People you do not like by first impression by the face

Maybe I should have used a different topic name because it is kind of misleading I guess. For me is not judging a book by its cover. Somebody might look poor, Rich ..weak.. strong..intelligent..dumb..knowledgeable ..ignorant..you name it..judge somebody by these impressions is NOT what I am talking about as this is prohibited in Islam.

For example you see somebody looking rich and thus assume he is arrogant. Or somebody looking poor and assume is too greedy to buy himself some descent clothes. This is prohibited in Islam and also what I am not talking about. My argument is purely based on the face. No other body movements or actions done by that individual.

Can a moderator add "by the face" to the topic name please.

format_quote Originally Posted by Serinity

What proof do you have that Aura exists?

Allahu alam.

Absolutely NONE based on objective evidence. The only "proof" that i have is people having similar experiences like me which is subjective, but still people who never have known each other having experienced something similar.

So the aura or whatever one could call it, is something else than what i have been trying to explain. The aura/bad vibe that i said about people who are cynical when i am around such people..is something different than what i am trying to explain. The people who are cynical, are in my experience good people but have just hit a wall in their life and in this phase in their life haven't found a way over this wall. They see all things gloomy and nothing will work ..etc. etc. Still they are good people to hang out with but lost their way. Also to my experience this gloomy vibe i haven't felt for example in just few second or so when i come to know them..but it comes as you know them longer. It is like, wave patterns. When people know each other for longer periods of time their waves sync. They start to like the same things, do the same things, think the same. The moment they don't hang out with each other for longer periods, this wave pattern de-syncs. So when you are a optimistic person and you encounter a pessimistic person, the wave patterns are you could say black and white. However negative wave patterns are stronger than positive patterns and thus often one could become negative themselves.(this is based on my own observation).

https://www.google.nl/search?q=cynic...ous&start=10&*

The people based on their "auro/noor" of their face are totally different people which i try to talk about in this topic. They might for example not be cynical whatsoever, but something is off just seeing their face. While not even sharing one word or have seen them before in your life time.

I ASSUMED that more people have had shared similar experience but till now only brother ardianto and him exceeding much in life compared to me, has given me a more firm stand of despite not having objective evidence that it could still exist.

format_quote Originally Posted by sister herb

I think that the most people have similar experiencies like you but they might not call their feeling by this word (Aura). It´s difficult to explain as there isn´t right word to describe the first impression (or I don´t know it). Studies of social psychology show that we need only seconds when meet new person to create an image to our mind what kind of person he/she is but also that our prejudices may give to us wrong impression easily. Not only face but the whole body language is what makes this the first impression, as well many other things like what he/she wears. New person might be tired, shy, angry and we get feeling he7she is like this always.

No sister, it isn't that. Because in your comment is based on judgement which again in a previous comment i explained this is prohibited to do in Islam and i am also not talking about that. What i mean is ONLY and ONLY based on the face. If i think about it..i could say there are 3 type of faces.

Type 1: One which emanates noor/light or whatever you could say. These people you like them..if they are laughing/smiling or have a neutral face. At least that you want to do is by natural instinct to WANT to greet these kind of people. Even want to be near them or hangout with these people.

Type 2: Neutral..it doesn't emanate noor/light but also does NOT emanate anything negative. These people are by majority you could say. When you see these people and they laugh/smile or have neutral face, you do behave the same. But further than that..nothing more. If they greet you, you greet them. Cynical people you could say also belong to this category, as they are just good people and have no harm in mind.

Type 3: Negative you could say. These people emanate rather some negative or sinister something from their faces. I don't know how to describe it. When you see them out of good manners you greet them, but after that you want to go away from them as far as possible. These kind of people might be a handful in your life time that you encounter. Although i believe based on the amount of corruption growing on this world, these types of people will also increase.

I really think it is simple. You are attracted to them if you were close to them and knew them before and you are not attracted to them easily if you did not know them. Ever had that feeling you've known someone your whole life even though you just met?

The Prophet (pbuh) said: "The souls are (like) an army joined (in the world of spirits) whichever souls knew each other (in that world) are attracted towards each other (in this world) and whichever remained distant and indifferent (there) are disinterested to each other (in this world)"
(Saheeh al-Bukhaari, Kitaab Ahaadeeth al-Anbiyaa’, Baab al-Arwaah junood mujannadah).

I'm gonna stick to the word "vibe" instead of aura here, because it is easier to relate to (I think so anyway). When you get a good or bad vibe from somebody, it can just be your perception. I'm not a very social person and I get bad vibes from most people. Is it the people or is it me? LOL. I say the latter.

More often than not I look down or away and keep with my business. I don't go out of my way to be super inviting or talkative, but when I am approached for whatever reason I'm friendly and smile Most would probably get a bad vibe if they come near me because I wear hijab and I don't smile much. I'm a nice lady though lol. So it would be their perception of me

The word "aura" can be used for various contexts, including supernatural contexts. That's why some participants in this thread assume that I am talking about superstition. But actually not. What I mean is "something in someone that cause specific impression in the eyes of people who see him, visually". People in my place call it as "aura", which not really same as karisma (charisma), and different than getaran perasaan (vibe).

"Aura" in this context has nothing to do with supernatural. But reflection of inner beauty that reflected outside and build the image of this person in the people eyes. Indeed, this 'aura' reflected not only on face. But face holds significant portion due to gaze and expression.

"Aura" is built on inner beauty. And we can have 'aura' that look impressive and make us look charismatic in people eyes if we can build our inner beauty.

format_quote Originally Posted by Simple_Person

I am kind of lost in this. I have the feeling about it, but i am not sure where to place it.

There are people you will see in your life, you haven't even said hello or how are you doing. You don't know them and they don't know you..just by seeing their face ..you do not like them. I am sure many of us have experienced this also.

Why is this? Is this because they lack noor? Or is it from sheytan this feeling? Or is it maybe a psychological thing?

I think it's better if we back to the original question. What makes you feel you dislike someone who you meet for the first time just because his face?.

Very possible it's because memory. You have ever met some people who make you felt uncomfortable. In example, arrogant people. Arrogant people look down on other people, it makes them have specific gaze when look at the others. Your eyes recorded it and saved it as memory in your brain, without you realize it. And when you meet someone new and you see the same gaze, the memory appear in your brain and send a signal to dislike this person.

format_quote Originally Posted by ardianto

I think it's better if we back to the original question. What makes you feel you dislike someone who you meet for the first time just because his face?.

Very possible it's because memory. You have ever met some people who make you felt uncomfortable. In example, arrogant people. Arrogant people look down on other people, it makes them have specific gaze when look at the others. Your eyes recorded it and saved it as memory in your brain, without you realize it. And when you meet someone new and you see the same gaze, the memory appear in your brain and send a signal to dislike this person.

Good observation and very plausible. As peoples gaze don't differ despite them being totally different people. But before going in to that direction, is there any hadith or something that mentions about peoples faces emanating noor? As you earlier pointed out?

format_quote Originally Posted by Simple_Person

But before going in to that direction, is there any hadith or something that mentions about peoples faces emanating noor? As you earlier pointed out?

"Noor on face" is not literal. I have meet pious humble kindhearted people, but I didn't see their faces emit light like lamp.

However, like I've said, inner-beauty can be emanated on face. The pious humble kindhearted people are very beautiful inside, and their inner-beauty emanated on their faces that make people love to see them. "Noor on face" is just term to described inner-beauty that emanated on face like this.

format_quote Originally Posted by ardianto

"Noor on face" is not literal. I have meet pious humble kindhearted people, but I didn't see their faces emit light like lamp.

However, like I've said, inner-beauty can be emanated on face. The pious humble kindhearted people are very beautiful inside, and their inner-beauty emanated on their faces that make people love to see them. "Noor on face" is just term to described inner-beauty that emanated on face like this.

Hahahah, i also meant to say that..not as if it is a lamp that can be used in the dark . But because of lack of this beauty inside they emanate something else that this "noor" with kindhearted people. Because that is my argument.

format_quote Originally Posted by Simple_Person

Hahahah, i also meant to say that..not as if it is a lamp that can be used in the dark . But because of lack of this beauty inside they emanate something else that this "noor" with kindhearted people. Because that is my argument.

But there are people who believe that noor on face is literal, although they have never seen it.