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Alpha Dude said:
Sevgi, I understand what you mean. But don't assume I'm not speaking based on my own personal experience, either. I have had my share of hardship and if somebody were to have said the above to me when I was not practicing, I'd have reacted with scorn too.

But, Alhamdulilah, it really DOES make sense now.
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:O

Second time in two days that you've misconstrued what I meant!

Gahh! I have issues with expression..I really do. Sori Alpha...:(

I really meant and assumed no such thing...and I'm sorry my comment sounds as though I am demeaning your advice to the sis. Urgh.
 
Fighting4Iman said:
everyones been through lows and "emptiness" and "darkness" and "sadness"

and the only solace was achieved through patience during such times.
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Maybe this is her version of patience. She is being patient...maybe this is as patient as she can be under the circumstances.

I give you props for not killing yourself sis. As long as you dont do that, it means you still have your head on straight.
 
Alpha Dude said:
Another point is that Allah bestows hardship upon the people he loves in this world, so that they don't have to face it in the hereafter.

Hardship is also a wake-up call. Something that Allah is using to draw you nearer to him.
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Then why have I gone further away from Him? No it's not a test. Having my iman would have been one thing that kept me sane, now I've completely lost it!!

Why would Allah swt want to help me, all I'm doing is complaining and not being thankful for what I have got. And the worst thing is, I can't even help the way I feel or think after going through so much hardship. imsad
 
Alhumdullilah thank you all for replies. I didn't expect anyone to bother replying with the amount of anger and hatred coming from me.

Thank you for putting up with me.

I have tears in my eyes, lump in the throat, brain is dead, can't even see what i'm typing properlt. Tears falling in the keyboard. All hope lost.
 
AnonymousGender said:
Alhumdullilah thank you all for replies. I didn't expect anyone to bother replying with the amount of anger and hatred coming from me.

Thank you for putting up with me.

I have tears in my eyes, lump in the throat, brain is dead, can't even see what i'm typing properlt. Tears falling in the keyboard. All hope lost.
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I hope you read my posts one day.
 
I was in a state of depression and felt the same it comes back now and then and I feel the same that when this is going to end, and when some1 used ask me about it i used to get frustrated and mad at my own friends who just wanted to care. But believe me brother recite this dua and In Shaa Allah you will get relief.
One of the means of treating them is mentioned in the saheeh hadeeth from Ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him): “There is no-one who is afflicted by distress and grief, and says: ‘Allaahumma inni ‘abduka ibn ‘abdika ibn amatija naasyati bi yadika, maada fiyya hukmuka, ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka. As’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghayb ‘indaka an taj’al al-Qur’aana rabee’ qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa’ huzni wa dhihaab hammi (O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your maidservant; my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every name belonging to You which You have named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the Unseen with You, that You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety),’ but Allaah will take away his distress and grief, and replace it with joy.” This is one of the remedies prescribed in sharee’ah.

:statisfie:statisfie:statisfie:statisfie
 
sshussain said:
I was in a state of depression and felt the same it comes back now and then and I feel the same that when this is going to end, and when some1 used ask me about it i used to get frustrated and mad at my own friends who just wanted to care. But believe me brother recite this dua and In Shaa Allah you will get relief.
One of the means of treating them is mentioned in the saheeh hadeeth from Ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him): “There is no-one who is afflicted by distress and grief, and says: ‘Allaahumma inni ‘abduka ibn ‘abdika ibn amatija naasyati bi yadika, maada fiyya hukmuka, ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka. As’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghayb ‘indaka an taj’al al-Qur’aana rabee’ qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa’ huzni wa dhihaab hammi (O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your maidservant; my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every name belonging to You which You have named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the Unseen with You, that You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety),’ but Allaah will take away his distress and grief, and replace it with joy.” This is one of the remedies prescribed in sharee’ah.

:statisfie:statisfie:statisfie:statisfie
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Been reading that for a very long time. I can read all I like, but the decision of whether Allah wants this suffering to end on not lies with Him.
 
And if you believe in Ruqyya, I will advice you to do this:

Take a cup of water, dip your right index finger in the cup.
Bring the cup near your mouth so that the air coming out from your mouth should touch the water, and then recite these ayaats from the Quran:

1) Surah Al-Fatiha
2) From Surah Baqrah-- the first 5 ayaaths, Ayaat-al-Kursi, The last 3 ayaats of Surah Baqrah.
3) Surah Ikhlas, (surah 142)
4)the last two surahs--(Muawwizatyan) the last 2 surahs of holy Quran.

In Shaa Allah, Allah will give you shifa. I just suggested the things which i got shifaa from. And I keep on doing these things when ever I need it.
And we can only tell you to do things but can't really change your condition, its you who can change your condition.
Especially in the state of depression a person feels really very weak and feels like even a slight burden can squish him/her, but its only you who can remove the burden from yourself. Fight back the darkness, let not the state of depression over takes you.
I'm not being sarcastic my brother/sister in faith, but it is that ALLAH WILL NOT CHANGE THE CONDITION OF PEOPLE UNTIL THEY CHANGE THEMSELVES.

And believe me this is one of the most harshest ayaats to me. As I used to think that when I was feeling the need for help and I'm not getting any help :'(.
But that is not the case, Its just your determination in your mind that is taken in to account by Allah and HE the most Mercy full will help you out.

:peace::peace::rollseyes:peace::peace:
 
And if you believe in Ruqyya, I will advice you to do this:

Take a cup of water, dip your right index finger in the cup.
Bring the cup near your mouth so that the air coming out from your mouth should touch the water, and then recite these ayaats from the Quran:

1) Surah Al-Fatiha
2) From Surah Baqrah-- the first 5 ayaaths, Ayaat-al-Kursi, The last 3 ayaats of Surah Baqrah.
3) Surah Ikhlas, (surah 142)
4)the last two surahs--(Muawwizatyan) the last 2 surahs of holy Quran.

In Shaa Allah, Allah will give you shifa. I just suggested the things which i got shifaa from. And I keep on doing these things when ever I need it.
And we can only tell you to do things but can't really change your condition, its you who can change your condition.
Especially in the state of depression a person feels really very weak and feels like even a slight burden can squish him/her, but its only you who can remove the burden from yourself. Fight back the darkness, let not the state of depression over takes you.
I'm not being sarcastic my brother/sister in faith, but it is that ALLAH WILL NOT CHANGE THE CONDITION OF PEOPLE UNTIL THEY CHANGE THEMSELVES.

And believe me this is one of the most harshest ayaats to me. As I used to think that when I was feeling the need for help and I'm not getting any help .
But that is not the case, Its just your determination in your mind that is taken in to account by Allah and HE the most Mercy full will help you out.
 
sshussain said:
And if you believe in Ruqyya, I will advice you to do this:

Take a cup of water, dip your right index finger in the cup.
Bring the cup near your mouth so that the air coming out from your mouth should touch the water, and then recite these ayaats from the Quran:

1) Surah Al-Fatiha
2) From Surah Baqrah-- the first 5 ayaaths, Ayaat-al-Kursi, The last 3 ayaats of Surah Baqrah.
3) Surah Ikhlas, (surah 142)
4)the last two surahs--(Muawwizatyan) the last 2 surahs of holy Quran.

In Shaa Allah, Allah will give you shifa. I just suggested the things which i got shifaa from. And I keep on doing these things when ever I need it.
And we can only tell you to do things but can't really change your condition, its you who can change your condition.
Especially in the state of depression a person feels really very weak and feels like even a slight burden can squish him/her, but its only you who can remove the burden from yourself. Fight back the darkness, let not the state of depression over takes you.
I'm not being sarcastic my brother/sister in faith, but it is that ALLAH WILL NOT CHANGE THE CONDITION OF PEOPLE UNTIL THEY CHANGE THEMSELVES.

And believe me this is one of the most harshest ayaats to me. As I used to think that when I was feeling the need for help and I'm not getting any help .
But that is not the case, Its just your determination in your mind that is taken in to account by Allah and HE the most Mercy full will help you out.
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I went to see someone 2 months ago and he told me someone has given me evil eye!! He told me what to do but I honestly have not got the energy to keep it up. I stopped. I feel weak and exhausted beyond belief and I've come to the point that even I can't help myself.
 
AnonymousGender said:
I can't truely pinpoint it. I'm guessing the way I've been brought up in my broken family has made me the person I am today - a failure in life!!
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what?

you cant be a failure until you've ended your life as a disbeliever.

dont ever think that
 
May be my advice may seem really weird but if you are not married, and are able to do so, then get married. It will help you to get over your depression you will find a new friend for life who you can rely upon and your condition will change. In shaa Allah.:D
 
Sister from all of the replies you have had, we are all sad about your situation, we all truly truly would love to see you better, a couple of my brothers have had depression, one was hard enough, but two.


ive seen beautiful people with beautiful hearts turn into zombies when they get depression, you think why oh why, why them, im even crying now as i write this ,

My big smile hides a of pain, you go around in life thinking why is everyone happy and your not , and you dont even no the reason why.

It seems like your missing a lot of love in your life,

i dont know what i can say to make you happy, but take little steps at a time, i am at the moment,

I make dua with tears in my eyes , for me , you and all those people out there who are going through difficult times,

I always get amazed when i hear there is no sadness in jannah, always happy, always having fun, no problems

And do you know why because thats what makes jannah , Jannah.
 
look sister no one in this life didnt go thru a hardship but some people got the patience to survive in this situation and some got into depression to the point that they loose faith and sometimes you hear a lot of people they even suicide ( die as desbielever). me myself i went thru a period of hardship i looked at it as the end of thee world i was so weak that i thought of killing myself but i sticked to God i wasnt really feeling any pray or dua but i was still doing it i was in period of darkness everything seems the same for me i lost 15 kilo in 1 month i stopped eating drinking sleeping working i was completely exhausted but i was saying dua everyday even though i wasnt sure if its gonna be accepted or not. And suddenly out of nothing a small light appear in the darkiness and my life start getting fixed and now alhamdulilah you can look at my thread you will feel the pain i was leaving. No one got no problem but each of us handle it the way he is. Be patient sister try not to loose faith and do something stupid just keep practising your pray and duaa and after hardship come ease. Sister take as an exam from God his testing your patience and your faith so try to be strong i know what i'm saying may seem a bit stupid for you but all what i want to say that you will be rewarded in jannah after sister. I feel what you feel and we all here for you, you can come and ask us for help anytime try to empty your heart PM if you want dont leave it inside or you will blow up .

salam
 

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