i see sometimes that people take pride on where they are from, instead of taking pride on their deen.

Its the same in sudan, a guy from southwest sudan proposed to my cousin(we are from the north) and my aunty simply rejected him because of his darker skin colour and the place in sudan he was from. While he was an engineer and was in top condition regarding his religion.

Personally, I would love to marry out of my culture and race. If I lived in a place where polygamy was normal, I'd have the most multicultured family ever.
From what I've seen, inter-racial marriages takes alot of patience and there has to be compromising on each side's part more than a regular same culture marriage. I think to marry out of one's culture, you need a spouse who gets you & your culture, and knows Islam well enough to seperate the two and vice-versa. Then, you and your spouse can build a proper Islamic family & seperate the culture and include only the culture that is Islamically acceptable.

format_quote Originally Posted by Abu Sayyad

Personally, I would love to marry out of my culture and race. If I lived in a place where polygamy was normal, I'd have the most multicultured family ever.
From what I've seen, inter-racial marriages takes alot of patience and there has to be compromising on each side's part more than a regular same culture marriage. I think to marry out of one's culture, you need a spouse who gets you & your culture, and knows Islam well enough to seperate the two and vice-versa. Then, you and your spouse can build a proper Islamic family & seperate the culture and include only the culture that is Islamically acceptable.

Everything you just said I completely agree with. Couldn't have said it any better.