Salam,
I’m in quite a bit of a conundrum. I have gotten married and by wife has become pregnant and it’s now the 5th month. Now the issue is a long-standing one with my parents particularly my mother who is an extremely volatile person.
She has been incredibly abusive to my father but my father cites many instances where she was good and continues to follow and listen whatever she says.
Now after marriage, she has consistently been abusing and insulting my wife, so much so that she has gotten ill due to the stress. For me I have gotten used to it, but the constant insults from my mother have taken a toll on her. I have tried many times to be kind and have tried my utmost for things to be on the right track but nothing is working and it never will. She continues to abuse and threatens to run-away each time.
Another problem is that she is always packing her bags to leave the house at age 54, while my father watches on helpless. Her family, mainly her sister and brother support these activities and instead of telling her to return are gladly looking to keep her and find faults in me, my wife and my brother.
She abuses my wifes parents, she questions her upbringing, and most recently questioned her character as well. My father watches on and does nothing. He himself is a terminally ill 64 year old suffering from several diseases.
In this situation what should I do? Should I rent out a place and separate my wife, while trying to do whatever a dutiful son can. Another issue is that she has threatened me and my father to stop keeping contact if I leave the house and separate my wife.
I have shared hadees and Quranic verses to tell them that what they are doing is unislamic but they don’t care. In fact, my father is denying the hadees I sent him and says that he doesn’t care. What should I do about my parents and wife? And my unborn child you is suffering immensely. In this situation I too have become a patient of immense stress and depression.
Salam,
I’m in quite a bit of a conundrum. I have gotten married and by wife has become pregnant and it’s now the 5th month. Now the issue is a long-standing one with my parents particularly my mother who is an extremely volatile person.
She has been incredibly abusive to my father but my father cites many instances where she was good and continues to follow and listen whatever she says.
Now after marriage, she has consistently been abusing and insulting my wife, so much so that she has gotten ill due to the stress. For me I have gotten used to it, but the constant insults from my mother have taken a toll on her. I have tried many times to be kind and have tried my utmost for things to be on the right track but nothing is working and it never will. She continues to abuse and threatens to run-away each time.
Another problem is that she is always packing her bags to leave the house at age 54, while my father watches on helpless. Her family, mainly her sister and brother support these activities and instead of telling her to return are gladly looking to keep her and find faults in me, my wife and my brother.
She abuses my wifes parents, she questions her upbringing, and most recently questioned her character as well. My father watches on and does nothing. He himself is a terminally ill 64 year old suffering from several diseases.
In this situation what should I do? Should I rent out a place and separate my wife, while trying to do whatever a dutiful son can. Another issue is that she has threatened me and my father to stop keeping contact if I leave the house and separate my wife.
I have shared hadees and Quranic verses to tell them that what they are doing is unislamic but they don’t care. In fact, my father is denying the hadees I sent him and says that he doesn’t care. What should I do about my parents and wife? And my unborn child you is suffering immensely. In this situation I too have become a patient of immense stress and depression.
Brother in islam, you really should talk to a scholar or an imam about this. I want to give you advice but i dont know any. Please talk to your scholar or an imam in your masjid about this situation, i highly recommend you it.
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