The whole ummah is so divided as it is, the last thing we need is petty fights like this.
The problem is, both of them think that
they are right and that
they have been wronged. But they need to realise that by breaking ties like that they are BOTH in the wrong.
Whoevers fault it may have been initially, neither has a right to break up like that. One of them is going to have to take the initial step, just forget about who's done what, and give in. Not for the sake of the other person, not for anyone elses sake, but for Allah's sake...
"And hold fast, all of you together, to the Rope of Allah (i.e. this Quran), and be not divided among yourselves, and remember Allahs Favour on you, for you were enemies one to another but He joined your hearts together, so that, by His Grace, you became brethren (in Islamic Faith), and you were on the brink of a pit of Fire, and He saved you from it. Thus Allah makes His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.,) clear to you, that you may be guided." [3:103]
Remember that man who was dying and so he told his sons (they were 4) to brings 4 sticks to him and told them to hold the sticks together and break them. And they were unable to do so. Then he told them to break them one by one, and they did it. And so he demonstrated to his sons how if they would stay together noone would be able to break them.
About the brother saying he is not going to do it for you but for Allah, tell him you aren't asking him to do it for you. But you are only reminding him why he should do it, for Allah. That's just a lame excuse for not wanting to do something.
Sometimes it's pride that makes people not want to take the first step thinking the other person won't accept. In that case, it doesn't matter how the other person may react. And it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Who is it that you are trying to please? The people? Or Allah... And once you've said salaam and done your duty, you leave the rest to Allah. As long as
you have done
your duty, it is enough. And you won't be held accountable. As for the other person, be assured that Allah will deal with them, justly.
And sometimes it may be because they are too angry with what the other person has done and so don't want to forgive them. Well look at the rewards for those who forgive. And that hadith about those who stop arguments even if they are in the right- they get a house in the outskirts/middle of jannah (not sure which way around it was).
There are so many examples. Like the story of that man who used to forgive everyone every night before he went to bed.
And the man who had a slave girl and she was pouring the water for him to do wudu. And some splashed onto him. He was angry at her, and then she recited the ayah [3:134]: 'Wal kaathimeen al ghaith. Wal 3aafeena 3aninnaas. Wallahu yuhibbul muhsineen.' And as she recited the parts of this ayah, one by one, he supressed his anger, forgave her and then set her free and even gave her a gift of 1000 dinars!! Subhanallaah some people when they hear a command from Allah, they obey with no question about it.
May Allah unite us all, Amin.
fi amanillah
mmokay
