Intermingling of Ghair Mahrams on IB, Allowed?

I'd imagine if women didn't 'talk' to men we'd have been extinct sometime back in the 7th c.?

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what does intermingling of opposite sexes mean ... its become a vague notion ...

format_quote Originally Posted by mad_scientist

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what does intermingling of opposite sexes mean ... its become a vague notion ...

I don't know.......:yawn: Just give the reply brother! :laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:

format_quote Originally Posted by Gossamer skye

I'd imagine if women didn't 'talk' to men we'd have been extinct sometime back in the 7th c.?

Hmmmmmm.... so you mean to say that its alright then to be here? :yawn:

It depends on the definition of the individual I think? Islam wasn't a segregated society, women spoke up, they have even challenged their leaders.. in my opinion if you are afraid of fitnah then you should indeed avoid it.. but that becomes even more strange on a forum when anyone can be anything from an android to a fauna to a computer generated response to this guy:

format_quote Originally Posted by Gossamer skye

in my opinion if you are afraid of fitnah then you should indeed avoid it.. but that becomes even more strange on a forum when anyone can be anything from an android to a fauna to a computer generated response to this guy:

Yeah that seems right!...

format_quote Originally Posted by An33za

I don't know.......:yawn: Just give the reply brother! :laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:

Yeah sister, this is also wat my Dad believes. He is an Aalim. He says boys n girls should not talk in anyway. I'm sure u've seen I hardly post now a days, n if I do, I just post but don't reply to the brothers post if no need arises. I'm also beginning to agree with this, especially at times when it gets a bit personal. Also nothing too personal should be known about woman, 4 hijaab reasons, sumtimes young girls put the age, status etc on profiles.. along with personal messages in between posts.

I think we should do something about this, maybe when a brother posts something we sisters should just view it but don't reply, unless its serious and gonna damage someone or cause and explosion LOL . And the brothers should do the same, don't reply on any of our posts. Wat do u think about this???????

My Dad believes there's also no need to post on forums, should get the info through a different way....... hmmmm, one that I must challenge him with still.

i would only pm a brother if it was a case of necessity so i think we should respect the brother and try and avoid talking about him on his back sis because it is a form of backbiting and we should not judge others inshaAllah

i think if brothers and sisters want to chat with the opposite sex in private then its wrong and it always leads to something else. it is a fitnah and a sin so keep away from it.

sorry forget to add... posting on a forum you are not really mingling with opposite sex because you are not speaking directly to them and if you are 100 percent of the time it is only for help or other matters

Salamu Alaikum,

An interesting point raised. Personally, I think any interaction between opposite genders on this forum should be curt and to the point to avoid any fitnah and if these precautions are taken then I don't see a problem. And also that's why we have such good mods! If a topic gets off topic then they can remind us nicely to get back on (topic)!

If you feel it is safer for you to avoid interaction on this forum alltogether with the opposite gender, then there is no problem in that either! As long as our intention is to share our ideas and knowledge everthing should be A-OK.

waAllahu 'Alam.

Fee Amaanillah.

Allah has said that we should keep away from all those things that lead to evil and as much as we hate to hear the truth that includes sister and brother getting friendly in private.

Additionally, according to the scholars of 'Islam Q&A' this is what constitutes backbiting:

"When I say, “which he would dislike if he heard about it”, this excludes things which he would not mind."

"In Saheeh Muslim it is narrated from al-‘Alaa’ ibn ‘Abd al-Rahmaan from his father from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Do you know what gheebah is?” They said, “Allaah and His Messenger know best.” He said, “That you say something about your brother that he dislikes.” He was asked, “What if what I say about my brother is true?” He said, “If what you say is true then you have gossiped about him, and if it is not true then you have slandered him.”

Have we said anything that the brother would not have liked? I don't think so. On the contrary, looks like most people agree with him!

waAllahu 'Alam.

A brother and sister getting frivolous in private is against the teachings of Islam, agreed.

format_quote Originally Posted by piXie

May Allaah reward you with a lot of good and blessings sister. But I think u have misunderstood. No one is judging anyone here or backbiting at all. We all respect the brother for his signature. It is good and he should keep it.

The sister was just concerned about the ruling and wanted to understand, so she could perfect herself in following Allaahs command and the example of the Prophet . This is a good thing masha' Allaah, and I respect her for it. Her thread has also served as a good reminder.

jazakAllah kharian sis for your kind words

okay no problem your right it has served as a good reminder.

MY Apologies dear op sis meow meow

format_quote Originally Posted by An33za

People look, what brother “imam bukhari” is saying here in his SIGNATURES! :laugh:

I’ve written the text below so that if he changes his signature later on, you people may know what I’m talking about.


"Free mixing is haram. I would appreciate it if no ghair mahrams speak to me on this forum, Jazaakillaah".



So are we doing the same here, on Islamic Board?
Are we committing a sin?
On this forum, we obviously don’t “talk” but we reply to other people’s posts. So is this also not allowed? How can we know whether it’s right or wrong?

Brother “imam bukhari” has said nothing! Its just me, , thinking about it, which makes me almost want to puke!


So should we quit going to the combined forums?
Well, we, Muslimahs, can post our threads in Sisters’ Section only! But…:'(… Annnhainhain!... I don’t have even have that option! I’ve just made a century and require two more for entrance but that would take me a century in itself! :unhappy:

(…ummm…or maybe I can play the *** Urdu Game *** and make a quick jump to 300 posts if only brother zAk won’t strangle me or block me out… ! )

But that’s not what I care about right now. I only want to know whether we are DISOBEYING our beloved Prophet ???




Please help me brothers and sisters! This is serious!!! :yawn:

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, having concern for ones imaan is a sign of faith and is a good thing. We should all fear sinning incase it angers Allah for that is taqwa.

In regards to intermingling then know that there must not be any free talk between brothers and sister in real life or on the internet including on any threads on a forum. These forums are public and therefore all can see what is being posted therefore it would not come under being alone with a non mahram but when brothers and sisters are posting then they should only stick to the point of discussion and keep things to the subject matter and not joke around with each other or get free with each other.

Brothers and sisters should especially be very cautious about sending private messeges to each other as private messages should ONLY be sent if it is really necessery or to ask a genuine Islamic question and it should not go any further than the subject in hand.

Brothers and sisters should also not private message one another other joking around with each other and should certainly NOT private message having free conversations "getting to know one another" as shaythan would be third party to such conversations.

As long as brothers and sisters are very careful and stick to the subject matter of the threads they are partaking in and do not get free with anyone of the opposite sex or private message them unnecessarily then inshallah everything will be fine.

But caution should always be taken as Shaythan is always to play his evil hands in every aspect of our lives and will always try and trick us into committing sin in anyway that he can even without us noticing at times so always be cautious and stick to the subject matter and never make a free conversation with anyone of the opposite sex.

and Allah knows best in all matters