Brothers - I need advice and Knowledge.
I am an American born Revert with lebanese decent. Being a revert has been a very difficult journey to say the least. I am a new member here and I look forward to learning more about Islam and becoming a better Muslim.
Now as for my problem and question.
A little over a year ago I was in Canada for work, and I married a lady who seemed wonderful and perfect with good values. God blessed us with a beautiful baby boy who is now 4 months old.
She has always stayed in Canada because we have been working on getting her Visa papers to be in the US, which has been a long and stressful process. Without a Visa, a person is allowed to visit the United States for up to 6 months as a visitor... she only stayed about 4 months out of that. She is very close with her family and the transition has been hard, which I understand.
About 5 months ago, a month before our son was born, she convinced herself that I was cheating on her. She told her whole family that I was, and told mine. Walla Allah, I have been true and faithful to her, and never once cheated. Looking back now, I think that she never truely loved me and this was her way of "getting out".
I believe divorce to be extremely haram, especially considering we have brought a boy into this world. Dispite her accusing me of such terrible things, I wanted to work it out.
I recently found out that she is with another man. I never granted an Islamic or Civil divorce, yet she claims that we are divorced! Is that possible? I thought to be Islamically divorced, both partners had to agree.
Now MY wife is with another man, and she has another Man around MY son. I cannot even begin to describe how badly this hurts me. My son willl recognize another mans face before mine. When I first met her, she seems to have such great values, and I would have never dreamed that she would do something like this. Being that she's been with another man, I have lost interest in being with somebody who would do that to me... but I want MY son. I do not want him growing up in an autmosphere like this.
I dont know what do do. Am I wrong to begin with? Can she divorce me that easily? In my mind, none of this is right. I cant think of anything more haram a wife can do. And I cant even begin to describe how hurtful this all is.
Please brothers, forgive me for my ignorance... but enlighten me, give me knowledge... what do I do?
I am an American born Revert with lebanese decent. Being a revert has been a very difficult journey to say the least. I am a new member here and I look forward to learning more about Islam and becoming a better Muslim.
Now as for my problem and question.
A little over a year ago I was in Canada for work, and I married a lady who seemed wonderful and perfect with good values. God blessed us with a beautiful baby boy who is now 4 months old.
She has always stayed in Canada because we have been working on getting her Visa papers to be in the US, which has been a long and stressful process. Without a Visa, a person is allowed to visit the United States for up to 6 months as a visitor... she only stayed about 4 months out of that. She is very close with her family and the transition has been hard, which I understand.
About 5 months ago, a month before our son was born, she convinced herself that I was cheating on her. She told her whole family that I was, and told mine. Walla Allah, I have been true and faithful to her, and never once cheated. Looking back now, I think that she never truely loved me and this was her way of "getting out".
I believe divorce to be extremely haram, especially considering we have brought a boy into this world. Dispite her accusing me of such terrible things, I wanted to work it out.
I recently found out that she is with another man. I never granted an Islamic or Civil divorce, yet she claims that we are divorced! Is that possible? I thought to be Islamically divorced, both partners had to agree.
Now MY wife is with another man, and she has another Man around MY son. I cannot even begin to describe how badly this hurts me. My son willl recognize another mans face before mine. When I first met her, she seems to have such great values, and I would have never dreamed that she would do something like this. Being that she's been with another man, I have lost interest in being with somebody who would do that to me... but I want MY son. I do not want him growing up in an autmosphere like this.
I dont know what do do. Am I wrong to begin with? Can she divorce me that easily? In my mind, none of this is right. I cant think of anything more haram a wife can do. And I cant even begin to describe how hurtful this all is.
Please brothers, forgive me for my ignorance... but enlighten me, give me knowledge... what do I do?
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may Allah make this easy for you.