D'oh!
Puttar I know you know what I mean so get on with it yaaaaar <_< ;D
lol okay, in my humble opinion, there are four scenarios [starting from the one which will cause the
most cultural barriers and differences to the one which will cause
no cultural barriers and differences]:
Its important to understand this
1. A mixed race marriage, where both partners are used to a different culture. e.g. A Pakistani man who has lived all his life in Pakistan, marries an Arab lady who's lived all her life in an Arab country.
2. A same race marriage, where both partners are used to a different culture. e.g. A Pakistani man who's all his life lived in Pakistan, marries a Pakistani lady who's lived in the U.K all her life.
3. A mixed race marriage, where both partners are used to the same culture. e.g. A Pakistani man who's lived in the U.K all his life, marries an Arab lady who's also lived in the U.K all her life.
4. n lastly, a same race marriage, where both partners are used to, and have the same culture. e.g. Both are Pakistani and have lived all their lives in Pakistan.
Thus; sometimes it can be a mixed race marriage, but doesn't have much cultural differences or problems, and other times it can be a same race marriage, yet can have some cultural differences and problems....etc. Culture can play a big part in marriage, and it can cause serious complications, because you then have two things to get used to: The person you marry,
and their culture. :ermm: And that is why many people prefer to marry from their own culture, because one problem already solved. It should also be noted that marriages between some cultures can cause more cultural problems than marriages between other cultures. Because some cultures have bigger differences between them than other cultures. e.g. the English culture and the Pakistani culture, have a bigger difference than there is between the Pakistani and Indian culture. In the English culture, its very rare to stay with the in-laws and large family systems, whereas in the Pakistani and Indian cultures, living with in-laws and in large family systems is quite common. And if someone is not used to that at all, it can cause a big problem. Also the country, the climate, food etc all matter, especially if it is extremely different from what you are used to, and totally alien to you.:skeleton: So these things have to be taken into consideration also, before choosing to marry someone from a different culture. Another very important thing, in my opinion, is to see, before getting married,
especially if it is a girl who is getting married to someone from a culture wherein u marry the in laws too... is if the in-laws are accepting and happy to have her as part of their family. Because it will make life a hell lot easier. :-[ Having said all that, the criteria for a successful marriage is not whether u marry from the same culture or different, but rather, it depends on how much the couple follow Islam and fear Allaah, their commitment, compatibility, understanding, and love that they have in their marriage.
And Allaah :arabic2: knows best.
and is hard, but again if the couple want to focus on that then its gonna suck it all up eventually. but even then inshaAllah it can still work because in a way the couple have only each other and cant turn to their families who have disowned them lol. It reallllly depends from one case to another but culture should not be a breaking point for marriage
