Desires in Jannah.

Sometimes, can't but help to feel if this is some sort of joke, only because there is nothing mentioned on what you think of marriage itself, it wouldn't be paradise if we had women just sleeping around with more than one man.

If you did, and you had children - should we start doing paternity tests there too??

I'm sorry of my response sound sarcastic, I just don't know how else to write it.

One time, I saw a message from someone who was into super heros, and he said that if he asked Allah can he go back into and play a superhero and people will respect him-this is wholly not respecting Allah or anyone else and how things work-the setup of being tested.

The word is RESPECT -which is missing-so please check where you are respecting those men, their mothers for saying this is how they should live. I also have seen messages from a woman who wanted to marry this person in Paradise (he is already married and has lots of children). I reminded her that all is happening in Paradise is that everything is from Allah. So your husband is not providing for you.

Respecting the rest of the community -it would not be paradise and pure if women were just picking many males to go and have be with and this is what children will see.

I would reset and go back a step, you're using your own mind as it is right now and putting it in Paradise. This is wrong.

When you go to Paradise and even if you sat in one place, you would be content to sit there for years. Paradise of course is nothing like earth. There are angels there of course, so how does your behaviour fit in??

A man is tested at a different level to women-here he goes out to work, forms working relationships, sorts out funerals and they fight-we women are tested at a different level and largely do the child rearing etc. A man is going to lose respect for having more than one wife-but a woman would lose respect as that is taking more -she doesn't need 2 husbands to provide for her-that is unjust also not pure as why should a man share intimate relations and potential children?? The whole setup is bad.

I would really backtrack a lot, as people can jump to marriage first, when the case I see is basic setup and thinking about how do you respect men, children and other women (for them being mothers and you're asking to treat their sons this way). I'm not always around and hope this is helpful. Just go back and what it means to you, there is paradise -you will not be having these thoughts, there are rivers of water, honey, milk and wine, walking over grasses, carpets etc. The experience and the food and enjoying the company. You wouldn't be able to go to the Prophet Muhammed peace be upon him and say I would now like to be with him and him etc. Women are to guard themselves-our test at our level, you don't need someone else to enjoy being with you. Remember lust is not the same as love.