I'm in a relationship with a girl for more than 2 years. I started it as like all the people do, but now I'm realizing that it can hamper my deen. At the very beginning, we were together but we became separated because I shifted to another area within the next 3 or 4 months, then it became completely online. We don't have any physical touch and at the same time we don't have any bad intention like to date or having sex before marriage. Our ultimate goal is to marry each other but at the same time it is not possible to marry now. But now we are completely in online and just talking and connected in social media. We both realize that being in a relationship might be haram but it become too late because we both fall in extreme love that can't be broken anymore I guess. We just fall for each other. Then I researched this issue on internet as we are not like this generation. But it was too confusing because different sources are providing different answers. I know that the girl is good enough and she don't have any bad intention in her mind. I also know about her family and relatives. But here another problem arises beside the deen, which is as I said we can't marry right now and that's why we both tried to keep it secret from our parents. But recently my mother caught me talking with her and became very strict. It is also creating trust issue between me and my mother because I, personally was too trusted by my family but now my mother is having problem to trust me. Good to tell, my mother caught me for two times within the two year of my journey, once the last year and another recently, within a month. And that's why the trust issue is increasing day by day. I could give up because of all these problems but still we love each other too much. I don't know what to do, is Allah not satisfied with me or is he testing me, I don't know anything, but please, I seek help from the senior. The only thing is I don't want to lose her. Because I love her too much and at the same time it can be hard to find any other girl who will be loving me like this and at the same time having a pure heart like her. Allah knows my condition and also knows how much depressed I am for this topic, I have seek guidance and help toward Him. I believe that He will help me. But at the same time, I also seek help from you guys.
Note: Please don't suggest me different website, I've went through them already. Give me direct solution and also reference if possible.
The question is, how long are you going to stay far away and unable to marry her?
If you do intend to live together then marry right away, what are you waiting for?
If you cannot marry her in the near future for any reason then best advice is to break off. There is no point in wasting both of your time.
There is no need to get depressed and fight for what is not supposed to be yours.
So yes, think about it realistically and make a decision forthwith.
May the Qur'an intercede for us and be a means of our Jannah. Ameen.
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