Mixed-Race Marriages...

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piXie said:
lol was messing. Time for me to disappear now. Remember me in du'aas :wub:
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Without a doubt. Anti Hilwa =P

P.S Mods please dont delete this spam....Its probably been years since piXie spammed any :p
 
I think it is combining the best of both worlds.. I mean the whole point of races is that we learn from one another no? So Allah swt tells us in the Quran...

I don't believe that homogeneity keeps a marriage solid, because you'll always have things to argue about, might not be major but there nonetheless.. if you can't work on culture, then you will also not be able to work on personal habits.. br. 'Abd al-Rahman's post is an excellent one.. we can tell he is indeed ready for marriage...

hope he finds the one insha'Allah

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I think mixed race marriages are a little harder to make work then marrying someone from the same culture, mostly because of the cultural differences.

I think that a family support system is really important so if marrying in a different culture means that your parents will disown you, then you should really think twice before doing so.

But if the parents are ok with it then its there's a few advantages, such as learning a new language, discovering interesting things about a different culture, etc.
 
All of my marriages and those of most of my family have been Mixed race. Up until my generation Divorce was unknown. None of my Aunts Uncles, Grand-parents etc had ever been divorced and all were mixed race marriages. There have been 3 or 4 divorces among the generation that is my Grand Childrens age but considering that is out of several hundred marriages, that isn't any higher and probably lower than the world average.

the only problem we ever had was at family reunions, at least one aunt would try to coordinate the color of the seating arraingments at the dinner table.. We looked like a plaid table cloth and my aunt wanted stripes I think.

I came from a somewhat large family with many cousins, aunts and uncles. Over-all we loved our diversity.
 
Wa alaykum us-Salaam
Hafsah said:
AssalamuAlaykum

Just something I was thinking about.

Do you think Mixed-Race marriages are more likely to fail than those marriages that take places between people of the same race? I dont mean they'd fail in their own right but compared to the latter type of marriage.

Yes...No...maybe? Thoughts please insha'Allah...

Bearing in mind a Mixed-Race marriage would place a great deal of stress on the couple and their relationship...family, in laws, cultural differences/barriers etc

WassalamuAlaykum
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i don’t think it has anything to do with the culture, right? I thought if they are willing to marry outside their culture, then they have to be willing to put every effort into making their marriage work? The same probs that will exist in a same culture marriage will exist in a mixed raced marriage as well...in other words, your gna have problems crop up either way.

^That boils down to the couple themselves, but if we bring things like family (i.e things which are beyond the control of the couple themselves) then this is something else. It depends on what the family is like and what the person in the marriage wants/doesn’t want. So, the best thing to do i think, would be to speak to your potential before your married about things which concern you that you wouldn’t have control over once you’re married. cos once ya married, there's no way out :D

Things such as, what language will the child speak, which country you'll vacation in more, which grandparents will the child be with more or how will time be distributed between them etc.
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Why on earth would someone care what language their kids spoke? I mean why can’t the child learn both languages :?...
 
I am in a mixed-race marriage and it does have its problems when we don't refer back to Islam. For example, I am from a culture where the women are protected and looked after i.e driven here and there so they don't have to get the bus. Family life is very important in the culture I was brought up in. However, in my husband's culture the women are very independent and family life of the wife tends to disappear after marriage. It gets very difficult and upsetting when we clash but InshAllah if we keep referring back to the rules of Islam all will be well InshAllah
 
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I am Indian and married to a French for 10 years. Alhamdulillah I couldn't have asked for a better life partner.
 
Do you want to know good news and great news from mixed-race marriages between Indonesian and White people (Caucasian) ?.

Good news : Their kids are prety and handsome. No wonder if many of them become actor/actress or models.

Great news : Almost all of White people who married Indonesian Muslim or Muslimah becomes Muslim or Muslimah too.
 
I have actually considered trying to find an Indonesian/Malaysian sister to marry as there seems to be faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar less of the nationalism and anti convert/white nonsense from their families. Trouble is, don't know any.
 
Wow I asked this ? awhile back and got only neg reasponses, but i'm glad to see this isn't the case now. I am a proud woman married to a wonderful man for 14 yrs now we deff. come from oppisite sides of the earth. We have had our issues but were strong enough to successfully make it past them. Every yr together just brings us closer and it does get a bit easier as well, but that's just us, i'm not gonna sugar coat it, it is a very hard thing to do. But I believe my husband was brought almost 4000 miles to me for a reason, and i'm greatfull everyday!!!!
 
ardianto said:
Do you want to know good news and great news from mixed-race marriages between Indonesian and White people (Caucasian) ?.

Good news : Their kids are prety and handsome. No wonder if many of them become actor/actress or models.

Great news : Almost all of White people who married Indonesian Muslim or Muslimah becomes Muslim or Muslimah too.
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Very nice quote....lol
 
I used to be against Inter-racial relationships, now...do what you wana do man. It's YOUR life, not anyone else's. If they wana call you names for loving someone who has a different skin color, then shame on them, and forgot them, you are you, and she or he, are she or he, thats all that matters. I like a black girl, and would do anything for her, I do not care that she's black, it's the fact that she is my friend. As I heard in a great movie

"When you're alone late at night in bed, just you and her under the covers, that's all that matters" -Sonny, A Bronx Tale. That's about a Italian kid who loves a black girl, and this is when racial tension was extremely high.
 
Clover said:
I used to be against Inter-racial relationships, now...do what you wana do man. It's YOUR life, not anyone else's. If they wana call you names for loving someone who has a different skin color, then shame on them, and forgot them, you are you, and she or he, are she or he, thats all that matters. I like a black girl, and would do anything for her, I do not care that she's black, it's the fact that she is my friend. As I heard in a great movie

"When you're alone late at night in bed, just you and her under the covers, that's all that matters" -Sonny, A Bronx Tale. That's about a Italian kid who loves a black girl, and this is when racial tension was extremely high.
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I used to be oppossed to them as well as I was brought up that it was a sin to marry outside ones race. Of course after reading the Bible (NT) that is not the case at all. What is important is that it is believers entering into the marraige.
 
I would not be against it if the partner was to convert,then by all means it would be great to merge two heritages together and form to different families from different cultures into one. It would be fascinating and interesting for me.
 
Alpha Jr said:
I would not be against it if the partner was to convert,then by all means it would be great to merge two heritages together and form to different families from different cultures into one. It would be fascinating and interesting for me.
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I am 3/4 Irish and my husband is of Welsh ancestry so we share different but similar orgins. I would prefer that my son marry someone of Irish or British descent, but I would rather him marry a decent religious woman whatever her skin color.
 
Exactly what I am trying to say! Ditto! Religious over other stuff. Everyone should understand tht concept.
 
I wouldn't really care my girl's religion, as long as she didn't hate mine, and she wasn't worshipping one of the draconian lords, where you sacrifice your husband, or anything like that.
 
Clover said:
I wouldn't really care my girl's religion, as long as she didn't hate mine, and she wasn't worshipping one of the draconian lords, where you sacrifice your husband, or anything like that.
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Ah yes that would be important to know lol

I think if you are both the same religion but different culture, the religion will always bring you together InshAllah
 

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