People get so attached to me

AnonymousGender said:
Wow u really read me like a book. I had a hard time explaining but you understood me spot on. Thank you.

I just don't want anybody gettin obsessed with me. That seriously scares me. I feel like I can't breathe when I see that.

I don't use facebook or myspace, just msn/Fone.. "thank god for the offline mode.

Lots of people try to get me join facebook, somehow I always refused.

The highlighted part got me emotional Its true. I like sitting with people who are like that, I don't know any though.

thank u, I will do wat u adviced me inshaAllah.
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Lol, alhamdulillah. I knew that I pegged your situation, because I went through the same thing just over a year ago.

Sometimes people are given attributes that cause them to be magnetic. Now it is hard to talk about this stuff without sounding like a total tool, so bear with me.

When you've got this magnetism, it is impossible to keep everyone happy. And when you try, you just fail. There are inevitably times you have to let people down.

And when you let people down, it hurts you inside, because you want to be there for everyone, but you're only one person.

The best you can do is just be honest.
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Not many sociable people feel this way. Most people who have this situation are just flaky. But they develop enemies. People like our anonymous thread starter are humble and kind. They don't want enemies and they do everything they can to please everyone. She can't, and it's hurting her.
 
AnonymousGender said:
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i get where ur comin from, i feel the same way sometimes - where i dont wna get attached. i think the best thing to do is to stick by them if they will benefit u, or u benefit them in emaan. otherwise, leave it.. since u should use ur charm for the sake of Allah for a greater goodness instead of wasting it.. :)
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BTW, I think this was really well-said.
 
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u know when i used to have alot of mates, or people on my msn list.. i hated the way they always wanted to chat to me.. but i was happy that i always had someone online if i was bored.

but i realised that it was too much, its like eating too much sweets lol.. so u dont enjoy it when it gets too much. then i noticed that i stuck by the ones who would benefit me and i would benefit them the most, and i realised that the quality of being with them was more fun than having alot of people who i had to hurt or give little time to.


when u separate gradually, they get over it. they have to. since u give urself to them less, they can't do anything but move on.. u will feel sad abit, that u've left them, but u know its for a greater good - especially if its for Allah's sake. so go for it. u want to use this goodness of yours for Him, and He will give u more good through it.. :)
 
i said that because like then when you have the most important people around you, you will still feel lonely. And that's being called to get married. I think a lot of people have that loneliness and they try to fill it with friends. But when you get a bunch of single people around, they are usually gossiping or trying to get thrills otherwise.

Then you may start looking around and being like man, I wish I had my soulmate.

But otherwise you just kick it with your good friends and family and be happy :)
 
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The world is such a strange place full of such strange personalities. No offense to be taken by the original poster but your reaction seems just a tad bit over-exaggerated and mean. If there was a sister who I spoke to and whom I kept close company with and she felt the same way then I'd be shocked. If you feel the way you do then its best you don't talk to people full stop. It's like you lead them on and because they don't fit your ideology of good companionship, you drop them and feel suffocated by their presence. 'Ajeeb. Tomorrow you may need a friend and no one might be there because when they needed you, you couldn't be asked to tolerate their smothering.

Place yourself in their shoes and think of Allaah. Allaah is not merciful to those who do not show mercy to his creation.

I do not quite understand how people, Muslims can be so unkind sometimes. It is part of life that you will get hurt, misery may fall on your doorsteps but that doesn't mean you do unto others what you think may or may not happen to you.
 
AnonymousGender said:
:wasalamex

The world is such a strange place full of such strange personalities. No offense to be taken by the original poster but your reaction seems just a tad bit over-exaggerated and mean. If there was a sister who I spoke to and whom I kept close company with and she felt the same way then I'd be shocked. If you feel the way you do then its best you don't talk to people full stop. It's like you lead them on and because they don't fit your ideology of good companionship, you drop them and feel suffocated by their presence. 'Ajeeb. Tomorrow you may need a friend and no one might be there because when they needed you, you couldn't be asked to tolerate their smothering.

Place yourself in their shoes and think of Allaah. Allaah is not merciful to those who do not sure mercy to his creation.

I do not quite understand how people, Muslims can be so unkind sometimes. It is part of life that you will get hurt, misery may fall on your doorsteps but that doesn't mean you do unto others what you think may or may not happen to you.
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The bold part makes two of us.

To Thread Starter:

Dear brother/sister, it's not that bad to be in contact with your friends via email. :)
 
Khalil_Allah said:
i said that because like then when you have the most important people around you, you will still feel lonely. And that's being called to get married. I think a lot of people have that loneliness and they try to fill it with friends. But when you get a bunch of single people around, they are usually gossiping or trying to get thrills otherwise.

Then you may start looking around and being like man, I wish I had my soulmate.

But otherwise you just kick it with your good friends and family and be happy :)
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I'm in my mid teens. My parents find the marriage topic quite frightening. I think I'm very mature but to them i'm still a baby lol.

I think I will just enjoy my families/friends company for now, until feb 2009, I get a year older then. Maybe then I can bring the topic back to my parents inshaAllah.:sunny:

thanks again! jzk.
 

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