Polygamy?

so women a some type of pawn in some silly fantasy you've got going. it seems like you need a crash course in dealing with and understanding women. if you dont know that, don't even consider marrying 1, let alone 3.

More wives = more mothers in law

Reflect on that when you think about marrying another wife.

format_quote Originally Posted by Ummu Sufyaan

so women a some type of pawn in some silly fantasy you've got going. it seems like you need a crash course in dealing with and understanding women. if you dont know that, don't even consider marrying 1, let alone 3.

i wonder if sheep herders in Prophet pbuh time took these CRASH courses that you speak of offered by the likes of Al Maghrib and al kautar

I doubt it considering al-maghrib and al-kawthar institute weren't in existence back then not that they would have needed them anyway, radhiallahu anhum.

format_quote Originally Posted by Mohamed_Sadiq

Girls what would you do if your husband got married?

I'll either ask for a divorce and live my life or I might consider it if I benefit somehow (like if I can get rid of him this way lol)

I'll tell you after I'm married. But if he were to marry in secret then that's a certain divorce.

Me personally I favour polygamy and its one thing I really like about our religion
Insha allah I want to have 3 wives in the future.

What if your first wife doesn't like that? But one important advice, please tell your wives before you marry them that you plan on this insha'llah.

if he was rich i would whats the point in marrying some one who already has a wife if he don't have the money to support both of them. its just madness because people don't think that when they get both women pregnant how are they going to justice with them all

format_quote Originally Posted by LauraS

I don't really see the need in it, why do men need more than one wife? How come a woman isn't allowed more than one husband? I read a discussion between a Muslim and Islamic scholar on the internet, a man had married a Muslim convert and wanted to know if he needed to tell her that he was already married to someone else. The Islamic scholar replied that it wasn't necessary! O_o Surely you can't keep a second wife secret for long. He said it wasn't necessary unless and I can't remember what the unless was...I would say it was blooming necessary understand all circumstances. I wonder if thet're still married?

So what are the reasons for polygamy in the modern world?

:bravo:
Men don't need more then one wife. one wife is enough for pity sake

actually the reason for a woman not being able to have more then one husband laura is because if she was to become pregnant for every husband, she would not know who the father is to the child. and theres many other reasons too which i will find shortly

^There are some men that want more than one woman in their lifetime. The only difference is that you do it honorably inside marriage.

Why is it so acceptable to be with more than one woman at the same time, but being married to them is disliked, when marriage grants them rights and commitment etc.?

I'm not sure if I put my point clearly but hopefully you get it insha'llah.

format_quote Originally Posted by Ummu Sufyaan

so women a some type of pawn in some silly fantasy you've got going. it seems like you need a crash course in dealing with and understanding women. if you dont know that, don't even consider marrying 1, let alone 3.

Lol, no. i don't think so. I respect women.
I want to follow the Sunnah. Also it runs in the family my father, grandfathers its culture 2.

However, I agree with you Laura. I also don't see the need unless the wife can't have children or other such reasons.

format_quote Originally Posted by UmmSqueakster

More wives = more mothers in law

Reflect on that when you think about marrying another wife.

Looool good point. I will need loads of asprin then.

If polygamy were not beneficial for the islamic society, then Allah wouldn't make it permissible.

Personally I'm not married yet, but I think I'll marry just one wife not because I'm against polygamy, but because I don't think I'm able to take care of 4 families. But I'm with polygamy and I encourage my friends to do it if they're able to handle it.

Polygamy will reduce the number of unmarried ladies in the society, so it solves many related problems (prostitution, rape, poverty, ...) especially in societies where the number of females is superior than the number of males.
Polygamy makes the society more compact and unified by multiplying the number of links between families (the example of the muslim society in the time of the prophet Peace and Blessing Upon Him)

more links between families = strongest society

format_quote Originally Posted by LauraS

I don't really see the need in it, why do men need more than one wife? How come a woman isn't allowed more than one husband? I read a discussion between a Muslim and Islamic scholar on the internet, a man had married a Muslim convert and wanted to know if he needed to tell her that he was already married to someone else. The Islamic scholar replied that it wasn't necessary! O_o Surely you can't keep a second wife secret for long. He said it wasn't necessary unless and I can't remember what the unless was...I would say it was blooming necessary understand all circumstances. I wonder if thet're still married?

So what are the reasons for polygamy in the modern world?

Your entitled to your opinion, but just cause we are in the modern world doesn't mean we have to lose our culture and religion. Also polygamy is not compulsary you don't have to get married to more than 1 wife. But some people do it for many reasons such as having loads of children, following the sunnah, increasing the muslim ummah there are many other reasons for people to do it.

format_quote Originally Posted by LauraS

I don't really see the need in it, why do men need more than one wife? How come a woman isn't allowed more than one husband? I read a discussion between a Muslim and Islamic scholar on the internet, a man had married a Muslim convert and wanted to know if he needed to tell her that he was already married to someone else. The Islamic scholar replied that it wasn't necessary! O_o Surely you can't keep a second wife secret for long. He said it wasn't necessary unless and I can't remember what the unless was...I would say it was blooming necessary understand all circumstances. I wonder if thet're still married?

So what are the reasons for polygamy in the modern world?

ok so its ok for a man to have sex with multiple women in his life but one at a time in the form of cute and innocent relationships. Its FINE, EH. awww, you have a girlfriend. But polygamy, No, no no noé.

Filthy Kaafirs.

format_quote Originally Posted by cat eyes

:bravo:
Men don't need more then one wife. one wife is enough for pity sake

actually the reason for a woman not being able to have more then one husband laura is because if she was to become pregnant for every husband, she would not know who the father is to the child. and theres many other reasons too which i will find shortly

lol, good point....

Muslimah- I would say it was more the other way around, if a man was sleeping around with different women at the same time people would call him a plyer, but if he marries them he's just a family man. I don't really like the argument that some men want to be with more than one woman in their lifetime because it's just....like they can't control themselves and just want more instead of dedicating themselves to being with one woman. I think marriage is much more special if the man isn't sharing himself around. Aside from the impracticalities of a woman having more than one husband, if she desired more than one man, wouldn't she be thought of as a woman of "ill repute" we'll just say. Like I said I just think there is no need for a man to have more than one wife.

BTW the image of seven mother inlaws all haranguing a man at the same time makes me laugh, and it would serve you right Mohamed_Sadiq! Seven is just greedy lol!

mad_scientist- *rolls eyes* and yes, until someone finds who they're compatible for life with what's wrong with them having several girlfriends during their lifetime rather than at the same time. I could reply in kind to your comment but I have more respect.

format_quote Originally Posted by Mohamed_Sadiq

Hello everybody!

Girls what would you do if your husband got married?

Aslaamu Alaaykum and Hi

I am not sure what i would do, but if theres a Brother who is willing to get married to more than one wife, he should inform his wife and see if shes Fine with it!

As its the Sunnah, its not a Must but rewarding!
There are specific reasons to having 4 wives not just Just for desire or whateever. Should be able to provide etc.

I am sure it would make every wife jelous if her husband had many wives, he should be able to give each wife the same amount of Love!. Treat her equal and not different So yeah! If your Husband married a women for her safety, that is awesome, it shows he has respect for women, But yea thats my onion . . .

So yeah!

Wa Alaaykum Salaam

Salaam

format_quote Originally Posted by Mohamed_Sadiq

Girls what would you do if your husband got married?

I won't start dancing with joy but Inshaallah will try to accept it . If find it extremely difficult , then will stay separately or will talk to a Mufti to take a decision that is correct according to Sharia.

And Allah Knows Best.



To the non-muslims what do you think of polygamy?

Me personally I favour polygamy and its one thing I really like about our religion
Insha allah I want to have 3 wives in the future.

so many unmaaried sisters are there now a days. InshaAllah u will be a good husband to four of them . Remember , marriage is not only for fun but it's a great responsibility.

^True. . .
It is indeed a Great Responsibility MashaAllaah Keep that in Mind, maybe coz your not married you think like that but when you do, situation and time changes!
Indeedy

So Yeah