Since my other attempt to spark a discussion didnt work, here's another.
I'm too sleepy to make it sound coherent
So...in my 19 years of living I have seen...
Those with British born parents are less likely to fall into the wrong crowd, less likely to get caught up with social networks and rubbish like that....whilst those with parents from back home and a limited understanding of the English language, will be more likely to get caught up.
My theory is so ridiculous I want a response
I'm not even guna say why I think that coz atm TJ is spamming my fone
I do not have British Parents and did not grow up in the UK.
But I did grow up in Post WW2 USA and it was a time of mass migration. During my school years, the foreign grown kids were the most likely to join gangs. I did not know of any American gangs but nationalistic gangs flourished. there were German gangs, Italian gangs, Spanish gangs, Polish gangs, Japanese gangs, etc.
I suspect it was because of the language differences and kids wanted to be with kids that spoke the same language.
(Bear in mind I'm talking from my experience only, I'm not saying all families are like this, I live in a itsy bitsy town, things may be diff elsewhere)
Not that they wont be taught morals, the moderation was my main part.
Basically the one who doesnt know the dangers will not attempt to protect his/her children from it.
Putting it simply.
You seem to have extracted more from what I said than I have.
(Bear in mind I'm talking from my experience only, I'm not saying all families are like this, I live in a itsy bitsy town, things may be diff elsewhere)
Not that they wont be taught morals, the moderation was my main part.
Basically the one who doesnt know the dangers will not attempt to protect his/her children from it.
Putting it simply.
Ah.
So either they don't attempt to protect their children out of cultural ignorance, or they overprotect them for the same reason?
You seem to have extracted more from what I said than I have.
(Bear in mind I'm talking from my experience only, I'm not saying all families are like this, I live in a itsy bitsy town, things may be diff elsewhere)
Not that they wont be taught morals, the moderation was my main part.
Basically the one who doesnt know the dangers will not attempt to protect his/her children from it.
Putting it simply.
You seem to have extracted more from what I said than I have.
WassalamuAlaykum
True
Basically the one who doesnt know the dangers will not attempt to protect his/her children from it.
I wont wrap my kids in cotton wool, inshallah when i have kids.
I,l talk to them straight, like how i do to my nieces, about life issues, why you musnt do certain things, and yeh give them a bit of freedom.
Take them with me to isha prayers in the summer when its like 11pm, that way they can say they stay up late, i used to hate going bed so early.
Round my ends, well lets say its got a bad reputation. I will show my kids , look at these gangs, and drug addicts, and show em not to go down that path.
Most of all have fun with them, i dont wana show em islam is boring. Inshallah
I think its down to good parenting skills and that includes awareness of the environment in which your children live.
...I wonder at the one who extends his right hand
To his beloved at the time of seperation and he hastens therein!
I felt weak and incapable of saying farewell when I saw him
So my heart shook his hand whilst my eye wept....
Yeah it is down to good parenting, but at the same time if the parents are completely alienated from society, the same society that their kids spend so much of their time in, then that's where you have problems.
‘Say: If the ocean were ink wherewith to write out the words of my Lord, sooner would the ocean be exhausted, even if We added another ocean like it.’~Al Qu'raan (18:109)
wa alykum us-Salaam
@sis amat...oh, i get you now
but parents (esp mums) still know what their kiddies are up to even though they arent necessarily fluent with english...right
i know it would have been like that for me
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
Since British born parents have gone through the difficulties that young muslims in the UK will experience, they have a better of idea of how to handle them and guide them, whereas parents born outside of the UK are not as aware of the different aspects of British society or how to deal with them in an appropriate manner.
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