I decided to start this thread mainly because I don't think I am racist but then again I thought very very carefully about it and I think I am racist to some extent and I think nearly everyone is racist to some extent. Am I causing you to get frustrated and do I hear you protesting thats just absurd and unheard of and that you dont care and you aren't racist...well face it people we have some things we simply will not do with some people of other races I will start by giving examples to explain where I am coming from...I am fair-skinned in color and I am asian and have no problems with black people at all I even eat with black people sometimes at the mosque one of my best friends is black I even invite some black friends over to my house....however I don't think I would ever marry a black women ever ...why because she is black? People will give other reasons and say thats harsh and racist but is it? Ok for those of you that are not black and will marry a black person would you let you younger sister or would you let your daughter marry a black person? Same goes for me and white people I would maybe marry a white person...but I sure know I wouldn't allow my son or daughter to..does that make me racist? So the question is how racist are you? Do you think you are racist?
^^ to the post by silver pearl I dont live in UK secondly most marriages nowadays are like blind dates as for not going to Jannah and Allah pleasure you have it all right! maa fee mushkeela are you crazy its the most mushkil thing having your own kids speaking to you in english(sorry but i find that very insulting) hey dad how are you dad!! grr as for the smell ..ridiculous as it may be it exists!! theres more but im getting tired typing away
I'd say I have to disagree with the last bit you said about most Asian/White marriages ending in divorce. In my experience they have worked, and many of them have ended up way happier then some married couples of the same race.
I suppose at the end of the day, its all on the two individuals to make it work. Theres no 2 people the same on this world. A chinese Muslim and a Ghanain muslim could be way more compatible then 2 Indians from the same Village! A lot relies on the individuals themselves rather then culture as a whole
But I personally think inter-racial marriage is an awesome thing
You mind me asking which races you would marry Bro? And why would you marry some and not the other?
( Ok I have the same issue but I just want to know your reason if you dont mind )
I'm asking because you said your son talking to you in English would be insulting. If you married a into a different race, maybe your kids wouldn't speak English but some other language nevertheless right?
I'd say I have to disagree with the last bit you said about most Asian/White marriages ending in divorce. In my experience they have worked, and many of them have ended up way happier then some married couples of the same race.
Inshallah we will all find compatible partners
i have seen an asian-white marriage which has caused blood-ties to severe. I say if such things happen and u kno there likely why do it? Also the mother complains that she cant speak to her son-in-law and they hav nothing in common. The in-laws hav nothing in common at all!
this is a serious problem i must say.
Ameen to the dua!
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My tears testify that i have a heart
yet i feel me and shaytan never part
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erm well I would marry a hispanic mainly cause i can speak spanish ...I wouldnt mind an arab as both my parents and me can speak arabic...i wouldnt mind a pakistani...as I can speak urdu and the cultures arent too different umm a bengali? well some factors would say yes some would say no...a black girl? umm i dont think so.... a chinese girl? maybe.... a white girl as in american or british? umm no....
Well......I know no one asked my about my choice or anything but I speak Arabic fluently and I know their culture and all and I still dont think I could marry an Arab. I guess it's because I lived amongst them and even though some of them study Islam and all of that.......there's still this mentality ingrained into them in which women are like second class to them. I dont know, it's just I've lived amongst them and plenty things just put me off terribly
The same thing goes with ermm.....Pakistani's, Or maybe I should say Indian also (shame on me, My grandads Indian ) Some of their ways I just really really dont think I can live with and it just really puts me off.
But I get along with them just great in every day life, it's just the thought of me having the live the rest of my life with a person of that kind which makes me shudder......
Aaaaaaahhhh but what we're trying to say now, is it racism or not? I'd say it just isn't our choice and we're not saying it in a mean way or anything.........it's just not our choice!!
Race really isn't an issue for me. As far as spouses go, if she's Muslim, it's all good. We all come in different shapes and sizes. It's not racist to point out 'hey, I'm brown', or 'hey, he's black', but it is racist to discriminate on that basis. I mean, Allah created different ethnicities so that we could recognise each other.
haha good answer...I'm the same...but of course I have some lines with the race
racism is innate...people might say theyre not but i think that most people are and its hard not be...like there are times when one will say something and it is racist simple as no other way of putting it...i dont wanna give examples in case i offend anyone...but it really is an innate thing but its just about how you condition it as there are two sides of the scale
racism is innate...people might say theyre not but i think that most people are and its hard not be...like there are times when one will say something and it is racist simple as no other way of putting it...i dont wanna give examples in case i offend anyone...but it really is an innate thing but its just about how you condition it as there are two sides of the scale
and thats exactly what this thread is about...like that one line which most people have would that line be racism?
the matter is ppl eventually forget wot they are! erm.........from one nation, one ummah, at the end we are all muslims.........its the fact that we as a muslim divide our self according to our ethnicity.....here all the problems are created......... we jus cannot except we are muslims...we say...oh ur bengali....ur pakistani...indian....arab......white......were jus labelling each other.
discrimination is absolutley against islam....we shud just except it....
about spouse thing....i seriously dnt mind who i get married to...as long his a muslim......practising......
but for my parents wud be a big issue...... u have to marry a bengali person....coz in this society ppl eventually start backchatting...try to ruin ur life.....marriages break....coz da saytan is still in u.....we shud be defending ourselves from him.....
its after all a cultural approach...not a islamic.........even we are muslims...bt still we see each ethnic group differently.......we divide ourself.......
All i hope is for my mums happiness.Shes my light.Shes my dunya.Her tears are my weakness.Her sadness breaks my heart.She is my mirror.A mirror that keeps me alive.Without her am nothing.shes my saaya.How can i leave her.I pray to Allah(swt) to keep me with her forever inshAllah.
erm well I would marry a hispanic mainly cause i can speak spanish ...I wouldnt mind an arab as both my parents and me can speak arabic...i wouldnt mind a pakistani...as I can speak urdu and the cultures arent too different umm a bengali? well some factors would say yes some would say no...a black girl? umm i dont think so.... a chinese girl? maybe.... a white girl as in american or british? umm no....
hafizmo.....a quest to u....bengalis...y wud some say no...and some say yes? jus answer it inshalah!
All i hope is for my mums happiness.Shes my light.Shes my dunya.Her tears are my weakness.Her sadness breaks my heart.She is my mirror.A mirror that keeps me alive.Without her am nothing.shes my saaya.How can i leave her.I pray to Allah(swt) to keep me with her forever inshAllah.
^ sad but tru, we are bound to divide, wud b kool if i ended up marryin a non-bengali tho lol that'd show them haha , but no tru mu'min wud feel right hurtin there mum
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My tears testify that i have a heart
yet i feel me and shaytan never part
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I had a problem with Asians (as in Japs,chinesse,..etc),and Blacks. (whats the PC term these days?)
These days,i get along with people who ARENT Indians better than i get along with Indians,....even though i am indian.lol.
Its all a matter of making an effort and accepting that Every humanbeing is a creation of allah s.w.t,..Black,White,Yellow,...
Iraqi,Iranian,American,Indian,Paki,Somalian.....
muslim,hindu,christian,jew..
...Just make dua for them (the non-muslims) that they find the Right Path before they pass onto the afterlife.
Ameen.
Dont Mistake My Harshness For Strength And Neither Mistake My Kindness For Weakness.
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And why would you marry some and not the other?
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) Some of their ways I just really really dont think I can live with and it just really puts me off.
, but no tru mu'min wud feel right hurtin there mum 
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