I do not know how long I can keep this up...I am trying so hard to be a good muslim. I am trying to be a good student but no one is happy with me. My parents and family say I am disappointment despite me getting good grades. They dont like that I spend my free time in the mosque. The girl I wanted to marry hates me and used me and humiliated me with a false promise of marriage. I want to marry but my family are not letting me. I am 22 years old and I am so lonely. I want to have a family and gave kids. I am Pakistani and sadly no arabs want to marry a Pakistani as we are looked down upon and known as miskeen. People I help dont even care. I know this is a test...but I just feel like giving up. I am too weak. It's so hard to put up with abuse from my family with no friends. People say I'm good and all yet no arab woman seems interested in marrying me? I feel like I am going to die alone and not for a long time. I feel like life is going on forever. The people who hurt others are enjoying life. I'm trying to be good but at the same time I just want to give up...
Yes I understand...but like I said. It seems unfair that the not so religious muslims get to reap the rewards of this world and the next world. They can hurt and harm anyone they want in this life and do all kinds of sins like hookah, music, and zina but still go to jannah for simply uttering the shaddah.
No, they won't. The shahada is no guarantee of jannah. Not even the Prophet himself was guaranteed jannah.
I do not know how long I can keep this up...I am trying so hard to be a good muslim. I am trying to be a good student but no one is happy with me. My parents and family say I am disappointment despite me getting good grades. They dont like that I spend my free time in the mosque. The girl I wanted to marry hates me and used me and humiliated me with a false promise of marriage. I want to marry but my family are not letting me. I am 22 years old and I am so lonely. I want to have a family and gave kids. I am Pakistani and sadly no arabs want to marry a Pakistani as we are looked down upon and known as miskeen. People I help dont even care. I know this is a test...but I just feel like giving up. I am too weak. It's so hard to put up with abuse from my family with no friends. People say I'm good and all yet no arab woman seems interested in marrying me? I feel like I am going to die alone and not for a long time. I feel like life is going on forever. The people who hurt others are enjoying life. I'm trying to be good but at the same time I just want to give up...
You are at a very young age to be that much hopeless of life. You just need to increase trust in yourself. Dont let people to label you with anything either. These labels are real only if you make yourself believe too.
No, they won't. The shahada is no guarantee of jannah. Not even the Prophet himself was guaranteed jannah.
Not only that..but a person who is an atheist or a christian or a Jewish person who look like hellfire is their abode and second before it is finalized they enter Islam and enter paradise and that person have done nothing before that, pray, zakaat, hajj or fast and right there enters paradise and if Allah wills...highest level of paradise too and all their life they have done fahshat and zina and so on.
You know what that means..it means we are all slaves of Allah and Allah will do with us whatever he wills and you as a slave have no right to object, question or say a word. Your mission is submit and worship Allah alone and not associate partners with him We ARE ALL HIS CREATION aaaanndd...we are all his property he can do with us whatever he wills. He can turn you into a stone tomorrow and there is nothing you can do about it. Just remember that....
Happiness means different things to different people. Have you contemplated about what it means to you? Is our definition and understanding of happiness based on falsehood or reality? Does happiness mean having a big house? beautiful wife? Lots of children? A good job? education? etc. Now think about your response and then think about whether your happiness is worth the value of jannah? The answer should be no. This world is not worth the wing of a mosquito in the sight of our magnificent Lord. How small and insignificant is the wing of a mosquitto??!! Just because arab women are refusing you, because your parents are not happy with you, because you are not happy etc. do you think these things alone or together are worth your jannah? your eternal 6
paradise?
Never.
One more thing just because people are showing an external front of happiness it does not always mean they are happy. Look at all these celebs and normal everyday people who have all the materialistic things they could possibly buy but commit suicide. Why?? Because this does not bring you saqoon. Peace. Tranquillity. No. Your tahujjid salah, giving charity, pleasing Allah swt, doing what is obligatory etc. gives you peace and saqoon. If it does not review your current situation and improve yourself. Join classes and start hanging around with brothers who practise the deen. This is a quick and easy way to identify where you are going wrong.
Sit your parents down and let them know they words are affecting you. If you can't write it down write a letter. If this is too much get someone you trust to speak to them. Whatever you do COMMUNICATE the message! Let your parents know that they are crossing the mark and it is really affecting you etc. Trust me any sensible parent will back off. Most asian parents tend to tease the children to push them to work harder and it comes from a place of love. I'm a grown woman and my dad sometimes belittles me but i don't mind now. I used to back in the days abd yes we are all human sometimes it does affect you but i let it go because i know the truth. So what if you do don't get the grades? so what if arab women refuse you? why don't you give yourself a chance and express your interest in other women belonging to a different race.
It is not the end of the world. Life must continue to go on. Please try harder. Make new friends, open your mind to different possibilities and stop holding on to just one small world.
I always advise this to everyone. Anyone who suffers from depression or low moods you MUST start exercising. Look after your physical body and this will in turn play a huge role in your moods and you're mindset. No pain no gain. That's what they say. You will grow spiritually through this experience and you will become a better person insha Allah. Accept this and see it as a challenge. Allah swt will always take care of you and HE swt never lets us down. We let ourselves down due to our sins, poor expectations and wrong decisions etc.
May Allah set help you overcome this troubled space you are in Ameen.
Masha'Allah...such great wisdom from what you said 100000% in everything you said!!
I am going to keep trying...inshallah but at times I fail and commit sins. I just feel horrible when I promise not to do a sin but then do it again. People keep saying I am a nice guy and I have alot good qualities and any woman would be lucky to have me. But if I was such a nice guy, caring, and smart and all that, then why did the woman I want to marry leave me? I mean is there something wrong with me? I never even got an explanation...inshallah I will keep fighting...but I still suffer from these thoughts and get lonely
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And thank you guys again for all your support and hadiths. It helps alot and is honey for the heart. Inshallah I will try to be a better muslim. Please make dua for me and ask allah to forgive me of all my sins
No, they won't. The shahada is no guarantee of jannah. Not even the Prophet himself was guaranteed jannah .
plz see bold part of your post.
Think before you write something about prophet s.a.w. If prophet s.a.w wasn't guaranteed jannah then what is the point of this guarantee given by prophet s.a.w to momineen.
Abu Umamah Al-Bahili )May Allah be pleased with him reported:
Messenger of Allah s.a.w said, "I guarantee a house in Jannah for one who gives up arguing, even if he is in the right; and I guarantee a home in the middle of Jannah for one who abandons lying even for the sake of fun; and I guarantee a house in the highest part of Jannah for one who has good manners."
(Riyad as-Salihin Book 1, Hadith 630, Abu Dawud)
The Prophet (PBUH) said, "Whoever guarantees me (the chastity of) what is between his legs ( i.e. his private parts), and what is between his jaws ( i.e., his tongue), I guarantee him Paradise."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.799
Obadah ibn Samit (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated Allah’s Messenger (sallahu alayhi wa salim) said: “Guarantee me you’ll do six things and I guarantee you Jannah. Whenever you speak say the truth. Fulfill your promises when you make them. When you’re entrusted with something, carry out that trust. Safeguard your private parts, lower your gaze and prevent your hands from harming others.”
(Ibn Khuzaymah (3/91), Ibn Hibban (107), Al-Hakim (4/ 358,359), Ahmed (5/323). Shaykh Al-Albani graded this hadeeth as being Hasan Lee Ghayri hi (1470) in Saheehah
I am going to keep trying...inshallah but at times I fail and commit sins. I just feel horrible when I promise not to do a sin but then do it again. People keep saying I am a nice guy and I have alot good qualities and any woman would be lucky to have me. But if I was such a nice guy, caring, and smart and all that, then why did the woman I want to marry leave me? I mean is there something wrong with me? I never even got an explanation...inshallah I will keep fighting...but I still suffer from these thoughts and get lonely
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And thank you guys again for all your support and hadiths. It helps alot and is honey for the heart. Inshallah I will try to be a better muslim. Please make dua for me and ask allah to forgive me of all my sins
Asalamualykum,
Sooner or later everything and everyone will leave us whether we like it or not, whether we are prepared for it or not, whether they choose to or are forced to. I learnt this lesson too. We can't cling on to dunya or people. We only take our deeds with us so keep Allah swt and HIS messenger s.a.w as your friend and the Quran as your companion. This my brother will never leave you or fail you. Insha Allah.
Pain and hardships allow you to grow spiritually Alhamdulilah so smile when a so called calamity befalls upon you.
Alhamdulilah Allah swt is the greatest.
“Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: ‘We believe,’ and will not be tested.
Quran 2:155
And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient,
Quran 3:142
“Do you think that you will enter Paradise before Allaah tests those of you who fought (in His Cause) and (also) tests those who are As-Saabiroon (the patient)?”
Quran 21:35
“and We shall make a trial of you with evil and with good. And to Us you will be returned”
the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No misfortune or disease befalls a Muslim, no worry or grief or harm or distress – not even a thorn that pricks him – but Allaah will expiate for some of his sins because of that.” (Agreed upon. Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5641)
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “If Allah intends good for someone, then he afflicts him with trials.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī
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