Is it a sin to break a heart? My grandfather and some scholars say no. Does that mean I can promise women marriage then change my find and keep breaking hearts until I find the "perfect girl"? How is this not considered a sin?
Yes, I know, but I am the person who follows on his word. I told her I wanted a life with her and told her to my mother but the girl made a fool out of me and humiliated me and left me in the most painful way. Why is it that I am the one who gets chastised when I was the one who was committed and actually care about the other person's wellbeing regardless of mine? And if I knew it was haram I would not have done it. I was not as religious back then as I was now. And before I was courting this girl, I asked my mother if it was okay and permissible. So how is any of this my fault? I always help people and am afraid to hurt others yet, in the end, everyone uses me. I just want to know if what that woman did to me was a sin so I can take consolation that Allah is watching and he punishes those who hurt others. I need to know there is justice otherwise why should I bother being a good person and caring about others if I can go around promising women marriage with "good intentions" but then leave them because I see a prettier girl.
You are not accountable for anybody else's actions. You are responsible for your own behaviour. However, everyone is accountable to Allah and if their actions weren't done according to the sunnah to please Him, then they will be used against them. If anything, you should be grateful that such a shallow individual has been taken away from your life because, from sounds of it, you could have been a lot more miserable with life having her as your life partner.
You should bother to good deeds to others because your reward is with Allah alone and not with His creation. Good deeds done for the sake of Allah are never lost or forgotten.
وَمَا كَانَ رَبُّكَ نَسِيًّا
"And your lord never forgets"
(Surah Maryum)
Last edited by 'Abd-al Latif; 09-23-2018 at 10:35 PM.
And verily for everything that a slave loses there is a substitute, but the one who loses Allah will never find anything to replace Him.” [Related by Ibn al-Qayyim in ad-Dâ' wad-Dawâ Fasl 49]
Oooo, last christmas, i gave you my heart, but the very next day...
Da na na na na naaa, da nananananananana...... once bitten, and twiiice shyyyyy, i'm hiiiding from you - and your soul of iiiiice....
No ill will intended.
Only trying to make you feel less of a softy.
Btw, do you watch bollywood movies? If so, maybe think about how they affect you, they can turn kids turn into little romeo and juliets and go suicidal.
And men's heart by nature is soooo weaker than women's heart by nature and no one can deny that....these videos are destroying the young men in ways you cannot fathom.
Brother...what did I tell you about a man's heart been weaker than a woman's heart. I no longer look at men and women the way I used too. Now I reverse my outlook in how I look at men and women and my reverse outlook is 100% correct. I feel for a man much more than I do for a woman, because a woman is way stronger than a man in ways you and I cannot comprehend. Her heart is stronger than a steel and when she get cold it can turn the entire ocean into an ice in a blink of an eye. Woman can be vindictive and destructive and in your own eyes you saw how heartless she can be if she wants to be. Remember: No matter what a man does to a woman she have an endless network of support to back her up...that evil man can easily be in the media and his life is ruined forever. You don't see that the other way around, do you?
A woman giving a chance will destroy a man in a blink of an eye and not even care. Look at you..all weeping and full of love and compassion...but like the brother abz2000 said...these movies are destructive to the psychic of young men and boys and 98% of the time they are the one who committee suicide over love, women and relationship by being romeo and love.
This love should be done only for a Muslima wife who is qanit, who understands her boundaries, who respect men, who understand gender role and in additional to that she fears Allah and will be obedient to her husband...THAT SCENARIO is when a man should become the romeo for that wife. For in his eyes that wife she may become wrinkle, old, white hair..even fat in some cases...but his eyes see her more beautiful than the most beautiful model..for she is his companion and he wants her in he afterlife...brother....forget her. Please forget her.
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I am so happy your heart is at ease It makes me happy to hear that!
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