I know there is good tips to deal with anger from hadeeth of the prophet Salla Allahu Alayhi wa sallam : like sitting down if your are standing up, or making wudu, etc.
I also want to have other ideas.
Some wise man asked me one question that day : "How old are you when you're angry ?", and you know what, he had a point ! coz sometimes when I'm angry I behave like a 9 year old kid. Anger is really so stupid. That's why the Prophet Salla Allahu Alayhi wa Sallam ordered a sahabi to avoid being angry.
So how you deal with anger ? (no lies )
"O you who believe! Fear ALLAH as He should be feared" [aal 'Imraan, 102]
My husband is one of those people who goes very quiet and needs to be left alone ... and I am the one saying "What's wrong? Something is wrong!Why won't you tell me what's wrong?? ... "
I have learned (sometimes the hard way) to leave him be when he is like that - but I don't like it, not one little bit!
Problems can really happen when you push certain people at that time.. it is best for everyone to let someone have their space and not take it personally.. my mother and sis are keen on the 'if you talk about it, you'll feel better' -- well that is not at all true for everyone.. in fact I'll venture to say it is very dangerous for all those involved.. not only is one hurt and angry by personal circumstance but it can be quite taxing to be made to feel that one has to carry the burden of not hurting those around them as well with negative words and negative words do happen when one is angry.. so why victimize yourself and make it about you with incessant pushing when they are trying to heal in their own way...
really something to ponder and I have longed to say those words to many around me but I don't...
Text without context is pretext If your opponent is of choleric temperament, seek to irritate him
This is going to sound weird but, when I'm angry, I speak French. :/ It feels nice because no one knows what I'm saying, lol. And I start laughing after that because of the faces they make when I talk. They all say " What the heck is she saying? lol"
With a family member, I'm usually angry with my little brother. So when I get angry, I say stuff like " oh mon dieu(oh my god)... " or say " ferme-la (shut it!)! just stop! ". Then I mumble stuff like " espece de... urgh.<_< "
With my parents, I learned to keep shut. I don't talk back alhamdulillah.
With a friend, I'm hardly in this situation, but I talk back. Not screaming or anything but I just talk back in a normal tone. Then I keep distance for the rest of the day.
With a stranger, I keep shut and leave.
So glorify the praises of your Lord and be of those who prostrate themselves (to Him).
Surah al-Ĥijr(The Rocky Tract) 15:98
I know a person who doesn't talk when their upset also they just ignore you for 2 days lol and its hell because you wanna make it better for them but you can't so you just have to stand back and let them handle it on their own. Get it out their systems by themselves.
I guess its hard to understand cos I'm the opposite, I need to talk and get it off my chest so I would keep asking them "what's wrong"
“Who said that guidance requires there to be someone accompanying you"
it depends what's made me angry really. If its not someone close to me, for example, someone at work makes me angry, i'll get it be known but not always by shouting, sometimes I just walk away and sit away from everyone for a while until i've calmed down. Other times if its something repeatingly upsetting that i hold in, it usually comes out as tears. I don't like shouting at people and im that frustrated, its my gut reaction.
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The hypocrite looks for faults; the believer looks for excuses.
People say that I get angry quickly, so I am trying to work on this side of me. My problem is that when I get angry I say big words (not insults at all) but I always say the truth of people that they themselves don't want to remember. That's why many people avoid arguing with me because I am a very direct person.
It depends on the person I am getting angry at. If I was arguing with my parent or elder siblings (which is very rarely alhumdulilah) I try my best to hold it all in my heart till I leave the room and blow it away, I can't shout at my parent or being rude with them so I try to keep it inside as much as I can. while if it is with someone else, I try to say everything I have to say and then leave the room or make them leave to have my own privacy. I don't break anything, I might slam the doors sometimes :x
The best place to calming my soul is my room where I play Quran on my iPod (reciter: Al-Ghamedi), set the AC to the lowest tempreture, sitting on my iPod "as I always keep the hadeeth of the prophet on my mind".....to me it's like pouring a cold water over a flaming fire.
I have an odd question, sparked by an earlier post in this thread.......
In Islam, is anger considered a sin, or (if not a sin) a bad thing?
Some Christians would say anger is a sin, but really anger is not the sin. The sin comes from the manner in how one chooses to react to the anger. Anger on its own is simply an emotion that arises as a natural result of things. How we choose to deal with the anger can lead to sin.
(If this should be a topic on its own, then a moderator can feel free to split this into its own thread.)
it depends what kind of anger it is and why. sometimes yes cleaning and scrubbing works, other times my mouth wont shut (i dont curse or scream and never get physical, just tell the person what i think) and other times im just quiet with a moody face.
Our Lord! Verily, we have heard the call of one calling to Faith: 'Believe in your Lord,' and we have believed.
Our Lord! Forgive us our sins and expiate from us our evil deeds, and make us die (in the state of righteousness) along with Al-Abrar
I don't get angry often and my anger level is usually very low. However, at times when i do get verrrrry angry for-example at my brothers I usually resort to physical violence.
Greetings and peace be with you marwen; some quotes about anger...
“Anyone who angers you conquers you
No man can think clearly when his fists are
clenched.
-- George Jean Nathan.
Two things a man should never be angry at:
what he can help, and what he cannot help.
-- Thomas Fuller.
When a man is wrong and won't admit is, he
always gets angry.
-- Thomas Haliburton.
There was never an angry man that thought
his anger unjust.
-- St. Francis De Sales.
Anger is what makes a clear mind seem
clouded.
-- Kazi Shams.
It is wise to direct your anger towards problems -- not people; to focus your energies on answers -- not excuses.”
“Anger is only one letter short of danger”
Whatever is begun in anger ends in shame.
Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.”
For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.”
The angry people are those people who are most afraid”
If you are patient in one moment of anger, you
will escape a hundred days of sorrow.
-- Chinese Proverb.
Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more
hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it.
-- Seneca.
The greatest remedy for anger is delay.
-- Seneca.
For every minute you remain angry, you give
up sixty seconds of peace of mind.
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson.
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal
with the intent of throwing it at someone else;
you are the one who gets burned.
-- Buddha.
People who fly into a rage always make a bad
landing.
-- Will Rogers.
Speak when you are angry and you will make
the best speech you will ever regret.
-- Ambrose Bierce.
Consider how much more you often suffer
from your anger and grief, than from those
very things for which you are angry and
grieved.
-- Marcus Antonius.
How much more grievous are the
consequences of anger than the causes of it.
-- Marcus Aurelius.
• Mahatma Gandhi
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
• Martin Luther King
“Forgiveness is not an occasional act. It is a permanent attitude."
In the spirit of striving to forgive
Eric
You will never look into the eyes of anyone who does not matter to God.
I say: "A'oothu billahi minash-Shaytanir-rajeem"
"I seek refuge in Allah from Satan the outcast"
Walaykum Salam wrwb
MashaAllah. I wish I was like you.
Uncle Woodrow's post was spot on. There's good and bad anger. My good anger comes when I read about child abusers. I have to fight the urge to stop myself from going on a paedo hunt and killing one, if not all. And those who commit blasphemy. I once kicked someone out of my house for pointing at the sky and saying, 'It's his fault' to Allah. Na udhu billah. And seeing injustice being done to others. My bad anger is when people are just inconsiderate - like bad neighbours etc. I don't like this part of myself and I hope to fix it. I used to be so calm. I miss that old me
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MashaAllah. I wish I was like you.
Uncle Woodrow's post was spot on. There's good and bad anger. My good anger comes when I read about child abusers. I have to fight the urge to stop myself from going on a paedo hunt and killing one, if not all. And those who commit blasphemy. I once kicked someone out of my house for pointing at the sky and saying, 'It's his fault' to Allah. Na udhu billah. And seeing injustice being done to others. My bad anger is when people are just inconsiderate - like bad neighbours etc. I don't like this part of myself and I hope to fix it. I used to be so calm. I miss that old me
yes i know how u feel. dealing with trolls is difficult. u just want to kick there a ss
039.053 Say: "O my Servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah: for Allah forgives all sins: for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
I will make thread on mercy and forgiveness of Allah ive loads verses here.
salaam alaikum
as far my knowledge goes, the above verse was revealed in response to ayyash who was abu jahl's relative, he accompanied umar in hijrah but abu jahl went to medina and made up a story, so he came back to mecca, and he was put under trial and he gave up islam
so umar wrote these ayaats and sent to ayyash thinking it might convince him to become a muslim again with allahs help
Oh lord make my best deeds the last deeds
Oh lord make my best day the last day (aakhirah)
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