Should loners marry?

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Just wondering what your opinion is. Do you think people with a loner personality should marry. Would they be good husbands or wives? Could they take care of their children properly? I fall into the category of "loners" :)

Do you think loners will miss out on life, if they chose to live alone their whole life? I mean not having a lifelong companion, never experiencing love and intimacy with the opposite sex etc.. it's easier said than done.
 
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Just wondering what your opinion is. Do you think people with a loner personality should marry.
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A loner is no less of a human.

Would they be a good husband or wife? Could they take care of their children properly? I fall into the category of "loners" :)
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Why not? And what do you mean by loner?

Loner like the type of person who doesnt venture out of the house for years or loner as in the kinda person who would rather stick to himself? I think marriage would change that though.

Do you think loners will miss out on life, if they chose to live alone their whole life?
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Yeh. If you chose to live alone then you'd miss out on the companionship we all crave. Humans are social beings. Well most anyway.
 
Amatul Wadud said:
And what do you mean by loner?
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Someone who can't/doesn't enjoy social relationships and avoids it most of the time.

Loner like the type of person who doesnt venture out of the house for years or loner as in the kinda person who would rather stick to himself? I think marriage would change that though.
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I'm one of those who only ventures out of the house when necessary. I have lived like this for years. I suppose this makes me a super loner...
 
AssalamuAlaykum,

I know this is kind of going off-topic but is there a reason you dont enjoy social relationships? Since when have you been like that and how difficult would it be for you to go and spend the whole day with somebody else. Would it make you anxious/uncomfortable etc?

WassalamuAlaykum
 
Amatul Wadud said:
AssalamuAlaykum,

I know this is kind of going off-topic but is there a reason you dont enjoy social relationships? Since when have you been like that and how difficult would it be for you to go and spend the whole day with somebody else. Would it make you anxious/uncomfortable etc?

WassalamuAlaykum
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Wa alaykum Salam,

Quite difficult, I was always anxious and shy. Perhaps I'm sick in the head.
 
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Do you think people with a loner personality should marry. Would they be good husbands or wives?
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why not i don't see a relation between be good husband and your personality as a loner do you know why because every one will be social person when it's necessary in my opinion marrage will help you to get out from "loner category". i know somebody who don't talk very much or you even can say he barely talk (i mean he is not a social person) and he got married , have kids and his life i think much better than others that they aren't loners.

but even though it's possible to marry you should change your look toward your self as a loner because just like my sis Amatul Wadud said: "Humans are social beings " .

peace
 
Argamemnon said:
Wa alaykum Salam,

Quite difficult, I was always anxious and shy. .
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normal thing i feel anxious and shy when i talk to people but when i use to them i feel comfortable and talk to them as i talk to my family approximately.

Perhaps I'm sick in the head
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you shouldn't think like that it's normal.

peace
 
i was always shy as a kid but when i went college i went crazy and made not so good friends and after i had realized my mistakes ....i was very lucky because our family were in the process of moving cities.so now i keep myself to myself i find it helps me focus and helps me to achieve things i cudnt b4
 
:sl:Awwwwwwwww Bless you little one!!!

I hope that Allah eases your troubles and replaces them happiness! Ameen, summ Ameen..............:)
J.U.N.I.O.R said:
Thanks zahida....we have greatly benefited from your motherly advices since you joined!!
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Greetings and peace be with you Argamemnon;

You might think of yourself as anxious and shy, but I bet you are a caring and kind person. Generally a wife would not let you be shy and would keep talking to you. If you had children they would demand so much of your time and energy, that you will have no time to be shy and anxious.

In the spirit of praying for the courage to go out one more time.

Eric
 
Argamemnon said:
Wa alaykum Salam,

Quite difficult, I was always anxious and shy. Perhaps I'm sick in the head.
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I'd like you to answer the question insha'Allah.

You're not 'sick in the head bro' :)

Eric H said:
Greetings and peace be with you Argamemnon;

You might think of yourself as anxious and shy, but I bet you are a caring and kind person. Generally a wife would not let you be shy and would keep talking to you. If you had children they would demand so much of your time and energy, that you will have no time to be shy and anxious.

In the spirit of praying for the courage to go out one more time.

Eric
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Hi Eric,

A beautiful post, thank you!
 
:sl: Yes Eric i agree with you too............ you said the most wisest thing....
InshaAllah our brother will find a blushing bride soon. Ameen:w::)
 
Whenver u hear a bad thought in ur head telling u a negative thought replace it wit a good one.

Thats the start...

Secondly, u are no loner, u make some of the most intelligent posts on this forum.

Don't become ur worst enemy akhi. If you only were not so hard on urself, maybe, u wud see who u are. MashaAllah.
 
Eric H said:
Greetings and peace be with you Argamemnon;

You might think of yourself as anxious and shy, but I bet you are a caring and kind person. Generally a wife would not let you be shy and would keep talking to you. If you had children they would demand so much of your time and energy, that you will have no time to be shy and anxious.

In the spirit of praying for the courage to go out one more time.

Eric
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Peace and greetings be with you dear Eric :)

I appreciate your optimism, I really do, however, currently I'm considering electroschock therapy. This should give you an idea about the severity of my mental state... I've been dealing with this illness since 2001 dear Eric.
 

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