Marrying Mr. Right!

Auzubillahi-Minash shaitwaanir rajeem. Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem

AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

Marrying Mr. Right!

Your relationship with Mr. Right (or Mrs. Right) should be based on:

• Forgiveness. No one is perfect, so there will be disagreements from time to time. Both partners will inevitably do or say something that upsets the other. You cannot go crying back to your parents every time something goes wrong.
  
• If you really thought carefully before marrying and ensured he or she had all the qualities you need, and you prayed Istikharah (Arabic for: supplication for guidance in making a decision) before making the decision, then you have married the right person. So that's not a question anymore
  
• When trouble happens, it is time to make this marriage work and draw on all those positive qualities that you know you both have.
• Love. This is the quality that most people focus on. Love is something that grows as the relationship develops and deepens. It grows out of honesty, respect, harmony, forgiveness, and excellent communication from both sides.
  
• The sparks of love should exist before the couple marry. When they do, be sure that if the behavior from both parties is good, it will grow into tenderness and love. It is this feeling that makes the couple want to be together.
• Honesty. To bond the relationship between you and your to-be spouse, your dealings with him or her should be based on truthfulness.
  
• There should be so much openness between both parties that you can share anything and say anything and be sure you will be respected and understood.
  
• Telling lies and twisting the truth puts a wedge between you, and this spells doom to the relationship.
• Compassion. If a couple are really close, each feels what the other is feeling. One of them would never laugh when the other cries, or go out to have fun when the other is ill.

FiAmaaniAllah