will a muslimah marry a bald guy?

[Questfortruth]

I guess that it comes down to, is what you value in your partner?..
for instance if your husband/wife.. had to undergo chemo for cancer, would you find them less of a person for being diseased and having no hair?

I know this Muslim guy who left his wife because she had cancer. I know some people are disgusting specially guys. Lack of morals I guess.

 

[Banu_Hashim]

nope it shouldnt matter, my bro lost some of his hair and he didnt just get one wife but two mashallah, and i would definately not mind a bald partner

wow.. mashallah. I think it's even encouraged to go bald then?!

 

[جوري]

I know this Muslim guy who left his wife because she had cancer. I know some people are disgusting specially guys. Lack of morals I guess.

That truly aggrieves me.. When I was in grad school a dear friend of mine started losing her hair, she was very self-conscious about it.. she was sick, but didn't have insurance to sort it out and truth is she was kind of scared to have it checked out.. I don't think I could value her any less, but I did noticed how people were treating her like she was contagious, and she would get creative about covering her problem with hats or headbands (she isn't Muslim).
finally receiving rx for her condition unfortunately too late to do anything about the hair loss..

I really can't understand the cruelty of some people on any level, but I have to believe there is something missing in them.. something 'Human' and that is usually a quality attained through hardship and experience..

People who not only despise others for qualities they deem necessary but further go on to harass and hurt them about it, I believe will get theirs one day.. None of us are immune from anything so long as we are alive..


and Allah swt knows best

 

[ahmed_indian]

jazaak Allah khair everybody for their inspiring words

 

[Cabdullahi]

some sisters might be shallow so to save yourself from rejection just say to each sister that at night time just when its midnight ur shiny bald head glows in the dark with a fluorescent colour...something like out of star wars.....and trust me after you say that you should have no problems inshallah

 

[Intisar]

I know this Muslim guy who left his wife because she had cancer. I know some people are disgusting specially guys. Lack of morals I guess.

My grandfather did that to my grandmother when she was dying of cancer, she was also infertile - may Allaah have mercy on her. She was never angry at him. The funny thing was though, he's bald and he's 5'0'' tall.

You shouldn't refuse to marry someone based on something that they have no control over - race, hair colour, eye colour, tribe, a disease etc.

 

[alcurad]

as much as people pretend to the contrary, looks do matter, there is a difference between marrying someone and just accepting them of course, but it remains human nature to value looks, especially when they don't know much about the other person in the first place ie. looks are the only way to make a judgment, which is shallow, but is common too.

 

[Khayal]

salaam all,

of course both men and women prefer good-looking life partners.

but as i am loosing some of my hairs,does that mean i am also loosing the chances of marrying a good-looking muslimah?

Brother.​

Just like you're losing hair, there are probably some muslimahs who are losing hair too, so just pick one of them. Would you marry a "balding" Muslimah? Doubt it, so chances are NO. {but Muslimah would usually still marry men like you }. Don't worry, Allah SWT has written our fate, so you will get one good-looking muslimah if Allah decides for you to get one.​

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[Najm]

You shouldn't refuse to marry someone based on something that they have no control over - race, hair colour, eye colour, tribe, a disease etc.

AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

Yeah people shouldnt!! But they always do!!! People always use their "image" as an indicator. The first thing that happens when a proposal comes through, is you see the person and decide if they are good looking. What a shame, cos image doesnt stay with someone all their life. Ive heard too many proposal, being rejected cos the guy is bold! :muddlehea

Slightly off topic, only last week someone came to tell my sister, a girl got rejected because she has pretty face but her hands were slightly darker!! imsad Anyways good for the girl, cause i wouldnt her to go to such a family!!!

Lets stick to religion and allow culture!


FiAmaaniAllah

 

[ahmed_indian]

Brother.​

Just like you're losing hair, there are probably some muslimahs who are losing hair too, so just pick one of them. Would you marry a "balding" Muslimah? Doubt it, so chances are NO. {but Muslimah would usually still marry men like you }. Don't worry, Allah SWT has written our fate, so you will get one good-looking muslimah if Allah decides for you to get one.​

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yeah...its sad but u r right, women can marry bald guy but guys dont prefer bald women.

but i think may b bcoz we r different...men have combination of genes thru which baldness is possible but women dont.

but if a muslimah wear glasses or is less pretty, insha'allah it wont be problem for me.

 

[جوري]

as much as people pretend to the contrary, looks do matter, there is a difference between marrying someone and just accepting them of course, but it remains human nature to value looks, especially when they don't know much about the other person in the first place ie. looks are the only way to make a judgment, which is shallow, but is common too.

indeed.. but good looks are relative from person to person?.. I might as an individual find someone like brad pit appalling while someone like ivan sergei attractive.. The first (Hitler's dream) and so called most attractive man in the world can actually make someone cringe with a proposal, while the other ah a dream come true..

Bottom line is, we are all made for someone out there.. it is when we choose to define and value beauty through very stringent standards will we end up on a thread like this.

The OP should simply capitalize on his accolades and make his intent to make one sister happy without at the same time imposing the same outlines on her that he doesn't want imposed on his person... at the end it really comes down to a matter of preference so even if rejected I wouldn't take it personally..

and Allah swt knows best

 

[Layla454]

Theres nothing to worry about brother. There are sisters out there who care more about taqwa than a mans hairstyle.

 

[anonymous]

Excellent topic.

Most women would marry a balding man. Would a man marry a woman with severe hair loss, probably not.

Its just so sad..

 

[Najm]

AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

Deen comes 1st! Alhamdulillah!!

FiAmaaniAllah

 

[أبو سليمان عمر]

Not all man akhi just like not all women would marrry a guy with a bold head or is disable
DUA ISTIKFAR AND SABR

 

[The Ruler]

we might not marry a gal who is loosing hair but we always marry girls who are less than us in height

Because if you married women taller than you, it'd be embarrassing. For the woman, to have a teeny weeny husband, and for the husband too have a tall wife.

Nope, won't marry a guy if he's balding... But if the head is shaved and waxed, there are many women who find that attractive. =_=''' Women like shiny surfaces and shiny things. I think. ^o)

 

[GreyKode]

^ You like someone more like the anime characters, aint that so? LOL

 

[The Ruler]

^Madarame Ikkaku

Off-topic? Not entirely. There's a bald man who lost all his hair. But, well... Doesn't particularly look appealing.

Even though I do indulge in fantasies, I know I don't live in a fantasy world. Reality is harsh, and it makes itself known more often than I'd like it to. Tch.

 

[coddles76]

salaam all,

of course both men and women prefer good-looking life partners.

but as i am loosing some of my hairs,does that mean i am also loosing the chances of marrying a good-looking muslimah?

It depends were your priorities lie.....Do you want a good looking muslimah or a righteous and pious muslimah. I suggest you search for the latter and inshAllah you will see her as the most beautiful women to ever exsist on the face of the earth.

 

[zanjabeela]

Many very interesting thoughts in this thread, mashaAllah. I find it fascinating that, while all the sisters were quick to point out to the OP that he has nothing to worry about, many bald guys (OP included, sorry to say), who know what it feels like to be discriminated against for that trivial reason, don't really think a balding Muslimah would be good enough for them. (Although they would be willing to accept other "faults," alhamdulillah.)

Baldness is not a fatal flaw...in either a man or a woman. A real fault would be a woman (or man) lacking character, deen, conscience, humility. Balding? Not a really big deal...so long as there is an abundance of taqwa, which will more than make up for lack of hair.

This really really touched me:

Well its not good enough really, society has alot to answer for to the girls who are losing hair, women with illness and disabilities, these women need someone to marry. If the deeni men are not going to marry these women then who will? People say looks don't matter but that is another big fat lie because we expect women to marry a bald man and for a man not to marry a woman who is bald. Perhaps those women should be left in their parents home for the rest of their lives. imsad

^^ And I belong in the above category so I know exactly how it feels to be left on the shelf and to be rejected by every man.

You're right. Society does have a lot to answer for. To you, dear sis, I say, your reward is with Allah, not with a man or family who thinks you're not "good enough" just because your hair isn't thick enough, or long enough, or whatever. Yes, it is a big fat lie that looks don't matter...when it comes to girls, only those with great amounts of 'ilm find beauty where ordinary men do not. You, inshaAllah, are destined for someone far from ordinary, as are all who have characteristics that are not the norm. :wub: