In the halal supermarket

[Grofica]

I agree... i think what you did was sweet.

Perhaps he looked at your in shock because you dont see people with a genuine want to help anymore. usually people just stare at people stuggling but never offer a hand. I really dont think it has to do with islam at all...

I think more people should offer to help i know it sounds old fashioned but if we all helped our "neighboors" more then the world would be a much better place...

 

[جوري]

That problem could have been solved by me pushing the shopping trolley, and he taking the baby in the buggy.

(Unless I was a shopping snatcher, of course ... but I would have been hard pushed to make a run with that heavy trolley! )

Indeed, except people can't predict what it is you are after?
Too many amber alerts make hospitals put alarm bracelets on babies and most people suspicious of perfectly well intending good Samaritans!

 

[Grofica]

Indeed, except people can't predict what it is you are after?
Too many amber alerts make hospitals put alarm bracelets on babies and most people suspicious of perfectly well intending good Samaritans!

ohhhhhhh Gossamer Sky has another great point i didnt think of...

 

[glo]

Indeed, except people can't predict what it is you are after?
Too many amber alerts make hospitals put alarm bracelets on babies and most people suspicious of perfectly well intending good Samaritans!

Yes, isn't it sad how as a society we have become more and more suspicious of strangers? imsad

Perhaps it's exactly that which puts people off helping others ...

Do people think those tendencies of distrust in our society can be reversed?
And if so, how?

Peace

 

[Grofica]

I am for stronger punishment of crimals... (look at places that have steep penelties.... they have almost no crime rate and tons of people)

and also if everyone everywhere did at least one nice thing every day... it would change...

 

[جوري]

Yes, isn't it sad how as a society we have become more and more suspicious of strangers? imsad

Perhaps it's exactly that which puts people off helping others ...

Do people think those tendencies of distrust in our society can be reversed?
And if so, how?

Peace

I think there is evil since the beginning of time.. brother against brother from Cain and Able..To deny that evil exists is just plain naïveté
There is nothing to reverse this, whenever I went to see any of my niece's and nephews in the hospital, they were kept away from me, even against their parents wishes.. I remember especially with my niece, my brother in law stating he'd bring her to me, and he wasn't allowed to take her out of the newborn nursery... they don't care that he is a doctor or that I am.. it is the rules and they are made to protect children...

surely you remember amongst many others little Megan Kanka

who was raped and murdered and dumped in the garbage by her neighbor, and believe it or not law makers reversed the death penalty in his case so that he is alive eating, drinking from the tax payers dollars, while I shudder to think of this little girl's horrifying last hours...

offering help is good and nice (as well you should always offer).. but what you fear isn't a cultural taboo as you conceive, I have been in that guy's situation and it is a balancing act not to be rude but I certainly wouldn't accept help from a perfect stranger when I have a new born or a child at hand!

at the airport alone with heavy luggage I can and have accepted help from any gender or age, with a child in the supermarket from a single woman not accompanied by children or husband, I'd be supremely suspicious ...

all the best

 

[Yanal]

Bismillaj Hair Rahmaan Nara Heem
I did not know about that sister. May Allah never put any human being through suffering like that,Ameen.
Walakum Asalam Warakmatulah Wabarkatuh.

 

[malayloveislam]

I notice that certain Muslims from certain regions do not accept help from different genders. As for me if I am really in need and there is no one there to help except a person of different gender I'll just accept, or kindly refusing by giving reasons.

We South East Asian people are kind of respecting others feeling and will try our best not to humiliate people who offers something, even if we refuse it, we will refuse it in metaphors. That is the matter of culture, you might have to be sensitive with different cultural aspects of different people. Nothing wrong in helping others, that is the sign of humanity and a good attitude. Keep on the good attitude!