How to achieve Humbleness?

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A beneficial reminder for us all.

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We ask Allah to help us all become humble and stay firm on that path.

This is something that we need to remind ourselves every single day. It isn't something you read one time and then forget about it.

To be humble and remain firm on that path is the key to salvation....

REMEMBER: Only the humble can enter Paradise.

With that in mind, I recommend reading this article as often as possible.

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Jazakallaahu Khaair A beneficial reminder for us all. And Alhamdulilaah!

Wa Iyaki habibati .May Allah love you Ameeeen

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This is something that we need to remind ourselves every single day. It isn't something you read one time and then forget about it. To be humble and remain firm on that path is the key to salvation.... REMEMBER: Only the humble can enter Paradise. With that in mind, I recommend reading this article as often as possible.

yes indeed my sweetheart...May Allah keep us firm on His right and straight path always and forever Ameeeeeeen

It is reported on the authority of Ibrâhîm b. Al-Ash’ath that he said, “I asked Al-Fudayl b. ‘Ayyâd – Allâh have mercy on him – about patience (al-sabr) in the face of adversity and he said, ‘It is to not broadcast it.’

I asked him about asceticism (al-zuhd) and he said, ‘Al-zuhd is to be content with what you have, and that is what it means to be rich.’

I asked him about prudence (al-wara’) and he said, ‘It is to stay away from what is forbidden.’

And I asked him about humbleness (al-tawâdu’) and he said, ‘It is when you submit to the truth and comply no matter who you hear it from; even if it was from the most ignorant of people, you would be required to accept it from him.’”

Ibn ‘Abd Al-Barr, Jâmi’ Bayân Al-‘Ilm wa Fadlihi Vol. 1 p498.

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Points I noted from the above saying:

HUMILITY - The Truth is the truth, no matter who utters it.

PATIENCE - when you are going through hardship, but you do not complain or talk about it.

ASCETICISM - when you are content with whatever you have.

PRUDENCE - when you stay away from that which is doubtful and forbidden.

May Allah love you for riching this thread with your precious valuable posts my sweetheart always and for ever Ameeeeeen

May Allah make us from Assaabireen, Azzaahideen, Al Wari`een, Al Mutawaadi`een and Al Muh`sineen all of us Ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen

love you for the sake of Allah my dear and precious sister ...^^

Humbleness......it's a sign of complete intelligence. Here's a beneficial article I found worth reading again and again:

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The Ten Signs of Man of Complete Intelligence:

1) He does not have takabbur.

2) He walks on the path of guidance firm and steadfast.

3) He is content with whatever Allah SWT has provided him.

4) He is not miser in spending in the way of Allah SWT of whatever excess he has been provided be of money or food or clothes or any property.

5) In place of worldly ranks or status or fame, he likes and prefers humbleness.

6) He prefers being faqeer and miskeen, that is humble one rather than being a honored and respectful one. Prophet SAW used to pray, ‘Ya Allah let me die among the miskeen.’ Miskeen means prefering a humble life without being greedy for name and fame.

7) Be a student of knowledge through out his life and doesn’t feel bad or lower in obtaining knowledge. If he doesn’t know anything, he asks and thinks that as prosperity.

8) When someone seeks good counsel or knowledge from him, he doesn’t feel tight.

9) He considers others good deeds, even a smaller one as something very big and considers his own deeds even be in large number as very very negligible.

10) People are considered to be of two kinds in this world: 1) Good and superior ones and 2) Evil and wretched ones. Whenever he sees the superior one, his heart breaks and he gets strong yearning and desire that he was like him and becomes righteous like him and whenever he sees a wretched one, he thinks that may be the one whom he considers bad may have some goodness in him that will overcome all his evil and he will surpass him and get salvation while he might get sink in the darkness. In this way, he never looks down at any one.

When all these qualities are obtained in a man, his aql becomes kamil through which he obtains high status in both the worlds and becomes a leader of his time. He becomes a man of Allah SWT looking forward for his mercy and Jannah.

Let Allah SWT grant us all these qualities. Ameen ameen thumma ameen.

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Humility is not something that comes naturally to most, especially in today’s busy competitive society. Everyday, people see others taking advantage of a situation trying to get ahead or make themselves look good and it really doesn’t do anything for them. A humble person is someone who does not boast or try to impress themselves on you. They are generally quiet, meek and typically not self serving. This is a good set of attributes to be seen but is a very difficult trait to be known for since being humble involves so many behaviors in our lives and is really the opposite of the way most people are living their lives.


Question your own Humility


Do you take an opportunity to claim credit for things that you are involved in?
Do you like to be right and to prove what you know?
Maybe you think your job role is more important than the next person or that you are smarter than them?
Are you capable of handling things on your own without help from others?
Are you proud of your accomplishments or do you ever brag about things you do or can do?
If you answered YES to ANY of these questions maybe you are not as humble as you think.


Being Humble - Action Steps to be More Humble

Thank Others

Make sure you take every opportunity you have to thank others for what they do and what they help you with. People don’t accomplish anything on their own and it always takes help from others. Thank them for this help. Whether its your boss, spouse, friends, or stranger, thank others for whatever you can. Being humble in other’s eyes means you don’t claim your own accomplishments, and instead, thank others for how they helped, what they did, how they encouraged or supported you, etc. There are always things to thank others for. Find someone each day and thank them for something.

Redirect Praise

Redirecting praise is useful to be more humble and modest. If you don’t accept praise outright and instead, redirect it to others who helped you, trained you or even allowed you to do something, you pass on that praise to others without taking the credit directly. Accepting praise doesn’t really make a person less humble, but down playing your significance or importance on something certainly makes you more humble. Knowing and sharing the fact that you were not the reason for some accomplishment goes a long ways in the eyes of others. This is especially important in work groups and it drastically reduces the risk of anyone thinking you take all the credit. If you deflect or redirect all praise and credit given you to others involved and truly believe the fact that you weren’t that significant, you further develop a humble attitude.

You Don’t Have to Be Right

A humble person never tries to out do someone else and make themselves look better or smarter. This includes having to be right. When you try to prove you are right, or even when you say something simple like "I know", you are showing dominance over the other person. Instead of wanting to be right, even if you know something already, simple say, "Interesting, thanks for that." A humble person knows only one thing, that they are NOT always right! If you have an idea to present or a solution to offer, don’t try to convince others that its the right solution. Say something like, "I have an suggestion, although I’m not sure its the right thing to do, since I’m often wrong, which is to [blah blah]…" Make an effort to being humble using these types of suggestions so you don’t come across to others as always having to be right.

It Wasn’t You Who Got You Here

People are constantly striving for success and they often feel very proud of themselves for getting to where they are at. Humble people are not proud and know that they didn’t get themselves here. They know that others helped them, encouraged them and assisted them to get to where they are now. If you recognize this and always see how others help you out, you can be more humble by sharing that fact and not taking credit yourself. This is similar to the first one on the list, where its important to thank others.

Don’t Be First

First is not necessarily a bad thing, however being first can come across as competitive, self promoting or demoting of others. None of those things are common for a humble person. In a group or workplace, if you don’t be first to speak, participate or get involved, you give others a chance to be first. This can be very humbling for several reasons. You may see that others have better or smarter ideas than you had in the first place, you’re not the only one capable of the task or message and that you aren’t necessarily needed as much as you would like to think you are. These are very humbling realizations so if want to learn to be more humble, next time you have a chance to be first, don’t!

Appreciate Everything

So many things around us are not our doing, we often forget to see our own insignificance since we get so focused on our own lives and accomplishments. Well to be humble, its importance to recognize and appreciate all the wonderful things around us. Appreciate the place you live, the health, wealth and happiness you experience or have opportunity for. Appreciating things adds greatly to a person’s humility and knowing that we have so much to be thankful for builds on many of the other items in this list. Look around in nature and at the beauty of life sometime and just take it in for a few moments. Think of the world and the awesome creation that God has provided you, and its impossible NOT to be humbled. Show this appreciation in your life and spirit and it will certainly help you be more humble.

Listen More Than You Speak

Similar to the item above, "Don’t Be First" it applies to listening in a more broad sense. Listening more than you speak can be very powerful and if you use this you can learn many things about others and practice humility in how you respond. It gives you time to think and provides time for others to share their own opinions. Listening more can be very respectful to others, and you can learn a lot more by listening to others than you can by speaking.

Don’t Judge Others

Last but not least, a very important aspect of being humble is to not judge others. Judgment is a dangerous thing and you can’t stay open minded, receptive to ideas, empathetic or appreciative of others if you are judging them or their ideas. Everyone is different and have different ideas and when you judge those, you are really showing that you have some overseeing significance or power to make a judgment call, which you certainly don’t if you want to be a humble person. So, to be more humble, practice leaving others to show themselves over time and to let their ideas play out without judgment. Definitely, make an effort not to express judgment and don’t talk about people behind their backs. This is just another form of judgment and shows dominance, so don’t judge others, and you will be more humble.

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Muslims Should Hate That People Stand Up For Them

Mu'awiyah bin Abi Sufyan once entered a house where Abdullah ibn Az-Zubayr and Abdullah ibn 'Amer were sitting.
Abdullah ibn 'Amer stood up while Ibn Az-Zubayr did not. Mu'awiyah said:


"O ibn 'Amer! Sit down, for I heard the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him) say:
'Let those who like for people to stand up for them take their seats in the Fire.'"

[At-Tirmidthi]

This Hadith prohibits the Muslim to like that people stand up for him when he meets with or passes by them.
Furthermore, this Hadith teaches Muslims to enjoin righteousness and forbid evil, for Mu'awiyah criticized Abdullah ibn 'Amer for standing up for him.

I use to stand up for every single person i meet to shake hand with them.I feel really bad when someone elder or younger come to meet me and i stay sit but for no doubt,no one is more humble than the Messenger of Allah SWT.When He SAW command us not to stand up,we should not stand up to welcome someone
From today,i decided to practice this one,Inshallah
Jazakallahu Khyran for the reminder,my dearest Sister

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How beautiful. JazakAllah khair.

Wa Iyaki my sweetie May Allah love you honey forever and all the Ummah Ameeeeeeeen

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May Allah grant us true humbleness..Allahoma ameen..BarakAllahufeeki for sharing ukhti

Ameeeen to the Duaa and May Allah love you my sweetie always and all the Ummah Ameeeeeeeeen

format_quote Originally Posted by Flame

Humility is not something that comes naturally to most, especially in today’s busy competitive society. Everyday, people see others taking advantage of a situation trying to get ahead or make themselves look good and it really doesn’t do anything for them. A humble person is someone who does not boast or try to impress themselves on you. They are generally quiet, meek and typically not self serving. This is a good set of attributes to be seen but is a very difficult trait to be known for since being humble involves so many behaviors in our lives and is really the opposite of the way most people are living their lives.

Jazakum Allahu khayran honey , May Allah reward ya for every single letter you have posted and be pleased with ya always and forever and all the Ummah Ameeeeeen

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Jazakallahu Khyran for the reminder,my dearest Sister

Wa Iyaki my sweetheart May Allah never prevent ya from the light of His Al Mighty Face and all the Ummah Ameeeeeeeeen

ukhti,

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Jazakum Allahu khayran honey , May Allah reward ya for every single letter you have posted and be pleased with ya always and forever and all the Ummah Ameeeeeen

Wa iyyakum, sister!

But the words I posted are not mine. Heh heh. I merely selected parts of an article I liked.

I'm doing the same thing with the next article I'm going to post.........

Being humble and having humility is opposite of being arrogant and having arrogance (kibr). Humility leads one to the pleasure of Allah and it causes one to enter into the paradise, whereas arrogance leads to the displeasure of Allah and it leads one to the Hellfire.


Humility of the Prophet (saws) :




Some examples of the Prophet's humility:



One of the clearest examples of his humility, is that the Messenger of Allah (صلي الله عليه و سلم ) would sit in the Masjid with his companions and if a stranger or visitor came to the Masjid he wouldn't know who the Prophet was until he asked, "Which one of you is Muhammad"?



This is because he would not sit, dress, or be treated in a way that distinguished him from the people. Unlike the way leaders and famous people are treated when they're with the people. Whenever a stranger enters into their majlis, it becomes quite clear to the stranger this person is noteworthy amongst the people.



Anas Ibn Maalik would pass by a group of young boys playing and he would extend to them a warm and gracious greeting (salaams). When he was asked, "Why do you do this"? He replied, 'The Prophet ( صلي الله عليه و سلم ) use to do it'. Bukhari/Muslim



Abdullah ibn Amr ( رضي الله تعا لي عنه )said: 'The Prophet (صلي الله عليه و سلم ) entered upon me so I gave him a pillow (to sit on) made out of skin and filled with date palm fibers. The Prophet ( صلي الله عليه و سلم ) (refused to sit on it) and he choose to sit on the (bare) ground, and he left the cushion between him and myself'. Bukhari/Muslim



Abu Saeed Al-Khudri ( رضي الله تعا لي عنه ) said; 'I entered upon the Messenger of Allah (صلي الله عليه و سلم ) and I found him praying on a (normal) mat, and he was making Sajdah on it'. Muslim



Aisha ( رضي الله تعا لي عنه ) was asked, 'What did the Prophet (صلي الله عليه و سلم) use to do when he was in the privacy of his home'? She replied, 'He use to be in the service of his family'. He used to repair his sandals and sew/patch his own thobe and he would milk the sheep. Bukhari



Anas ibn Maalik ( رضي الله تعا لي عنه ) said the Prophet (صلي الله عليه و سلم ) performed the Hajj upon an old camel that had a saddle that cost about four dirhams or less, and then he said, "Oh Allah, this is a Hajj (that I'm performing) wherein there is no showing off nor notoriety sought". Tirmizi/Ibn Majah



Anas ibn Maalik ( رضي الله تعا لي عنه ): 'I never saw a man seeking the ear of the Prophet (صلي الله عليه و سلم ) except that the Messenger of Allah would never turn his head from him, until the man turned his head first. Nor did I ever see a man take the hand of the Prophet, except that the Messenger of Allah would never let his hand go, until the man was the first to let the Prophet's hand go'. Bukhari



Abu Masood ( رضي الله تعا لي عنه ) said: 'A man came to the Prophet (صلي الله عليه و سلم ) and he began to speak to him, and he was seized by fear (of the Prophet). Upon witnessing his demeanor the Prophet (صلي الله عليه و سلم ) said to him: "Take it easy and calm down, for verily I am not a king, but instead I am only the son of a Quraishy women who use to eat dried salted meat strips". Ibn Majah



From the clearest and most manifest examples of his humility is when he entered Mecca as a conqueror. It is a well known historical fact the Prophet (صلي الله عليه و سلم ) escaped from Mecca fearful for his life, as the disbeliever's of Quraish were hot on his trail in pursuit of him to do away with him once and for all.

Ten years later when he returned to Mecca as a conqueror and triumphant, he had every right to enter the sacred precincts of Mecca with his head held high as he had been given victory over his enemies, and they were totally defeated and subdued. Had he entered into Mecca in this way, he would not have been blamed! But instead, he entered into Mecca with his head held down, barely touching the neck of his camel and glorifying Allah by saying Allah Akbar, for the victory that he was given.



Prophetic Hadith about humility:

Abu Hurayrah ( رضي الله تعا لي عنه ) narrated that the Prophet (صلي الله عليه و سلم ) said: "…and no one will exercise humility for Allah's sake, except that Allah will raise him up". Muslim



He also said, "Verily Allah loves the servant who has Taqwah, and he's rich (content), and he's hidden (i.e. not known by the people because of his humility)". Muslim



Abdullah Ibn Abbas ( رضي الله تعا لي عنه ) said: I heard Umar Ibn Khattab ( رضي الله تعا لي عنه ) say on the minbar, the Prophet (صلي الله عليه و سلم ) said: "Don't over exaggerate with me as the Christians over exaggerated with Ibn Maryam (صلي الله عليه و سلم ). Verily I am His slave, therefore say, 'Abdullah' and the Messenger of Allah". Bukhari



A lesson from Umar Ibn Khattab ( رضي الله تعا لي عنه ):

'Urwah ibn Zubair ( رضي الله تعا لي عنه ) said: 'I saw Umar carrying a large leather water canteen on his shoulder. I said to him, 'Oh Amir-ul-Mu'mineen, you shouldn't be carrying that'. Umar replied by saying, 'A delegation came to Medina and I saw their obedience to me, and some 'nakwah' entered into my heart and I wanted to destroy it'.



Everyone knows the strong personality of Umar ( رضي الله تعا لي عنه ) and how he instilled fear in the hearts of men. And yet, when a small and minute amount of pride (nakwah) entered into his heart, he hurried in an attempt to destroy it before it destroyed him.



This is the way of the righteous people. Those who know the virtues and importance of humility, and at the same time they know the danger of falling into 'kibr'.



The Prophet (صلي الله عليه و سلم ) said: "Whoever possesses an atom's weight of 'kibr' will not enter into the paradise ". Muslim



He also said, "It is a right on Allah, that nothing is raised in the Dunyah (in stature or esteem), except that Allah will bring it down". Bukhari



If we're trying to seek the benefits of the Dunyah or the Hereafter, then part of our success lies within our ability to humble ourselves in our quest. For instance, if a person is searching for knowledge, he must humble himself in his struggle and efforts towards that goal.



Abdullah ibn Mu'tazz ( رضي الله تعا لي عنه ) said: 'The humble student is the one who gets the most knowledge, just as the lowest places on earth collect the most water'



As for the Hereafter, Allah says, "That is the home of the Hereafter, We assign (it) to those who do not desire exaltedness upon the earth or corruption. And the (best) outcome is for the righteous". Al-Qassas Ayat 83.



May Allah grant us the Tawfeeq to humble ourselves and may He protect us from the fitnah of 'kibr' and it's evil results.

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i dont get it..v should not stand up when we see anybody? I thought not standing up and greeting was bad...maners??

no my sweetheart, we should never stand up for others to glorify them for a position or some rank they may have but it is ok to stand up for your guests to welcome them and for old people out of respect my dear...^^

what the prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) hated is the act of those whom seeing themselves better than others loving others to stand up for them to feel greatness and see themselves the best ....may Allah never make us from them Ameeeen

I also compliment/praise people..iv noticed that they stick to good qualities when i do that..you know,reinforce gud behaviour? Like i said 'wow man, u did realy wel,i was surprisd..din no u wr ths gud!' nd next thing you know, ths friend started doing work more honestly and sincerely..

you can do this when you want to encourage others; its absolutely ok my sweetie but if you knew that that compliment would affect that person badly; like: filling his/her heart with pride or make him/her arrogant or may affect their sincerety; then its better not to say praising words but only make Duaa for that person like saying: May Allah bless you and give you success Ameeeen and you may say : Ma shaa Allah...

and here the prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) didn`t want us to praise others good deeds (especially the acts of worship) so, they do not become decieved of what they have done and offered and then later be neglected and pride may enter their hearts then changes them to something bad and arrongant...

in shaa Allah you got what I posted honey ^^